The first time ever I saw your face…

I share photos of my children every single day on Facebook, on Instagram and here on my blog.  I am so fiercely proud of all of my children, not only of how beautiful they are but also how sweet, kind and funny they are too. I take thousands of photos to capture the essence of their characters, their personalities shining through on each one, and I store them all away to look back on as they grow. And I will show photos of my children to just about anyone, to perfect strangers I meet at parties, to women I get chatting to in toilets on a night out, to random people whos paths cross mine. I have become that person!  Because, and I think all parents will agree, there is nothing nicer than having somebody compliment you on your children, to reinforce what you already know. That they are utterly perfect.

So I guess the thing that bothers me the most is that whilst I am sharing photos of four of my children, there is one little boy whose  photos are hidden away, never shared, never seen. And I really struggle with that. I may share a photo of his perfect little toes, or his tiny little hands, but never do I share a photo of the most beautiful little face you could ever see. And why is that? For it is certainly not because I do not wish to share his photos, I would happily show them to anyone who wanted to see. Ultimately, it is because it makes other people feel really uncomfortable, the look on their faces says it all, and that’s very hard to accept.

After Joseph first died I had photos of him all over our home, framed by the side of the bed and on the mantelpiece. And I noticed that when visitors came over they would quickly divert their eyes from his photo, looking anywhere but at my little boy, and that really hurt. When we moved house and packed away all of those photos, I didn’t unpack them in the new house to display again. They were kept in a drawer by the side of my bed, for my own personal viewing, as I didn’t want to make any guests feel uncomfortable. And it feels massively insulting to me, that a baby whom I am so proud of makes others feel that way. I can remember showing his photo to a family member, not long after he had died, who told me, “Oh you can tell there was something wrong with him!”. And comments like that made me feel so ashamed of his photos, as though he was so abhorrent that they should be hidden away and kept private.

A few years ago I shared a post on Facebook, not photos of Joseph, but a link to a photographer who had shared photos of stillborn babies. The photos were so beautiful and such precious memories for their parents to treasure. So to then see a passive aggressive post on a friends status, “Does not want to see dead babies on my news feed!!” had taken me aback and I was so shocked as, to me, these are not photos of dead babies at all. These are photos of our sons and our daughters. They are not harrowing images of babies cast aside in a gutter on the streets of China, nor are they grotesque images of babies suffering horrific deaths in war torn countries. They are babies in arms, lovingly wrapped in a blanket and cradled. They are the moments that you and I shared with all of our children, the first glimpse, the first cuddle. They are snap shots of moments that we will cling to for the rest of our lives. They are quite simply, all that we have.

And I do know of several ladies whose babies were stillborn who do not wish to share their photos with anyone. They believe that these thing are private, that those photos are special just for them, that there is no need for others to see their child. And I completely understand how some people may deal with their loss that way, but, for me, stillbirth isn’t something that should be kept a secret, packed away and never spoken about again. It is the stigma of stillbirth that makes us believe that we should act that way, that wants us to sweep it under the carpet and act as though our babies never existed.

A new friend recently asked me could she see a photo of Joseph and it absolutely made my day. For somebody to want to see a photo of my child, despite the fact that she herself was pregnant and it must have been hugely emotional, really made me happy. And I did show her, with complete and utter pride, and when she told me that he was beautiful, I felt like the proudest Mummy alive. Because that’s all we want to hear isn’t it? That’s all that needs to be said.

Because he was perfect, and I’m not ashamed of him, not in any way whatsoever. And as the years have gone on I feel I have got to a point where I have to say, so what if I offend other people? So what if they feel uncomfortable? This is my child and I have every right to share his photo just as the rest of you do with your own children.

But actually, when it comes down to it, I do feel a little nervous about sharing a photo of Joseph with you all. I have shared so much through my blog already, laid my heart on the line, bared my soul and my darkest secrets. But the thought that some of you may read this and feel uncomfortable, horrified or offended, that really is quite nerve wracking for me. I would hope that those of you who do look at his photo will realise that actually, there is nothing scary about stillbirth. He is simply a baby, sleeping.

