And then there were two…..

One of my biggest worries about Eva starting school, other than of course how Eva herself would cope, was how Megan would react to losing her best friend, the mastermind behind all of their plans and the big sister she adores, for the most part of each day.

Since the day that Megan was born the girls have had a bond like no other, a mutual understanding that, while Eva was the eldest, Megan was absolutely the boss and their closeness eclipsed any of the sibling bonds within our family.

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When Harry came along I worried about how he would feel growing up alongside the girls, how although he would always have his big brother, the ten year age gap would prevent them from sharing experiences in the same way, and ultimately he would always feel like a spare part when it came to the girls. And I suppose in some ways these last two years, he has. While the girls went to nursery together Harry stayed at home with me, and while the girls lost themselves in a world of imagination, Harry was more than happy to create his own fun. Don’t get me wrong, the bond the four of the children share is wonderful in so many different ways, but if the girls had the choice they would always choose each other.

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And so, these last two weeks since Eva started school, I have watched with baited breath to see how the dynamics of our family would change with Megan and Harry having only each other for six and a half hours each day. And the one thing that was instantly apparent was that there was a whole new battle for the title of The Boss, and unlike Eva, Harry was in no way prepared to relinquish that power!

Sharing a due date just one year apart, being born in the same hospital, in the same room, and spending the same first few weeks in neonatal, their stories started out very similarily. With just twelve months and four days between them, they remember no life without the other, have very much grown up in quick succession and, in that way, it should come as no surprise that the two of them are probably the most alike out of any of my children.

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Where as Lewis has always been old enough to know better, and Eva is extremely submissive, not to mention highly emotional, Megan and Harry have the same short fuse, a tendency to want to get their own way and their stubbornness knows no limits. They are both competitive by nature, if Megan sings a song then Harry will sing it louder, and neither of them goes down without a fight. Harry knows exactly how to press Megans buttons, and vice versa, and I was fully prepared to be refereeing countless arguments, breaking up fights and despairing of how we will ever survive this coming year until Megan joins Eva at school.

The reality has actually been completely different. Somehow over the course of the last two weeks Meggy and Harry have called a truce and joined forces so that no longer are they tormenting each other, they are simply tormenting me.

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Spurred on by the encouragement of his big sister, Harry has taken great pleasure in running rings around me, cheered on by the cries of, “Hazman! Hazman!” as Megan laughs and pumps her fists in the air. And fuelled on by the new found admiration of her little brother, Megan has delighted in being as mischievous as possible, showing off to her audience as she has pushed me to my limits, throwing her head back and laughing as she and Harry congratulate each other on another mission accomplished.

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And yet somewhere in between all of their mischief, it has actually been really lovely to see the way in which Megan has turned to Harry for the affection she has missed from Eva. Her need to have someone to snuggle up to on the sofa, to hold her hand when we’re out and about, to kiss and cuddle and tell, at least ten times a day, “I love you one billion.”

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It has been heart-warming to watch them with their little heads together, playing a game without the need to throttle each other every two minutes, to hear them whisper in hushed tones and have proper conversations, Harry suddenly transforming, from the tiny baby I still believed him to be, into a fully fledged little boy.

And in the same way that Eva and Megan did, from November, Harry will join Megan at nursery, just two mornings a week at first, and the two of them will run down that same path, hand in hand, disappear into nursery and I will get that same familiar feeling of never wanting these days to end.

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Because the sad thing is that nothing lasts forever, the family dynamics will continue to change, and before we know it Megan will be ready to join Eva at “big school” and my little Harry will be left with no-one at home but myself. And I’m sure that there will be times over the coming years when the children drift apart and come together, when the girls revert back to their twin like mentality, when Harry and Lewis forge a completely new bond over a love of Fifa, when Eva and Harry or Megan and Lewis, or none of them whatsoever, share moments together that are special just to them.

And probably one of my favourite parts of being a parent is watching them grow, seeing them evolve, enjoying the sibling bonds as they swap and change, and that’s more reason than ever why it’s so important to enjoy every moment for what it is in the here and now. And right now, today, is Meggy and Harrys time. Siblings, best friends and new found partners in crime.

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161 Comments

  1. September 21, 2016 / 7:39 am

    this is such a lovely post and your children are so adorable!! love the photos of them kissing, so sweet x #BloggerClubUK

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 8:47 am

      Ahh thank you. I love those photos too, they are both so affectionate, it’s lovely to see. xx

  2. September 21, 2016 / 7:47 am

    Children just grow so fast and sometimes I will sit there and look at my daughter and think when did she become a little girl, she’s no longer my baby! Obvs she will always be my baby but you get what I mean! This post is so lovely, very well written and you have some wonderful pictures of your little ones. #BestAndWorst

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 8:46 am

      That’s exactly how I feel. I’m convinced I just gave birth to Harry and yet here he is, sat besides me, singing Incy Wincy Spider at the top of his voice, and I have to accept that he really isn’t a baby anymore! It’s sad because he is our last, but it’s lovely too to see the children together and the bonds they share. xxx

  3. September 21, 2016 / 7:52 am

    I love your posts Laura – they always make me want to go and squish my two that bit harder. It’s always quite unnerving and worrying when you face a change in the family dynamics but it just goes to show that these little people will forge their way through and form new alliances. This is a really lovely post. Dawn x #bestandworst

