A recently study by Shepherds Friendly showed that money can really impact on our relationships. I think this is something which we can all relate to on some level, I know that money, or lack of, is one of the biggest issues in my marriage and affects our choices not only as a couple, but as a family.
Money can impact relationships in so many ways, from disagreements about spending, arguments over financial responsibilities, or even just putting a strain on a relationship due to not having the spare cash to spend quality time together. I spoke to a group of parent bloggers to find the ways in which money impacted on their relationships, and the results were so interesting.
Money has really impacted on our relationship, I am so careful and he is so careless so it has caused many arguments. Finding a middle ground has proved very tough, managing money is such an intrinsic part of life. – Becky
Whilst money doesn’t buy happiness it certainly helps avoid stress and nearly all of our arguments are about money in that he isn’t as sensible with his as he should be. Life would be a whole lot easier if he was more in control of his finances! – Lucy
When I left full time work to be a Mum I found it so hard to then be given a ‘wage’ by my husband. I felt guilty that he was giving me what he’d worked for and there were a few arguments because we’d never shared our money before, we’d always had separate bank accounts. I do prefer feeling in control of my own money though and contributing to our household. – Emma
My husband and I have very different money values and behaviours. He is more of a planner and I’m more spontaneous with money. This has caused problems in how we value money but now we are aware of it, it’s easier to understand why he just wants to save and I want to spend! – Catherine
Money is always one of the bigger conversations we have as a couple. I think the best way to stop it becoming a problem is to be honest and open with spending habits. – Ayse
I think money does cause arguments in every relationship! I am naturally quite thrifty and cheap while my husband is more spendthrift, and happy to pay for convenience. It can be difficult sometimes to balance the two points of views and in reality I think it is healthier to be something in the middle. All the money we earn is ours so we don’t really differentiate who spends what on what and that works for us. – Irina
I have taken over control of our finances so we now have savings and money to spend each month, instead of no idea where our money goes. It does stress me out though and we discuss it a lot (or I moan at him a lot) as I find it stressful having to manage it all myself and seeming to be the only person worrying about it. – Victoria
I think it’s actually quite reassuring to hear that many couples argue about money. My husband and I are quite fortunate that, when it comes to money, we do have similar values. We both accepted that with me staying at home to be with the children we would need to make sacrifices, and we tell ourselves that one day we will have much more money when the children are grown!
You can read more about the survey from Shepherds Friendly here.
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