I apologise to anybody who may find a photo of my son upsetting but if you do not wish to see, then you do not need to look.

This is my son.

And he was utterly perfect.



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  1. March 22, 2016 / 7:05 pm

    I’m at a loss for words…you’re so
    I have tears streaming down my face for you and your gorgeous little boy. He just looks like he’s sleeping, and he’s absolutely perfect. That gorgeous little face and button nose…
    It’s utterly heartbreaking but I’m so glad you shared this and you’re right, nobody should judge grief.
    This is something nobody should have to experience and I’m so sad for you all.
    Sending all my love to you.xx

    • March 22, 2016 / 7:06 pm

      Thank you so much, I actually felt sick when I pressed the “share” button as for such a long time I have felt that I should hide away his little face. He WAS perfect wasn’t he? And anyone who finds him anything other than that needs not look. Thank you for reading my lovely. xxx

      • March 22, 2016 / 7:24 pm

        I can imagine you felt sick – you couldn’t lay yourself any more bare but it’s so important for you to do this, and I’m sure others who have gone through this will completely understand.
        Anyway, this is your little space on the World Wide Web, you write what you want to write and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks.
        He was perfect. Little Joseph is so loved by you all and that will never change.
        As I said, I think you’re very brave and anyone that doesn’t want to look, that’s their prerogative. You didn’t want to have to see this either but those are the cards you were dealt and this is how you’re dealing with it.
        So many hugs to

        • March 22, 2016 / 7:31 pm

          Thank you, that is so true. I think it’s so important for people to see that stillbirth isn’t scary, they are still just babies, just like yours and mine. I’m sure there will be some who find it too painful to look at but as you say, I live with this pain every single day and I shouldn’t have to hide away one of my children for others benefit. Thanks again. xx

  2. March 22, 2016 / 7:10 pm

    I wonder if some of those guests averted their eyes because they weren't sure what exactly to say.
    I don't know how I would be if I ever had a loss, but I feel like I would be the person displaying pictures.
    Your little boy existed. His picture should have a place on the wall with his siblings.

  3. Michele
    March 22, 2016 / 7:36 pm

    You’re right Laura, he’s beautiful, absolutely perfect. Thank you for sharing him with us xxxxx

    • March 22, 2016 / 7:37 pm

      Thank you so, so much. xxx

  4. March 22, 2016 / 7:40 pm

    Thank you for sharing with us, he’s gorgeous x Your message is so important. I’m glad I got a chance to pop by today.

    • March 22, 2016 / 7:51 pm

      Thank you so much for reading. Means a lot. xx

  5. March 22, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    Ahhh Laura, he’s lovely. I felt so teary reading this post. I can not begin to imagine how you coped with the loss of Joseph but I think you’re right, he should be remembered with photos because that’s all you have. I have several friends who have gone through the same thing and they all treasure and post photos. If others can’t handle it then that’s THEIR problem.
    I was talking to my mum today whose cousin had a twin that died soon after birth but has never been able to track down where she was buried because 40 or 50 years ago babies that died were treated so differently. Even her own father didn’t know where she was buried. That’s shocking and terrible to think of now. Keep remembering and posting your photos. xxx

    • March 22, 2016 / 7:58 pm

      Thank you so much. I know that my ex husbands Nana had a baby who was stillborn and he/she was simply taken from her and that was that. She never got to see them or not the sex, and the babies were simply thrown into the grave of whoever had died that week. It’s horrific, thank god that things have changed. Xx

  6. March 22, 2016 / 8:04 pm

    So beautifully written but so heartbreakingly sad. He is gorgeous with the most perfect button nose. Be proud, be so very proud x

    • March 22, 2016 / 8:10 pm

      Thank you so much. I am so, so proud. Always. Xxx

  7. Emma Lambert
    March 22, 2016 / 8:19 pm

    What a beautifully written post. Baby Joseph was absolutely perfect, I’m so sorry for your loss Laura xx

    • March 22, 2016 / 8:30 pm

      Thank you Emma. He truly was. xxx

  8. March 22, 2016 / 8:29 pm

    Adorable and absolutely perfect xx

  9. March 22, 2016 / 9:00 pm

    Such a sweet perfect little boy. I’m so sorry for your loss but am happy that you finally felt comfort in sharing his memory like you wanted. He is beautiful.