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 8:45 am

      Ahh thank you Dawn. I was really nervous about it but it has been such a positive thing for all of them to be honest. Obviously not the mischievous parts, although I have to bite my lip from laughing, but to see Eva gain her confidence without her sister and vice versa, it’s been lovely. Thank you for reading. xx

  4. September 21, 2016 / 8:56 am

    Aw completely relate to this. My kids are three years apart but they love spending time together. It was hard for my youngest when my eldest returned to school a few weeks ago:(

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 8:59 am

      Eva and Meggy are 15 months apart and so they are super close and always have been. I genuinely thought Megan would struggle but she is loving having Harry to herself and encouraging all kinds of mischievous behaviour!! I’m not so pleased about that part but I’m glad they still have eachother. Weekends become very important when the kids are in school, don’t they? xx

  5. September 21, 2016 / 10:07 am

    This is so cute! I can’t believe Megan has a mischievous steak? Surely, not with that smile? 😉 I love how they are managing to get on and that she has latched on to her brother the way she did with her older sister. It’s clear that all your kids have strong bonds and you are so right, the dynamics change so quickly, especially when they have siblings 🙂

  6. September 21, 2016 / 10:22 am

    As much as they drive us bonkers it’s so lovely to watch them bonding isn’t it? Then things like pesky school gets in the way and changes everything all over again. It looks like your little ones are very close though and it’s so cute seeing your younger two like partners in crime 🙂 #bloggerclubuk

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 12:43 pm

      Yes! I’m sick of school already, it’s already stole one child from me and now it’s taken another! The youngest two are adorable together but yes, hard work!!! Xx

  7. September 21, 2016 / 10:52 am

    It is so wonderful to see them grow and change whilst at other times it can feel like a loss too. It sounds like your children have reached a new dynamic and have discovered new bonds, which is great to see. Lovely photos.

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 12:40 pm

      Thank you. It’s been hard adapting to a new routine that doesn’t involve Eva, more so as she is really struggling at school, but for Megan and Harry it has been lovely to have this time. Thank you for reading and commenting. Xx

  8. September 21, 2016 / 12:59 pm

    Wow I know how much or dynamic has changed with just our little starting at nursery school so can only imagine what has been happening in your house lovely!

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 3:41 pm

      It’s been strange not having Eva in the day but we are really just making the most of evenings and weekends, it’s kind of spurred us on to get out and about more even when the weathers not great or we’re all knackered. The dynamics of the family change constantly don’t they, I’m sure this time next year Eva and Meggy will be thick as thieves at school and poor Harry will be pushed to the side with no-one but me to play with! xx

  9. September 21, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    Aaaahhh love post, it changes so much when one suddenly goes to school. However, they will always gang up on you!!! 😂 😂

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 3:39 pm

      Haha yep all four of them do!! I’m sure that won’t ever stop!! xx

  10. Fi Ni Neachtain
    September 21, 2016 / 3:23 pm

    I honestly don’t know how your girls aren’t twins, they are the absolute double of each other! How lovely that Megan and Harry are able to have time together now and grow their relationship whilst the others are at school.

    • Laura Dove
      September 21, 2016 / 3:38 pm

      Haha I hear it about ten times a day at least, and in all fairness I completely agree. They are the same size, even the same shoe size, and I would assume they were twins if I hadn’t give birth to them myself! It’s lovely seeing them reunite after school although Eva isn’t happy about missing out on all the fun Megan and harry are having without her!! xx

  11. September 21, 2016 / 4:00 pm

    Gorgeous post and your little family is just so adorable! My Harri really misses Meme when she is in school but soon there will be a new addition so it will be interesting to see how our dynamics change! #bloggerclubuk

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:15 am

      Ah yes!! Eva has been feeling really left out because when she comes home and Megan and Harry tell her all about the fun they’ve had she’s been stuck at “boring school”. I really feel for her but at the same time it has been lovely, and actually refreshingly easy, to get out and about with these two! It’s exciting to see how the dynamics of the family will change, especially when there’s a new baby. I’m super excited for you! xx

  12. September 21, 2016 / 8:11 pm

    You write so beautifully. I have two little ones who are just over a year apart and they are nightmare together, like your children my son and daughter team up to torment me – daily. It is so strange yet lovely how family dynamics change when something changes isn’t it ? xx

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:12 am

      Haha yes!! That’s how it is with mine, I think with small age gaps there is never a sensible child saying hang on a minute, we shouldn’t be doing this! They just all go with it and that’s when the trouble starts!! At least with Eva in school there’s one less member of the tag team!! xx

  13. September 21, 2016 / 8:45 pm

    Ah those photos are amazing! Erin doesn’t have, and won’t have, siblings so we won’t ever know this. I imagine it is hard all round though

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:11 am

      Ahh I think there’s pros and cons to having a small or large family. For us we never even dared imagine we would have one more child after losing Joseph, so to now have four healthy children is pretty amazing. I don’t take it forgranted and I think that makes it a little easier to cope with the drama that comes with it!! xx

  14. September 21, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    What a beautiful post. Actually bought a tear to my eye. The photos are adorable. Glad they’ve joined forces x

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:10 am

      Ahh thank you Kelly. It’s been really lovely to see that Megan wasn’t feeling left behind although Eva is struggling with the fact that she is missing out on all the fun! xx

