No more grapes – supporting a loved one through ill health

Over the last four years I have shared countless posts with you about my health struggles, including my many visits to hospital, scans and procedures. It’s been incredibly hard at times to manage hospital stays with four children, three of whom are still so small, and yet I have been very lucky to have the support of my family and friends around me. During a year where it is inevitable that I will undergo surgery on my back, I have been worrying about a prolonged hospital stay, and the subsequent recovery, and for that reason I was thankful to be introduced to the website, nomoregrapes.

 

 

For those who haven’t heard of nomoregrapes before, the idea was to create a website for people who are ill, in care or recovery, to connect with the family and friends they’d like to have around them. We all know that it can be difficult to know what to say, or how to act, around someone who is unwell and yet when people understand exactly what you are going through, they are so much better able to help.

That’s where the idea for nomoregrapes came in, creating a kind of social network where people can share thoughts, ideas, learning and information. And most importantly a place where you, or a loved one, never feels alone.

 

I have personally found that those close to me are unsure in how best to help me. For some they try to help me out with the children, for others they offer to sit with me on the days when I am housebound or dealing with pain, and for others who know me far too well, they send me chocolate, make me laugh and remind me that things will get better in time. nomoregrapes makes it easier for people to be helpful to one another, for the important things to be shared and for support to be given where and when it’s best.

nomoregrapes brings together those people who want to be there for a loved one, even when they physically can’t. I love that through the site you can check in to a calendar, where those suffering from illness can upload crucial and challenging times, such as an operation, a scan, or receiving results, so others can check in with a few words of love and support, or choose an item from their Wish List that may be not only practical, but well received.

The nomoregrapes shop is genius, featuring six categories – practical, fun, body and soul, treats, distractions and most popular. From Net Flix gift cards to premier meal plans, oven cleaning to beautiful jewellery, there are so many options to really make a difference to someone’s life who is dealing with illness.

I recently signed up for a nomoregrapes account and found it incredibly easy to get started. It’s 100% free to use, works on all devices, and is as simple as inviting your friends and family to your inner circle, and choosing what you would like to share with them. For those who are stuck in hospital for prolonged periods, you can share photographs, regular updates, hospital visiting times and personalised calendars. It is very much like other social networks in terms of sharing updates, but where as we all have random friends from school or ex colleagues from twenty years ago, this is a safe haven to share the reality of our illnesses, with those whom we love and trust. I think it’s an amazing idea.

nomoregrapes also donates a share of all profits made through the shop to like-minded charities, which help people through illness – Macmillan cancer support, Maggies and Penny Brohn UK.

 

And as much as I love grapes, I’m hopeful that later in the year when I’m flat on my back, praying for a swift recovery, I can surround myself with my friends and family, like my own little private team of cheer leaders, and ensure that when they pop in to visit me, they’ll know exactly what to expect, at the correct visiting times, bringing me something a little more exciting than grapes!

 

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72 Comments

  1. April 12, 2018 / 11:10 pm

    This sounds like such a great website it can be so hard to know what to do to help a family member going through a bad time and this really offers some practical as well as fun ideas.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:38 pm

      I agree, I love the gift ideas! xx

  2. April 13, 2018 / 1:07 pm

    That sounds like a brilliant website. As you said it seems more private than other places to share updates and to keep friends and close family informed of progress or visiting hours.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:27 pm

      Yes I always think everyone needs a visiting rota too!xx

  3. April 13, 2018 / 3:35 pm

    I like this it would be good if they could spread word in the hospitals so more people can hear about this website.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:24 pm

      Yes I agree, that’s a great idea! xx

  4. April 13, 2018 / 6:11 pm

    What a great idea! It is such a difficult time, as you know, and it must be really reassuring to use a site like this.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:24 pm

      I think it will be so helpful to others! xx

  5. April 13, 2018 / 9:01 pm

    I LOVE this idea! There has been so many times in my life that I would have loved this for myself and for close friends. Chocolate is on fast track delivery 🙂 xx

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:22 pm

      It’s fab isnt it? Who doesn’t need chocolate! xx

  6. April 13, 2018 / 9:50 pm

    That sounds like a great concept. And yes, that’s one of my greatest fears too, being far from family, if me or my husband (knocks on wood) needs to go to hospital, we don’t really have any family near by to help us. Will check this one out!

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:22 pm

      Its a real worry isn’t it! This helps others feel far less lonely. xx

  7. April 14, 2018 / 6:50 pm

    Good luck with your operation. I had surgery last year and it took me longer than I anticipated to feel better. Having a way of letting those around you know what help you need sounds brilliant x

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:19 pm

      Sorry to hear that, I’m hoping I find this helpful! xx

  8. April 14, 2018 / 7:37 pm

    My mummy sure could have done with this when she was in hospital last year! Sounds like a great source of support. What a fantastic idea and we’ll be looking into it x

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:18 pm

      Its a great idea and so helpful for those in hospital! xx

  9. April 15, 2018 / 6:38 am

    Nomoregrapes sounds like a really great idea, really helpful for people in that situation. Also, I wish you a speedy recovery after the surgery!

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:14 pm

      Thank you Victor! xx

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:13 pm

      Thank you! xx

  10. April 15, 2018 / 10:05 am

    This is such a great concept, thanks for sharing about nomoregrapes …it sounds like the kind of website which offers great support for people when they are faced with illness and their shop sounds so amazing as well.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:13 pm

      The shop is a genius idea! xx

  11. April 15, 2018 / 10:24 am

    That’s such a good idea for a website, I think it’s nice for people to know that they’ve always got someone to talk to x

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:13 pm

      I totally agree! xx

  12. April 15, 2018 / 10:53 am

    i have never heard of this website before but thank you for sharing!! I love that there is support like this out there!