    • March 22, 2016 / 9:07 pm

      Thank you so much. Just to hear others say that means the world to me. Xx

  10. March 22, 2016 / 9:03 pm

    What a beautiful little boy. I’m sorry for your loss and I’m so happy that you’re keeping his memory alive xxxx #bigpinklink

    • March 22, 2016 / 9:08 pm

      Thank you. It’s a huge comfort to share his memory on my blog. Xx

  11. Lynsey
    March 22, 2016 / 9:16 pm

    I had a friend who last year gave birth to her sleeping baby and when I went to the hospital I got to hold and meet her little boy. Others made comments about her situation as well however I felt extremely privileged to meet him. It meant I could support her as a friend should. She openly talks about him and shares her pictures with us. Joseph will always be a part of you and should be remembered through photographs and memories of when you met him for the first time. X

    • March 22, 2016 / 9:45 pm

      I am so sorry to hear about your friends baby, how devastating. I am so glad that you were there for your friend and went to meet her little boy. You sound like an amazing friend. Thank you so much for reading. Xx

  12. March 22, 2016 / 9:19 pm

    Beautiful. A gorgeous sleeping beauty. It’s lovely to put a face to the feet, hands and name. I love this post and I love your pride in all your scrumptious children. Lucy xxxx

    • March 22, 2016 / 9:48 pm

      Thank you so much. That means a lot to me. Xxx

  13. March 22, 2016 / 10:10 pm

    No one should ever make you feel like you should hide him away. He is your son. He is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing his photograph. Such a moving post xxx

    • March 22, 2016 / 10:12 pm

      Thank you so much, for reading and your lovely comment. Xx

  14. March 23, 2016 / 12:33 pm

    Oh, Laura, it’s heartbreaking, but it is not disturbing. He looks like he is sleeping, and he is very, very beautiful. Also, in my opinion, this is your loss and it is not for anyone else to tell you what you can share of it. It isn’t your responsibility to protect other people. We all ultimately have the choice not to read, not to look and not to listen if we don’t want to. Though, personally, if someone wants me and anyone else to hear about and see their beloved baby, then I would like to do so – after all that is the only thing you can really do for someone in that situation, you can’t make it better, but you can listen. I am glad that you have your photos – he was perfect, as you say.

    • March 23, 2016 / 4:06 pm

      Thank you so much lovely, that really does mean so much to me. This blog is about ALL of my children and so it feels only right that I share my memories of Joseph, and his photos, and the heartbreaking truth is that this is all I have, so it’s this….or nothing? I’m so touched that his photo has been so well received, has really made me happy. xxx

  15. anywaytostayathome
    March 23, 2016 / 1:04 pm

    I for one am really glad you have shared a picture of your handsome son. It is yours to share. Whilst I may be crying that is more because I feel bad that you ever worried about making other people uncomfortable, when they should have been worrying about making you comfortable. Oh and I cry at everything, there’s that too!! Sending love and hugs. xx #TheBabyFormula

    • March 23, 2016 / 3:07 pm

      Ahh thank you so much, that’s really so sweet of you. These comments have honestly made me so happy. Xxx

  16. March 23, 2016 / 5:28 pm

    I’m glad you shared with us all. It must feel horrible for people to not want to to see Joseph when he is your son. He does just look like he is asleep. That was my first thought. And so beautiful and peaceful. I hope people so look at him and see this too. Brave post to share and thanks for doing so with #bestandworst xx