  15. September 21, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    Great blog post, you are children are so cute. My little man misses his older sisters when they are apart, it’s so cute to see how excited he gets when he sees them x

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:09 am

      Ahh yes it’s lovely to see them at school pick up, Harry and Megan rush towards Eva and hold her hand the whole way back. It makes me so emotional!! xx

  16. September 21, 2016 / 10:21 pm

    That’s so cute that they’ve been able to bond with your other girl heading off to school. It must be a tough time of the year with their birthdays just a few days apart x

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:08 am

      Haha yes! May is an expensive month! Megans birthday on the 23rd, our wedding anniversary on the 25th and Harrys birthday on the 27th! A crazy week to say the least! xx

  17. September 21, 2016 / 10:27 pm

    What a wonderful family you have! I think age gaps can cause problems when they are young but often when the kids mature they form much stronger bonds.

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:07 am

      Yes it was so hard work having three just two and under, but the older they get the nicer it is so see them all play together. And with ten years between Lewis and Harry, all three of them have an amazing big brother to look up to! xx

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 11:06 am

      Thank you, they are all so close, even with the ten year age gap with my eldest. I’ve been very lucky with the four of them. xx

  18. September 22, 2016 / 11:23 am

    You have such a beautiful family. I really though the girls were twins…and I consider myself a twin expert since I have a set.

    Lovely post!

    #keepitclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:57 pm

      EVERYONE thinks they are twins! My own fault as they wear matching clothes most of the time, it’s just easier with being the same size clothes and shoes! I’m sure when Harry catches up the three of them will look like triplets too! xx

  19. September 22, 2016 / 1:53 pm

    What a gorgeous post, so lovely to read all about them 🙂 Lovely photos too, some fab memories. Thanks for linking up hope you’ll stop by again! #bestandworst

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:55 pm

      Thank you Helen! xx

  20. September 22, 2016 / 3:16 pm

    Haa haa – loving the toothpaste shot (been on the end of that one before) – it is lovely to see their relationships change but will be interesting to see what happens during the school holidays

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:55 pm

      Haha I wasn’t loving that quite so much! It made me laugh though because Harry tried to blame it on Meggy!! I think the holidays will see a return of Eva and Meggy teaming up on the boys again! Will see….!! xx

  21. September 22, 2016 / 4:42 pm

    I am sure you wouldn’t have had it any other way these two being so close instead of reinforcing just how alike they are and fighting.

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:54 pm

      Absolutely. It’s been lovely seeing them play together without trying to rip eachothers heads off!! xx

  22. September 22, 2016 / 6:53 pm

    This is lovely and I can really relate to this. Since my eldest has gone to school its taken us a while to find our feet and been interesting to watch the sinking dynamic change. My youngest two are fast becoming thick as thieves in their big sisters absence and its really quite sweet, although there is a lot of mischief too! x #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:54 pm

      Haha I’m so glad it’s not just mine!! Eva is so sad that she is missing out on all the fun but it’s quite funny to see how as soon as Eva comes home both Megan and Harry fight for her attention and soon forget about eachother!! xx

  23. September 22, 2016 / 7:05 pm

    So awesome they are adjusting so well to the changes. When I went to school, my little brother had to stay home. He was only a year younger than me and he was the youngest so he was all alone. He refused to speak for the first week and just sat at the window waiting for my return. I had to convince him to start eating and talking while I was gone and that I would keep coming home each day.

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:53 pm

      Ahh that’s going to Harry!! I always feel so sad for him being the smallest but then he is the one who gets me all to himself for two and a half days each week, the girls never had that being baby three and four! xx

  24. September 22, 2016 / 7:23 pm

    They are so adorable! You have some really beautiful pictures! #momsterslink

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:52 pm

      Ahh thank you. They make taking photos easy when they look this cute!! xx

  25. September 22, 2016 / 7:32 pm

    Oh your photos are just so adorable. What incredibly gorgeous children. I really enjoyed reading this. You write so well and I totally agree with you when you say that you enjoy watching your children grow and seeing how their relationships and interactions with each other change. My girls are now 12,14, 15 and 17 and every day I watch the way they each relate to each other, in the different combinations and I love it. Alison x #stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      September 22, 2016 / 7:52 pm

      Oh wow four girls must see a lot of different relationships, especially in their teenage years! It’s lovely though isn’t it, I feel I’ve been very lucky to experience such small age gaps but also a huge age gap. All I ever really hope is that they all four of them stay close into adulthood, if I can get that part right then I feel I’ll have done my job properly. xx

  26. September 22, 2016 / 8:16 pm

    Oh bless them – nothing stays the same does it? Every September brings us change – my children are 20, 16, 14 and 3! Your photos are adorable. Kaz x

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:47 pm

      Oh wow so you have a huge age gap, how lovely that your youngest has three older siblings to look out for them. I’m sure it will all change again next year when Megan starts school, I’m just trying to make the most of this time. xx

  27. September 23, 2016 / 8:21 am

    Ahh, such a lovely and sweet post. They do like to torment us don’t they?! #FridayFrolics

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:45 pm

      It’s their favourite pastime!! xx

  28. September 23, 2016 / 8:22 am

    Oh wow your children are absolutely beautiful! How lovely to see them being so affectionate. The toothpaste on the sofa though….OMG! #binkylinky