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:12 pm

      Thank you! xx

  13. April 15, 2018 / 11:20 am

    What a great idea – it’s so difficult when you visit to know what to say and what not to say so that you don’t put your foot in it. Being able to ask for exactly what you need from people must make a great difference and being able to connect with them in a more private way than Facebook is very useful.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:12 pm

      I think it’s so helpful to those who are unwell and their families too isn’t it! xx

  14. April 15, 2018 / 2:15 pm

    What a lovely idea, fingers crossed it will help you when you have your surgery later in the year

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:11 pm

      Thank you! xx

  15. April 15, 2018 / 4:44 pm

    I am admire your strength and wish all the best in every single day in your life!

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:10 pm

      Thank you! xx

  16. April 15, 2018 / 5:22 pm

    This is a great idea, I like that you can add people to it that you want to share information about your health with easily and quickly. I hope your back op goes well, I had a prolapsed disc surgery in Oct and this would have been good for my friends and family to know what I really could have done with help with

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:10 pm

      Thank you Stephanie, I am hoping it helps others to know how to help me! xx

  17. April 15, 2018 / 5:24 pm

    What an awesome website, a great idea, and a good testament to sharing is caring.
    Having worked closely with the healthcare sector, I know that patient-centric groups do more than what they are given credit for.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:09 pm

      Its such a great idea isn’t it! xx

  18. April 15, 2018 / 6:13 pm

    what an amazing blog post 🙂 it is a great idea. I hope for the best in your life 🙂 thank you so much for sharing 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:08 pm

      Thank you! xx

  19. Dannii
    April 15, 2018 / 7:15 pm

    That sounds like such an amazing website. There really is a social media for everyone and every thing.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:07 pm

      Its great isn’t it?! xx

  20. April 16, 2018 / 7:22 am

    What an amazing post, sounds like a great idea! Best wishes with everything
    Xo, Sondra
    Cuisineandtravel.com

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:05 pm

      Thank you! xx

  21. April 16, 2018 / 7:50 am

    I didn’t know about this site but what a great idea. We all have to support someone through something in life at some point and it’s nice to have a place to go to for help/support.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:05 pm

      It’s such a good idea! xx

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:04 pm

      I agree, its a great site! xx

  22. Minakshi Bajpai
    April 16, 2018 / 9:24 am

    Sounds like a great concept. Sharing is caring.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:04 pm

      Thank you! xx

  23. April 16, 2018 / 3:25 pm

    Great post and loved reading it. I love the concept.. Very much informative.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 6:02 pm

      Thank you Suja! xx

  24. April 16, 2018 / 7:36 pm

    This sounds like a great website. When a family member is poorly, it can be hard to know what to do for the best. This website would make it so much easier for everyone involved.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 5:58 pm

      Its fab isn’t it? Such a great help to those unwell! xx

  25. Heather
    April 17, 2018 / 5:48 am

    What a great way to support loved ones near and far. I have to be honest that I didn’t quite get the grapes connection, but I know there are certainly times when you’ve had too much of a good thing.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 5:52 pm

      Over here people bring you grapes when you are unwell, its just a popular thing to do! xx

  26. April 17, 2018 / 9:06 am

    I like this concept of helping site! I think i will recommend it to many of my friends. This was s nice reading.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 17, 2018 / 5:48 pm

      Thank you! xx

  27. April 17, 2018 / 6:50 pm

    This is an absolutely brilliant idea and I’m a bit surprised it hasn’t been created a lot sooner. I love that you can upload photos and information and that only the people who really care about you/you really care about can see all the information. You’re right – Facebook and other sites like it have the disadvantage that old friends (possible enemies?!), ex’s and nosey people are always able to get a glimpse into your life. With something so personal, it is great to be able to limit that !

  28. April 17, 2018 / 10:34 pm

    I know being able to reach out to people in similar situations can be so beneficial. I know when dealing with mental illness it has helped a lot to know others who cope with similar situations. It’s a life saver really.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 18, 2018 / 9:03 am

      Oh me too David! It’s a great idea! xx

  29. April 18, 2018 / 1:15 am

    What a great website. I didn’t know about it. I love it when the web is used for the good of those who need it, instead of the opposite.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 18, 2018 / 9:01 am

      Yes me too! Great idea! xx

  30. blair villanueva
    April 18, 2018 / 3:58 am

    The good thing about the digital age is that we can now connect and build our own network of peers with common interests and goals. I like the idea of this website. Will check them thoroughly.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 18, 2018 / 8:59 am

      I agree, it’s a great way to connect! xx

  31. Ally Jones
    April 18, 2018 / 5:19 am

    This sounds like such a cool concept! I cannot wait to check it out

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 18, 2018 / 8:59 am

      It’s fab Ally! Such a useful resource! xx

  32. April 18, 2018 / 5:29 am

    I like the concept of this website. I agree with what you said, we should be in touch with our loved ones during thid time because that’s when they need us. Do they have an app?

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 18, 2018 / 8:58 am

      Yes they do Waren! xx

  33. Khushboo
    April 18, 2018 / 5:35 pm

    This looks like a great website. Can’t wait to check that website.. Thanks for sharing

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 20, 2018 / 11:05 pm

      Its such a fab idea! xx

  34. April 19, 2018 / 1:56 pm

    What a fabulous website for connecting and supporting people who are going through a difficult time. I really hope you are feeling much better soon. Good luck with the surgery.

    • Laura Dove
      Author
      April 20, 2018 / 10:54 pm

      Thank you Emma! xx

  35. April 30, 2018 / 9:22 am

    Firstly, good luck with your surgery. I had to have minor surgery on my back 5 years ago and it sucked! I love the sound of nomoregrapes though, it’s great that it keeps friends and family connected when a loved one isn’t at their greatest and needing support x

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