Today the postman brought me something pretty special that I wanted to share with you all. I wasn’t expecting it at all, I have no idea who put my name forward to receive such a present, but when I opened it and saw what was inside, I was so incredibly touched.

Inside was this; the most sweet little bear with a green ribbon around his neck.


Written on the label it says, “With love from the family of Tyler Leishman, 28.09.11. This bear is a gift to you from a family who have also experienced the loss of their baby. We hope that you will find some comfort holding it in your arms and know you are not alone.”

When I read more from the enclosed leaflet, I discovered that it had been sent by a baby loss charity www.achingarms.co.ukran by a group of bereaved mothers who have all experienced the pain and emptiness of leaving hospital without their much wanted baby.

They aim to raise awareness of the impact of baby loss, work with midwives to improve care and support to bereaved parents, reach out to mothers to let them know that they are not alone or forgotten and hope that they may find some comfort from holding the bear in times of distress.

I immediately clicked onto the website and realised that each bear is donated by one bereaved mother to another. For each parent that loses their own child, they can donate in their memory to provide a bear for a family who are going through a similar loss. And although holding this little bear certainly made me smile this morning, I felt incredibly sad for the mother of  Tyler Leishman,  a little boy who should now be four years old, happy, healthy, full of life, holding a teddy bear of his own in his arms.

It goes without saying that I have now donated the money to provide a bear for another bereaved family. In a few days time a Mother just like myself shall be opening her parcel and receiving her own bear, “With love from the family of Joseph Emmerson. 19.07.06”. And whilst she may initially feel sad, perhaps calculating the age of my child or re-living memories of her own loss, I hope that like me, she finds comfort in knowing that she is not alone.

I may never know who put my name forward to receive this gift, this gorgeous little bear who now sits on the desk in my office and makes me smile each time I glance over at him, but whoever you are, Thank you.

My Petit Canard


  1. The Anxious Dragon
    October 29, 2015 / 9:55 pm

    That is a beautiful way to share some comfort with other parents who have experienced the same loss as you have. Sad, but heartwarming at the same time. Thank you for linking up xx #Happydiaries

    • October 29, 2015 / 10:03 pm

      It’s a really lovely idea and honestly made my day. Yes it’s heartbreaking but like you say, so completely heartwarming!!! I’ve had a really crappy week and this has put a huge smile on my face. Thanks for the link up!! Xxx

      • The Anxious Dragon
        October 29, 2015 / 10:32 pm

        Thank you, it was your comment on my other post that gave me the idea xx

  2. October 30, 2015 / 8:30 am

    I just love how some people have the capacity to be so lovely to others. Great post for #happydiaries

    • October 30, 2015 / 9:10 am

      The kindness of others always amazes me. It’s just so lovely to gain such positives from something so heartbreaking. Losing Joseph was utterly horrific but the mothers who have reached out to me along the way has been amazing. Thanks for reading! 💙xx

  3. January 18, 2016 / 8:37 pm

    This kindness and concept is just amazing, I bet it was such a surprise and so glad you have passed it on to another mum. Bet the little bear will be treasured xx #marvmondays

    • January 18, 2016 / 8:39 pm

      Isn’t it just? Such an amazing idea and it genuinely did bring me such comfort. Thanks for commenting. Xx

  4. January 19, 2016 / 7:36 pm

    Oh wow, what a wonderful way to commemorate so many lost babies. It’s the worst experience a parent can have but how close you must feel knowing that this little bear was donated by a family who can understand your pain. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

    • January 19, 2016 / 7:41 pm

      Thanks Kaye. You’re right, and it’s so much more than just a bear. It’s knowing that we aren’t alone and that someone, somewhere knows what we have been through and are still going through. It’s so important not to feel isolated in your grief, such a worthy charity and one I hope to share with as many as possible. Xx

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