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:44 pm

      Thank you!! And I KNOW!! You’d think it would clean off easily with being leather? WRONG! It just seemed to smear into the grain of the leather and make the black a strange kind of grey! Nightmare! xx

  29. September 23, 2016 / 8:28 am

    Oh this is lovely and the pictures are fab! I can’t imagine having children that close together – hats off to you!! #picknmix

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:44 pm

      Haha nor could we! When Megan came along 15 months after Eva everyone thought we were crazy, when Harry came along 12 months after that everyone was convinced we were insane!! Thankfully my husband had the snip or I think the next one would have been along even sooner!! xx

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:43 pm

      Haha yep, I’m convinced that these three lie awake at night plotting my downfall, and they take such HUGE delight in doing so! Thank you for hosting. xx

  30. September 23, 2016 / 9:07 am

    They are just so cute and you can see the mischief in his eyes you know, but so cute with it x

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:42 pm

      Haha yes Rachel!! They both have that wicked gleam in their eyes, it’s a good job they are so adorable too! xx

  31. September 23, 2016 / 9:09 am

    This is so lovely! Gorgeous kiddies. I really miss my kids now that all three are at school. I thought I’d enjoy having time to myself, and believe me, they start annoying me as soon as they get out of school, but I really miss having them around. Sarah #FabFridayPost

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:42 pm

      I keep wondering how I will feel when all four are in school. I often think I will just be relieved to FINALLY have some me time but I think in all honesty I will miss them terribly. God knows what I will actually DO all day, maybe I’ll finally get some housework done?! xx

  32. September 23, 2016 / 10:15 am

    Oh my goodness, they are just the cutest!! Oliver is all by himself and desperately wants a little brother or sister, but he won’t get one until he’s at ‘big school’, so I won’t have these same challenges and worries. I do love seeing a sibling bond though!

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:41 pm

      Ahh, there’s a ten year age gap between my eldest and youngest and even with such a huge age gap, the sibling bond is unbreakable. I think there are definitely pros and cons to a smaller or larger age gap. I love that my youngest three will grow up together but I love that Lewis will always remember the day that they came home, the baby days and the memories they made along the way. xx

  33. September 23, 2016 / 1:14 pm

    This is such a gorgeous post! I love the line about instead of tormenting each other they are tormenting you, sorry! It’s great that the dynamics have changed and they have found their bond

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:40 pm

      Haha thank you, I suppose it’s easier for me if they torment me rather than eachother. I can zone out of their relentless quest to drive me insane but when they wind eachother up there is no way anyone within a ten mile radius could zone out of that level of screaming!! xx

  34. September 23, 2016 / 2:16 pm

    You always sprinkle your posts with such lovely photography! The toothpaste on the leather sofa was an absolute classic….one to put in a montage on his 18th or 21st Birthday. I have one son and one daughter and I love it when they just chat or cuddle or seek each other out and it’s nothing to do with us parents. lovely post 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:38 pm

      Haha yes I have a collection brewing for his 18th! It’s lovely seeing your children bond together, I don’t have a close relationship with my brother and I really want to make sure that my children do have that, I guess you can’t force it but I plan to encourage it as far as possible! Thank you for your lovely comment. xx

  35. September 23, 2016 / 3:03 pm

    Ah I’m so pleased that Megan has seen Harry as a new playmate. She must really miss Eva and it’s lovely she has Harry. Holly is really missing Alice and every tin we leave the house she asks if we are picking Alice up. I’m sure she will get used to it just being me st home soon X #picknmix

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:37 pm

      Ahh Harry is like that on the days Megan is in nursery too. I think he is bored of my company on those days! It’s nice to spend time one on one with him, although I feel guilty that although Lewis had that for eight years, and Eva had it for fifteen months while Lewis was at school, poor Meggy has never had any one on one time with me and that does pile on the mummy guilt!! xx

  36. September 23, 2016 / 3:06 pm

    Hi Laura, lovely photos as ever. It’s so nice that Meggy and Harry are bonding, although it’s probably not so much fun for you, by the sounds of things! I hope your children continue to be close through all the changes that childhood brings.

    xx

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:34 pm

      Thanks Debbie. We’ve actually had a really lovely week despite all the mischief, it’s been a welcome change to see Harry and Megan playing nicely together, even though they have ran me ragged!! Thanks for reading. xx

  37. September 23, 2016 / 3:38 pm

    It’s never what you expect, is it? I’m glad your littlest are getting along (even if it’s to the detriment of your sanity!). Lovely post — really enjoyed the read! #POCOLO

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:33 pm

      Haha my sanity left the building a long time ago now!! Thanks for reading! xx

  38. September 23, 2016 / 4:05 pm

    Oh I love this post Laura! I’ve loved seeing your photos of Megan and Harry on Instagram – they definitely look thick as thieves and I can imagine just how much mischief they get up to together! But how lovely that the dynamic just switches like that and the two of them get this time to bond together. Love all of your photos, especially the toothpaste shot – he actually looks surprised about it!! Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:33 pm

      Ahh thank you Katy. They have had such a fun week together although poor Eva is a little sad to be missing out. Harrys face and the toothpaste made me laugh too, although I had to bite my lip and put on my angry mummy face!! He kept saying, “Meggy did it!!” which made me laugh even more! I’m looking forward to how the dynamics change over the weekend and whether Eva will be welcomed back into the trio, I do hope so!! xx