    • March 23, 2016 / 5:31 pm

      Thank you Sarah. I always admit that when I first gave birth to Joseph I was absolutely terrified to look at him, I was so scared of what he might look like. It was only when I dared to open my eyes that I realised that he looked no different to my other children, just sleeping so very soundly. I wish I had known there was nothing to be afraid of, and I wish I had been braver over the years and shared his photos more readily. Thank you for reading and for hosting, as always. Xxx

  17. March 23, 2016 / 6:52 pm

    As a mum who lost a little boy too I can totally relate to your post and shocked and saddened by some of the reactions you got. I’m not on facebook for similar reasons. Oliver will never be forgotten, just like Joseph won’t, and we’ll always have photos of him in our house regardless of what people think.
    Lots of love x #bestandworst

    • March 23, 2016 / 8:59 pm

      I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your little boy, I just had a look and he was absolutely adorable! I have no idea how you survive that, I’m sure, like me, you ask yourself the same question each day.
      People can be so cruel can’t they? As devastating as it was to lose Joseph, I am grateful that it made me a much more understanding and sympathetic person. I would never judge how another parent grieves or find a photo of a precious baby anything other than beautiful. Thank you so much for reading. Xxx

  18. March 23, 2016 / 9:19 pm

    I’m so sorry to read about your loss and the awful comments you’ve had to deal with. Your strength, courage and pride in every single one of your children is so obvious in this post, thank you for sharing. #bestandworst

    • March 23, 2016 / 9:25 pm

      Thank you. I am so proud of my children, all five of them. It saddens me that I have so little to share about Josephs short life and yet what I do have, it is an honour to share with you all. Xx

  19. March 23, 2016 / 9:24 pm

    Hi Laura,
    I’m 100% behind you in being proud of your beautiful son. I think it is sometimes all too easy for others to forget those babies were real children, that we carried, loved, delivered, held in our arms and kissed goodnight, because they cannot visualise them.
    Thank you xxx

    • March 23, 2016 / 9:27 pm

      Thank you so much. You have hit the nail on the head there. For so many, in their heads, a “still born baby” was not a “real baby”. I hope that this photo shows those people that these babies were, and are, every bit as real as the babies we were lucky enough to take home. I also hope that it shows others that there is nothing to be scared of at looking at babies born sleeping. They are every bit as perfect as those born kicking and screaming. Thanks again for your lovely supportive comment. Xxx

  20. March 24, 2016 / 1:12 pm

    He is just perfect. Like you say, utterly perfect, and I feel privileged to have seen this picture of your precious boy. I think, as somebody else commented, some people haven’t yet worked out how they feel about death, and to hide their feelings, they can make ridiculous and inappropriate comments. I would be the sort of person who would ask to see a picture, and want to hear you chat about him-a treasured member of your family. But for those not comfortable with the concept, that is for them to work through, and doesn’t mean you should protect them by putting pictures of Joseph away. I hope you continue to share your beautiful boy. Thank you so much for sharing with #bigpinklink

  21. March 24, 2016 / 1:54 pm

    Laura this is such an emotional and brave post which brought tears to my eyes. Joseph is beautiful and please show your pictures with pride. What a lovely Mummy you are. Sending lots of love x

    • March 24, 2016 / 2:03 pm

      Thank you so much, I am so touched by how lovely you have all been. It’s an honour to share him with you all. Xxx

  22. March 24, 2016 / 4:33 pm

    I am really not good with saying the right words a lot of times and I am wishing that I would say the right words this time. He is beautiful. Every photo is lovely and I am sure cherished forever as this is the short moment that you were able to touch and see him. I am a mother and when I see his photos I ache because I can only imagine how hard it is to lose a child. #MadMidWeek

    • March 25, 2016 / 8:28 pm

      And that is all you need to say, thank you so much. xxx

  23. March 25, 2016 / 9:06 am

    Beautiful Joseph – and so many more beautiful pictures and moments missed. I love your writing, it always is what I feel but worded far more eloquently.
    I had pics everywhere too and it was a similar reaction. I am working on a large frame/collage now as a little memory to Poppy. x

    • March 25, 2016 / 8:27 pm

      Thank you Mary. Sometimes there just are no words are there? I’m going to re-frame all of my photos and hang them everywhere, and why not? Thanks for reading. xxx