  39. September 23, 2016 / 4:48 pm

    That is a really beautiful post! #picknmix

    • Laura Dove
      September 23, 2016 / 6:32 pm

      Ahh thank you Robyn! xx

  40. September 24, 2016 / 12:01 am

    Ahhhh how adorable! Well…not so much the toothpaste on the sofa part….But the rest!!! I don’t know how you get anything done Laura, if I was you I’d be constantly sitting and admiring how bloody cute all of your children are!!!xx

    • Laura Dove
      September 24, 2016 / 11:30 am

      Haha thank you so much. It’s funny just how un-adorable they become when you’re scrubbing toothpaste off your sofa!! xx

  41. September 24, 2016 / 9:51 am

    Oh what a beautiful, heart warming post! It really bought tears to my eyes as it made me think about how we only hold our children for so long, my boys are going up way too fast and I miss these days when we were together at home. #POCOLO

    • Laura Dove
      September 24, 2016 / 11:30 am

      Ahh thank you. They do grow up way too fast, it breaks my heart if I allow myself to think about it too much. I know that in no time at all September will be here again and Megan will join Eva at school and I’ll be an absolute wreck all over again. I’m trying to make the most of this next twelve months of having two at home, it doesn’t bear thinking about what I will do when Harry starts too! xx

  42. September 24, 2016 / 1:42 pm

    Laura, this is such a beautiful post about childhood and growing up. Our families change and evolve all of the time. Staying present and witness to this is so important, especially when it is so easy to long for what was. I think every day is a beautiful adventure, even the very bad days… and I am so happy for Harry and Meggy – hopefully bonding now for a lifetime! <3 xoxo #FabFridayPost #FridayFrolics #momsterlink Lot's of linky love to you!

    • Laura Dove
      September 24, 2016 / 3:05 pm

      Ahh thank you Lisa, it’s lovely isn’t it seeing them grow together, and apart. As much as I am enjoying seeing Harry and Meggy have their moment, it’s lovely to see Eva gaining her confidence in school and find her feet as just Eva, not part of “Eva and Meggy”. I think small age gaps are wonderful in so many ways but it is also very easy for them to become too reliant on each other, it’s good for all of them to have their own thing once in a while. Even if Harrys “thing” is only coming to the supermarket with me while the girls are in school and nursery!! xx

      • September 28, 2016 / 8:50 am

        I kknow our Neko enjoyed her time when Luka started school, then later, oh how she missed her. She was as ready as ever to have her share of the fun. The Mrs. on the other hand, she was sad. Oh these little milestones sometimes feel like big kidney stones, bu its all part of the journey. xoxo from #BigPinkLink too

        • Laura Dove
          September 28, 2016 / 8:55 am

          Ahh yes Harry is going to miss Meggy massively next year! Eva is still so unhappy at school, partly because she is missing Meggy and Harry so much! xx

  43. September 24, 2016 / 10:19 pm

    Beautifully written post. My son is an only child so he won’t have the experience of siblings, but it’s interesting the way the dynamics change. I have two brothers and over the years we have had various fluctuations in closeness as we have grown older, but it’s all worked out brilliantly and we are still thick as thieves! #fridayfrolics

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:24 pm

      Ah that’s lovely to hear you are still close with your brothers. I think as teens the kids will probably go though stages where they want to kill eachother, especially the girls when clothes and boys come into the mix, but I hope that when they are older they can be just as close as they are now. xx

  44. September 25, 2016 / 6:41 am

    This is just so so beautiful! I can’t believe that photo with the toothpaste! He looks so shocked haha! Oh it must be wonderful to watch them comfort each other and enjoy being together even if it is at your expense a little bit. What amazing relationships they will all have as they grow. So much to love now and so much to look forward to in the future. #fortheloveofblog

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:22 pm

      Yes it’s so lovely, even if they are driving me insane!! They are so close, just far too mischievous some days!! xx

  45. Nige
    September 25, 2016 / 1:11 pm

    Beautiful post they do grow so quick yes Thanks for linking to the #binkylinky come back next week please

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:14 pm

      Far too quick!! Thank you for reading, see you next week. xx

  46. September 25, 2016 / 7:49 pm

    aaahhhh this is lovely to read, and great that they have a great bond. Oh dear at the mischief they are egging each other on to, but lovely they have each other to look out for in nursery.
    Good grief at how alike the girls look, you could take them for twins. #sharewithme

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:13 pm

      Haha yes, nursery will have their work cut out with these two!! And yes, the girls are so alike, it’s quite scary really and yet they couldn’t be any more different in personality! xx

  47. September 25, 2016 / 9:09 pm

    My daughter started school too, and it’s been very interesting watching her little sister cope without her. I thought she would be relieved as they can fight quite a bit but actually she is lost. She misses the interaction they have a lot

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:12 pm

      Aww yes often the case. Eva is the one feeling lost at the moment as she is struggling with school and Harry and Megan are having so much fun at home that she is feeling a little left out. It’s hard work being a parent! xx

  48. September 26, 2016 / 8:32 am

    what a heartwarming post. Your kids are wonderful and how clever of them to just sort out their new situation for themselves and learn to play together and get the most out of every day. ~You must be so proud. #MarvMondays

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:09 pm

      Thank you Fiona, I am so proud of them. It’s been so lovely for them to have this time together, just hard for Eva who isn’t enjoying school and wants to be back home with her siblings! xx

  49. September 26, 2016 / 8:45 am

    Oh bless, they look absolutely adorable together, though you can see they both have that mischevious twinkle in their eyes. #momsterlink

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:08 pm

      Haha yes they do!! They are super mischievous but adorable with it! xx

  50. September 26, 2016 / 11:55 am

    Ah … I’m so pleased to hear this – it’s wonderful isn’t it. My smallest is still a bit lost with out his partner in crime and he’s only at school in the morning! Lovely to hear this bond is developing so well. Thanks for linking to #sharewithme

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 3:08 pm

      I worry already about how Harry will cope when Meggy starts school. I’m sure he will be sick of my company by the end of next year while I am just making the moment of his cuddles before he too goes to pre-school. Waaah! xx

  51. September 26, 2016 / 4:33 pm

    Laura, as always you have managed to make me feel a bit teary and made me laugh all in one post! I love all your pictures, they are adorable and hilarious. I am one of 4 so I find sibling relationships endlessly fascinating, ours definitely changed a lot over the years and we have some fairly big age gaps (we are now 36,34,30 & 26) but as adults we are firmly best friends. I love that they have a new found closeness although I hope they stop causing so much mischief 😂. That picture of Harry as a tiny baby and chubby baby Meggy 😍😍😍

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 7:19 pm

      Ahh thank you! There are ten years between Harry and Lewis so I find it equally fascinating to hear about others with those age gaps. I so hope that as adults that age gap closes, Lewis does tell me that when Harry is 18 and he is 28 they will go to the pub together, bless!! And I LOVE that photo, it’s one of my favourites. I’d forgotten just how chubby Meggy was, I’m surprised she wasn’t trying to eat him!! xxx

  52. September 26, 2016 / 5:43 pm

    Aww, this is so lovely!! How great to have such close bonds. I love the toothpaste picture, that really made me laugh! It is hard keeping up with the changes in sibling relationships, but how lovely to see them grow. Such a sweet post 🙂 #bigpinklink xx

    • Laura Dove
      September 26, 2016 / 7:18 pm

      Thank you! The toothpaste photo makes me laugh too, although I wasn’t laughing quite so much at the time! Thank you for reading. xx

  53. September 26, 2016 / 8:17 pm

    Oh they do grow up so fast! I love your pictures especially Harry’s face on that toothpaste one! They are so cute and I am glad Megan is managing without Eva and found another partner. This is a lovely post xx #mg

    • Laura Dove
      September 27, 2016 / 8:34 am

      Haha he has the funniest expressions!! I can’t help but laugh! Thank you for reading. xx

  54. September 27, 2016 / 8:00 am

    Awww, I’m so glad that the two of them are forming a mischievous new relationship, especially as you were so worried about the impact of Eva going to school, on Megan. They look and sound like they’re having serious amounts of fun!! Your posts always make me want to have more children…! I was never close to my brother growing up, and I always thought it was because he was 4 years older than me, and a boy, but actually, those things don’t matter, I think it was just a case of us being very different, with nothing in common. We are still pretty much the same now! I had my children close together, hoping they’d have the bond I felt I missed out on, but with 14 months between them, and now being 3 and 2, they’re showing no signs of being partners in crime! They really don’t seem to like each other at all, and they never play together/have in jokes, all the things I assumed would happen. I always envisaged a house full of children, who were all really close-I always envied that in my friends who went shopping/clubbing with their siblings. I’m hoping it’ll happen with my two, but in the meantime, I can read about your gorgeous children and their lovely bonds!!
    #bigpinklink

    • Laura Dove
      September 27, 2016 / 8:34 am

      Ahh I was just the same with my brother too. We were never close then, or now, and I think it’s down to the fact that we are just very two different people living very different lives. We literally have not one thing in common other than our DNA! I think I’ve been very fortunate that my children love eachother as much as they do, from what my friends tell me their children don’t really like eachother most of the time either! I’m sure that your two will develop a close bond as they grow, sometimes it just takes more time? I just hope that mine stay this close in later life, it must be so lovely to have that close sibling bond as an adult and share in eachothers families, time will tell! Thanks for reading as always. xxx

    • Laura Dove
      September 27, 2016 / 1:11 pm

      xxx

  55. September 28, 2016 / 9:02 am

    Brillant! I’m so glad that they get on so well together and found a way to entertain each other even though it means they will gang up on you! Haha! Beautifully written. Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost Always a pleasure to have you with us. Xx

    • Laura Dove
      September 28, 2016 / 11:32 am

      Haha yes, but at least they’re not arguing…only with me! Thanks for hosting, I shall see you on friday! xx

  56. September 28, 2016 / 10:33 am

    Ah sitting in a soft play centre tearing up a bit! So lovely and great photos! Bet that toothpaste situation was a nightmare! #stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      September 28, 2016 / 11:26 am

      Aww bless, thank you for reading. And yes, it was an absolute nightmare but he’s so adorable I can’t stay mad for long! xx

  57. September 28, 2016 / 1:43 pm

    How lovely! It looks like they have a very special bond #picknmix

    • Laura Dove
      September 28, 2016 / 4:23 pm

      They really do, when they’re not trying to kill eachother!! xx

  58. September 28, 2016 / 7:20 pm

    Haha – probably predictable they would gang up! But lovely they are having fun together. My three year old has just started nursery school in the mornings. The two year old wanders around asking where she’s gone and suggesting we pick her up from school immediately.