  24. March 25, 2016 / 10:22 am

    This post just ripped my heart out – as I read your post, I was thinking I do hope you will share a picture of Joseph and you did – Beautiful Joseph indeed. He is very much a part of you as your other children. I am very much touched by your post and honoured that you are sharing your journey with us. Thanks for sharing with #abitofeverything

    • March 25, 2016 / 8:26 pm

      Aww thank you honey, I’m so glad that you wanted me to share this photo, I would hate to think that anyone would read about him and not want to see his little face. Thank you for being so lovely. xxx

  25. March 26, 2016 / 6:53 pm

    Beautiful post and lovely photos of a precious little soul. My friend carried her baby to full term and had a still born little girl. I still look at photos of her. It is nothing to be ashamed of and I don’t understand why people wouldn’t want to see a photo of a gorgeous little baby who was born to play with the stars in the sky. I love this post so much and wish more people would share photos of their little bright stars. Lots of love and thank you for linking up #abitofeverything xxx

    • March 27, 2016 / 4:26 pm

      Oh I’m so sorry to hear about your friends daughter, how utterly devastating. I agree, I wish more people would share their photos so that more people would realise that there is nothing to be scared of. Thank you so much for reading. xx

  26. newmummyblogcom
    March 26, 2016 / 8:55 pm

    Oh Laura, I feel terrible reading your post, some people are so inconsiderate, I really feel so terrible that people should make you want to hide your gorgeous son’s photos, it’s none of their business, it’s your home and your son. I’ve known for some time how proud you are of all your children, and that pride shines through your post. Joseph is so well remembered and you’re right you have to live your life as you want, cope how you cope, and smile when you want to smile. A beautiful boy, thank you for sharing on #theBabyFormula

    • March 27, 2016 / 4:28 pm

      Ahh thank you so much, that really does mean so much. I think it’s fear for a lot of people isn’t it? They don’t want to see something that makes their fears all the more real, but for us grieving parents, it can be really hurtful. Thanks for reading. xxx

  27. mumzilla
    March 26, 2016 / 9:16 pm

    He is perfect, and you are so brave. He must be so proud of you xxx

    • March 27, 2016 / 4:30 pm

      Thank you so much, I really hope that he is. xxx

  28. rightroyalmother
    March 27, 2016 / 6:55 am

    I read this last night (Easter Sat) and it definitely wasn’t the sugar comedown that made me cry and cry. Have been thinking about it a lot in the early hours too as the clocks go forward and I sit listening to my children waking up. What an incredibly brave post and one I hope millions and millions of people read! I think I just tweeted that Joseph ‘was’ beautiful but that’s wrong and I’m sorry: he ‘is’ beautiful and obviously very much part of your family. Thank you so much for sharing the photograph. He is, as mumzilla says above, perfect. xxx

    • March 27, 2016 / 4:31 pm

      Ahh thank you so much. I’m so sorry that it made you cry, but it’s always lovely to know that someone was thinking of my boy. Thank you for reading. xxx

      • rightroyalmother
        March 27, 2016 / 7:07 pm

        I’m glad it did! It is a beautiful post. Hope you had a great day today and happy Easter. xxx

        • March 28, 2016 / 6:13 pm

          Happy Easter to you too. xxx

  29. March 28, 2016 / 9:14 am

    What a beautiful post and a beautiful little boy. You should never be ashamed of photos of him – he was a little person and should always be remembered. If people have a problem with it then tough – it’s their problem! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    • March 28, 2016 / 6:17 pm

      Thank you so much, that’s exactly the attitude that I need to adopt, comments like these have really reminded me of that. xxx

  30. March 29, 2016 / 9:12 pm

    Oh gosh, this post gave me goosebumps and I am actually sat here crying. Joseph is beautiful, he just looks like he is asleep. I feel so bad people have made you feel like you can’t display a picture of your son in your own home. Thank you for sharing it with us all, it was very brave.xx #mg