    Thanks so much for joining us on #FridayFrolics. Hope to see you next time.

    • Laura Dove
      September 29, 2016 / 11:56 am

      I should have guessed! Aww yes I think that will be Harry next year, wandering around moping because he has no-one but me to play with! xx

  59. September 29, 2016 / 6:10 am

    So, so lovely. I think sibling friendships are lovely. I love watching my girls play together too. It’s great that they’ve adapted to quickly and I hope that they really enjoy having this special one-on-one time with each other #SharingTheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      September 29, 2016 / 11:53 am

      Yes! I think sibling relationships and sibling friendships are entirely different, I consider myself hugely lucky that the children are friends aswell as siblings. Perhaps with the small age gaps it is easier for them to forge those friendships, I so hope they carry them into later life. xx

  60. September 29, 2016 / 7:26 am

    What a beautiful post! Your children are just gorgeous, and so funny! I imagine it isn’t adorable or funny for you, but it is lovely that their bond is growing so much! At least you have a leather sofa… #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      September 29, 2016 / 11:46 am

      Haha yes, imagine if it was fabric? Oh god I would have lost the plot!! They are adorable, even though they are hard work, I’m actually a very lucky lady! xx

  61. September 29, 2016 / 11:10 am

    Your girls look like twins 🙂 Beautiful photos, though the toothpaste one made me laugh as it’s exactly the sort of things my terrible twosome used to get up to when they were smaller. The time really goes way too fast for my liking, I’ll have a teenager next year and my ‘baby’ will be at secondary school…. I almost want a time machine to go back to the little devil stage…almost 😉

    Thanks for linking up to #Picknmix

    Stevie x

    • Laura Dove
      September 29, 2016 / 11:40 am

      Ahh thank you, they are SO alike aren’t they? Lewis will be thirteen in April, it seems so grown up when you say teenagerI’m trying not to think about that part too much! xx

  62. September 29, 2016 / 3:54 pm

    What a lovely read! thank you for posting this, it’s so nice to read about the change in dynamic and that this has occured so quickly and that they have adjusted so well. The pictures of the children are absolutely gorgeous as well – they are so photogenic. 🙂 #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      September 29, 2016 / 4:39 pm

      Ahh thank you Gemma! They are so funny together, they’ve had me in stitches today which is a good job really as some days I think if you don’t laugh, you’d cry! xx

  63. September 29, 2016 / 6:42 pm

    I can remember when I first saw pictures of your children and thought they were twins. It’s lovely that the two youngest have got on so well, minus the terrorising you of course. Lovely post. Thanks for linking to #picknmix

    • Laura Dove
      September 29, 2016 / 8:25 pm

      Ahh everybody does, I meet some people on the street who refuse to believe me when I tell them they’re not!! Harry has definitely become Megans little accomplice this last four weeks, poor Eva is missing out on all of the fun and doesn’t she know it! xx

  64. September 30, 2016 / 8:11 am

    Awh, the dynamics change so much don’t they?!
    Mine are all grown up now but I’ll never forget our oldest’s first full day of school, I thought I’d treat the middle one to a trip to soft play. Big mistake! I hadn’t clocked how much she helped him, took him round, pushed him up the bits he couldn’t do inside that soft play area, generally looked after him. I was stuck outside with a new baby shouting helpful instructions through the netting to my 3 year old….yeah, needless to say we didn’t do that again for a while! (he survived the trauma and is now a fully functioning independent 20 year old so I guess all’s well and all that!) #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      September 30, 2016 / 11:18 am

      Haha yes! I think that’s one thing I am lucky with in that Megan has turned to Harry instead of roping me into everything! Next year when the girls are both in school I think I will have even less time than I do now, at least now they entertain eachother. When I’M the entertainment it could get hard!! xx

  65. September 30, 2016 / 10:53 am

    Such a beautifully written piece! And your children are so very cute! By the way, I love the toothpaste spread all over, thank God it’s not Sudocrem! 😀 xx #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      September 30, 2016 / 11:16 am

      Haha yes! Sudocrem is the worst! Toothpaste didnt clean up as easily as I would have liked though, it kind of smeared into the grain of the leather but at least everywhere smelled lovely and minty! xx

  66. September 30, 2016 / 11:56 am

    Your children are GORGEOUS!!!! I’m pleased they are working together (probably not for your sanity when they run rings around you but because I had a close relative I was expected to get on with at a 10 month age gap and never did until we were older!

    • Laura Dove
      September 30, 2016 / 12:22 pm

      Ahh thank you Faye!! I think I’ve been really lucky that my children get on as well as they do, most of the time! I guess you can’t make your children be friends if they don’t want to be, I so hope that they stay close as they get older though! xx

  67. September 30, 2016 / 7:38 pm

    Oh the toothpaste! I never think about what will happen to Perky when Pinky goes to school next year. I’m so nervous about the whole school thing I’ve forgotten that there will be one sister left behind on her own. The plus side is I will get to spend lots of one to one time with her that we have never had before, but I haven’t really thought about it. I really must!
    A lovely read.
    #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      October 1, 2016 / 11:23 am

      Yes I think that’s the nice part that you get the quality time with the youngest child. I feel awful because Megan will start school in September without ever having had one on one time with me. I’m sure Harry will be totally bored of my company each day but only another 12 months and he’ll be in school too! xx

  68. September 30, 2016 / 7:48 pm

    This is a lovely tale to read, and it’s great that they are getting on absolutely fine and enjoying each other’s company. The pictures of them are so cute! I hope that they welcomed Megan back in to the fold when she returned home from school. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    PS love the new blog theme.