    • March 29, 2016 / 9:29 pm

      Ahh thank you Wendy, I’m so sorry to have made you cry but thank you. Means a lot. Xx

  31. mackenzieglanville
    March 29, 2016 / 10:55 pm

    I first saw that little hand and those gorgeous toes and I was in awe of the cuteness and as I read your post I went through a range of emotions, I couldn’t believe what was said to you and how you were made to feel, my heart broke for you. When I reached the bottom and saw his beautiful face I could not stop looking at how perfect he was, it must have been so hard to have to ever let him out of your arms. He is perfect! I feel so proud of you, I can not imagine how nervous you felt posting this, but you did it and I am so glad you did, he is your son, part of your beautiful family always, he will always be loved and missed xx

  32. March 30, 2016 / 5:36 am

    So much of what we deal with is second guessing other people’s reactions and it gets tiring.

    We had a similar discussion when it came to selling our home about whether we should hide the photos or the urn during viewings. We decided to keep them.on show. It was still our home and they are still part of the family.

    The last bit is important. As you say, for many of us these photos are all we have to remind us that they were here, that they exist and they matter.

    Thank you for sharing.


  33. Jenny @ Let's Talk Mommy
    March 31, 2016 / 7:54 am

    I agree with you and can’t relate but also feel that is our sons and daughters that is a baby who was loved, carried and cared for and those moments you had with him were the most precious in all the world. You are so brave and strong for standing up and saying wait a minute it’s not dead babies in our news feeds these are precious loved moments for those parents. Your gorgeous little boy, good for you for showing him off. Thanks for linking up to Share With me #sharewithme

    • March 31, 2016 / 6:43 pm

      Thanks Jenny. It was a really tough post to share but from the reaction, I am SO glad that I did. Everyone has been so lovely, and all I ever wanted to hear, all ANY parent ever wants to hear, is that he was a beautiful baby. I am such a proud mummy. Thanks for hosting. xxx

  34. reimerandruby
    April 2, 2016 / 6:36 pm

    I felt emotional reading your post and as soon as I see your beautiful little boy, I was teary eyed… As a parent, we are always proud of our own children no matter what happen, they always remain in our hearts forever. Lovely post! #justanotherlinky

    • April 3, 2016 / 7:47 pm

      Aww thank you so much. You’re so right, I am so proud of ALL of my children, it has been such an honour to share Joseph on here and have such lovely comments about him. Thanks for reading. xx

  35. April 2, 2016 / 8:51 pm

    Firstly, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby and secondly, for anyone that has a problem with seeing photographs of your son or of anyone else’s babies, it is completely their own problem and their own issue! When people divert their eyes from such photographs, I imagine its more to do with them just not knowing what to say and not because of them being offended. I don’t think anyone who has never experienced still birth will ever understand and people just don’t know how to deal with it sometimes. You should be extremely proud of yourself for coming through such a terrible time and should show off your son as much as you want to, regardless of other peoples ill-informed comments and opinions


    • April 3, 2016 / 7:45 pm

      Thank you so much. I think most of the time that is absolutely right, I don’t think that people mean to insult me with their reaction, it is simply a case of not wanting to look through fear or upset or to have to accept that these tragedies do happen. There have been a few who have visibly recoiled at his photos, I had one family member go as far as saying, “Urgh, I cant look at that” which has stayed with me ten years later. To me, I look at him and I see my son, my baby boy who was utterly perfect, I suppose that is all that matters. Thank you so much for your lovely comment, much appreciated. xx

      • April 3, 2016 / 8:47 pm

        People just don’t think before they speak or act unfortunately and I’m so sorry that has happened to you. Never feel you need to hide your son away, ever x

        • April 3, 2016 / 8:52 pm

          Thank you, I don’t plan to. Xx

  36. April 3, 2016 / 2:06 pm

    Wow. You are so brave.
    And your son, little Joseph, he was absolutely perfect <3 I can see why you don't hesitate to share him at all, what a beautiful little boy to be so proud of. They say that you don't actually die until someone says your name for the very last time. And, look at all these people gathered to talk about your little Joseph.
    Be proud, mama <3

    • April 3, 2016 / 7:37 pm

      Oh thank you so much, I LOVE that saying, I have never heard it before!! This is exactly why I write about Joseph, the more people who read about my little boy the longer his memory lives on. Thank you so much for reading and helping me to keep his memory alive. xx

  37. April 3, 2016 / 7:12 pm

    I’m so glad you posted this and shared his beautiful face with us in that photo. I wish I had photos of two of my boys and I treasure the photos I have of their younger two brothers. I also moved those photos because I couldn’t bear people’s reactions, but they have pride of place upstairs and they mean the world to us and their younger sister Rachel who sees them everyday. Special friends get to see these photos, they’re not hidden but they’re specially placed and that for us works. Thanks for allowing me to think through this decision again and be happy with it still; and for allowing me to share in your son’s beauty.

    • April 3, 2016 / 7:34 pm

      Thank you Emma, it has been lovely to share this and receive such positive responses. I am so glad that you have your photos to share with your friends and family, they are priceless aren’t they? But yes, the reactions of others are very hard to face at times. It has taken me a long time to reach a point where I am able to finally stand up and say this is MY son and I wont hide him away just because others find his photos uncomfortable. He was perfect, he IS perfect, and I wont be made to feel otherwise. Thank you for understanding although I am so sorry that you know how this feels. Much love. xxx

  38. April 6, 2016 / 10:03 pm

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful boy with us, I can’t imagine what it must feel like to have been through that. Every parent thinks their baby is the most beautiful thing and so they should and you should be no different. Im so
    sorry people have made you feel ashamed or embarrassed of his pictures. Some people are just cruel and narrow minded. Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

    • April 7, 2016 / 3:45 pm

      Thank you so much. It has been such a huge relief to hear these lovely comments about Joseph, I was so afraid that this would be received badly. Thanks again. xx

  39. April 7, 2016 / 3:18 am

    There is no need to apologise. None at all. You have every right to share your perfect little man. He is utterly beautiful. I have tears all over my eyes streaming down my face I have to say I am a little angry to those that would said such a thing about showing stillborn photos online. They are as you have said are just a baby sleeping. Thank you so much for sharing your emotional post with us on #FabFridayPost Big Hugs to you. XXXX

    • April 7, 2016 / 3:45 pm

      Thank you so much my lovely, I’m sorry I made you cry but I’m so honoured to share him with you. xxx

  40. April 7, 2016 / 4:47 pm

    Oh you have made me cry (again) with your beautiful words. And your gorgeous boy! I think it’s wonderful that you want to share his photo because he is your son and it’s the most natural thing in the world to look at pictures of him and share them with others. I cannot believe someone said such a crass and horrible thing about seeing photos of stillborn babies. Those are people’s children, their loves. #coolmumclub

    • April 7, 2016 / 7:04 pm

      Thank you so much. And sorry I made you cry – AGAIN!!! xxx

  41. April 7, 2016 / 7:41 pm

    Oh sweetheart I can not even imagine how this must have felt losing him, but as so many have said you have no reason to hide his photos. They mean so much to you and he looks so peaceful and perfect. Ignore what others say, sadly some lack the compassion gene! Thank you for linking up to #PicknMix with such a brave post.

    Stevie xx

    • April 8, 2016 / 1:03 pm

      Thank you so much Stevie, that’s so lovely of you to say. xxx

  42. April 7, 2016 / 9:36 pm

    Once again I admire your courage and bravery. Joseph was beautiful and you should share his picture. His exsistence deserves to be recognised and celebrated. I’m so sorry that he was taken from you. #CoolMumClub

    • April 8, 2016 / 4:23 pm

      Thank you so much. I am so, so happy that others have said such lovely things about him. xx

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  44. entertainingelliot
    April 8, 2016 / 9:30 am