    • Laura Dove
      October 1, 2016 / 11:21 am

      They are having a blast, I on the other hand feel very ganged up on! Hehe! And thank you, feels good to have gone self hosted and my lovely husband designed my banner for me! xx

  69. October 1, 2016 / 9:33 am

    Gosh I had no idea there was such a story behind one of my favourite photos from last week. I guess as time moves on family dynamics will continue to shift and change. Makes me sad to think about it xx #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      October 1, 2016 / 11:10 am

      It is sad, it’s like the end of an era in some ways, but at the same time it’s so lovely that it’s the start of a new duo for Harry and Meggy. I’m sure things will change again next year when Megan goes to school and Harry is home alone with just me for company, things are ever changing, it’s impossible to predict from one day to the next! xx

  70. October 1, 2016 / 9:41 am

    This is so heartwarming! Aren’t they adorable! I love that pic too of Harry as a baby and the way his daddy is looking at him. Adam keeps on insisting I give him a brother as his sisters are so close, even at 12 and 9 they sit together with their heads together giggling and playing together. Right now why my hubby plays Wii U with Adam my girls are drawing together on the same page. They love there brother too, and when one of the girls is out the other plays great with Adam, and often the 3 play well all together, but they girls just share an incredible bond. I wish I could give him a brother, but after so many miscarriages and nearly not making it through my last pregnancy I can not risk it. It makes me sad, and sometimes I feel guilty that I can’t give him a brother, but he is lucky to have amazing sisters and us xx #mg

    • Laura Dove
      October 1, 2016 / 11:08 am

      Ahh I understand that feeling, I felt very guilty that Lewis didn’t have the little brother he so desperately wanted, it was the most amazing moment when we brought Harry home and his dream came true. That said, Lewis is exceptionally close to his sisters, they absolutely adore him and vice versa, I’m sure that Adam will love having his big sisters to look out for him when they are older. xx

  71. October 1, 2016 / 11:06 pm

    Aww Laura, what a lovely post. I couldnt help but giggle to myself when you said they have turned to torturing you. Then I got to the photos and then I really did giggle. They look like they must get into absolute mischief together, although I guess that toothpaste picture is a little bit of evidence of that 😉 Still, its lovely that they are forming a new bond together, even if they are keeping you on your toes a little! Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • Laura Dove
      October 2, 2016 / 6:00 pm

      Haha it’s a good job they’re so damn cute or I’d be losing the plot every day with their mischievous antics!! It’s lovely to see them play together though, even if they ARE torturing me! xx

  72. October 2, 2016 / 9:23 am

    What a lovely post and what a fab bond your children have 🙂 my daughter only had 2 days at home without her brother when he started school last year now she is at school herself. Their baby brother has never known any different than being on his own with me when they are at school and he will be starting nursery himself 3 days a week very soon xx #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      October 2, 2016 / 5:55 pm

      Megan started pre-school in September too but only 15 hours a week so she does notice Evas absence massively. Harry will start pre-school in the September Meggy starts school so again only 15 hours but that’s 15 hours TO MYSELF!!! I literally have no clue what I will do to pass my time! My husband suggested I’ll be able to use that time to clean, you can imagine my response!!! xx

  73. Lauren
    October 4, 2016 / 9:01 am

    This is so lovely to read, I can’t wait to give Dil a sibling and watch them grow together. Every single bit of motherhood is so bitter sweet isn’t it?!

    • Laura Dove
      October 4, 2016 / 3:16 pm

      Yes absolutely. Even when it’s lovely it’s sad that another stage has passed, sigh…xx

  74. October 4, 2016 / 8:41 pm

    Partners in crime sounds an appropriate name for them. Lovely to hear them working out their own dynamic and hopefully soon they’ll let up on you! Thanks for sharing with #PoCoLo

    • Laura Dove
      October 5, 2016 / 7:07 am

      Haha yes, they are such a terrible twosome! Hopefully they will get bored of tormenting me soon! xx

  75. October 6, 2016 / 5:44 am

    Oh such a lovely post I love how they have turned their attentions to mischief. I can’t wait until Kipper’s older and can follow Monkey around. Stopping by from #sharingthebloglove X

    • Laura Dove
      October 6, 2016 / 11:19 am

      It’s lovely when you see your children buddying up, I’m sure Kipper and Monkey will be inseparable and hopefully they won’t torment you too much! xx

  76. October 11, 2016 / 4:17 pm

    Aw Laura this is so lovely! It’s so nice to see your two youngest enjoying their time together. I’m sure they’ll continue to have a blast! Thanks for linking to #pocolo

    • Laura Dove
      October 11, 2016 / 7:18 pm

      Thanks lovely. They are having such a great time together, poor Eva is feeling very left out! xx

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