    Thank you for sharing such an emotional and brave post, Joseph was beautiful xx

  45. April 8, 2016 / 3:48 pm

    Back again from #coolmumclub – thank you for linking this beautiful post

  46. April 8, 2016 / 6:30 pm

    Amazing skin-tingling post. I think it’s brilliant that we have been able to see Joseph too thanks for sharing his photo with us and thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x

    • April 8, 2016 / 8:04 pm

      Ahh thank you, and thank you for hosting. xxx

  47. April 8, 2016 / 7:53 pm

    This made me cry. What a beautiful little baby boy. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    • April 8, 2016 / 8:04 pm

      Ahh I’m so sorry!! But thank you for reading. xxx

  48. April 9, 2016 / 9:18 am

    He was a beautiful and handsome little bubba. What a brave lady you are xx

    • April 9, 2016 / 3:49 pm

      Ahh thank you so much, he really was. xx

  49. min1980
    April 9, 2016 / 10:06 am

    This is a beautifully written piece that brought a tear to my eye, as I’m sure it will to many others. I can’t claim to know or understand what it must be like to experience a stillbirth, but I do feel that it something that needs to be talked about and acknowledged. I will be sharing this.

    • April 9, 2016 / 3:49 pm

      Thank you so much. It really is SO important to talk about it, we cant just pretend that stillbirth doesn’t happen or that these babies didn’t exist. Thank you for reading. xx

  50. April 9, 2016 / 10:49 am

    Absolutely Beautiful wee boy xxxx Well done you on having the courage to post this. I think I saw that post on facebook about sleeping babies and I thought the pictures were beautiful. Xxx Kathy

    • April 9, 2016 / 3:48 pm

      Thanks Kathy, it was really difficult for me to share this one, I was really nervous of the reaction. Thankfully it has been so positive and reminded me that people can be so lovely and kind. xx

  51. June 18, 2016 / 6:41 pm

    A beautiful article.
    Just because your baby died why can’t you share a picture?
    It’s normal to see pics of parents cuddling baby’s so what does it matter if they are alive or not?!
    That does really get to me and I’ve not experienced a stillbirth.
    My sister in laws sister in law (confused much!) lost her baby at around 20weeks or so and had to birth him. I’ve been told she has photos of him around the house. I don’t see anything wrong with this as its your child 🙂
    And he is gorgeous.

    • June 18, 2016 / 6:53 pm

      Thank you so much. That’s exactly it isn’t it, everyone else shares photos of their baby, why not mine? Writing this post was so liberating for me, it made me realise that there is no need to hide Joseph away or be made to feel guilty that others find it uncomfortable, he was absolutely perfect and it’s lovely to know that others think so too. xxx

  52. June 20, 2016 / 10:15 am

    Beautiful boy. Beautiful post. You are one mighty mom! <3

  53. June 20, 2016 / 4:37 pm

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful son with us. He is perfect and anyone who cannot appreciate his perfection probably doesn’t deserve to see such a treasured photo. I have photos in my house of my son from the 8 months he was alive and I’ve encountered a few people who haven’t been able to look at those. I’ll never excuse remembering my son so good for you for doing the same x

    • June 20, 2016 / 5:34 pm

      I’m so sorry to hear that about your son, how utterly devastating that must have been for you, and I imagine still is. He was so perfect, it has been lovely to hear that others feel the same. Thank you. xxx

  54. September 18, 2016 / 4:38 pm

    Oh gosh, he was so cute! I’m so sorry for your loss. You have every right to be proud. Thank you for a beautiful post xxx

    • Laura Dove
      September 20, 2016 / 5:11 pm

      Ahh thank you so much. It means so much to me that others can see his beauty. xxx

  55. sarah
    January 9, 2017 / 4:39 pm

    Only just read this…..made me so emotional
    Joseph certainly should be shared he’s just gorgeous… are blessed to have photos to treasure I would too have them all around the house…..he is very much a part of your family lots of love xxxx

    • Laura Dove
      January 9, 2017 / 7:31 pm

      Thank you so much Sarah, that’s really lovely of you to say so. He was so beautiful. xxx

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