Calming Colic: How to help the 10 causes of colic

When I fell pregnant with Megan, baby number four, I honestly thought that I knew it all. Having had Lewis and Eva, and been very fortunate that they were very easy babies who fed, slept, winded without any issues, I naively assumed that Megan would be the same. But boy, was I wrong!!

Born at 35 weeks, following a rapid induction, Megan had been taken straight into neonatal with low blood sugars, high temperatures and concerns that she had an infection. She was immediately started on intravenous antibiotics, given nil by mouth, placed in an incubator where we sat, emotional and scared, for hours on end listening to machines bleep, babies cry and doctors speak in low, hushed voices.

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A little over two weeks later when she returned home, we thought that we were finally over the worst. With a 9 year old Lewis, a 1 year old Eva and our beautiful little Meggy, we were more than ready to enjoy our time as a family of five.

And then it started.

Every second of every day, whether she was hungry or not, tired or not, had a dirty nappy, or not, she would scream blue murder. Not just in the way that most babies cry, but she would physically shake with pure rage, pulling her legs up to her chest, her stomach visibly cramping, her cries escalating to the point where she would be blue in the face. And I’ll be honest, that wasn’t how I imagined having a new baby would be.

For the first few weeks we were back and forth to A&E where the doctors would take one look at her and claim that any baby who was in as much pain as she clearly was, must have something terribly wrong with her. Each time she was hooked up to more antibiotics, a lumbar puncture performed, bloods taken, tests done, and, as a Mother, I was absolutely terrified as to what could be causing her so much pain.

After seeing one consultant after another, across four different hospitals, countless stays on the children’s ward, endless prescription formulas, antibiotics, medicines and supplements, we took the advice of a friend and visited a cranial osteopath. He took one look at her and told us that in his opinion it was colic, most likely caused by the large number of antibiotics that she had been given over such a short time. Within a few minutes under his touch, our angry, unsettled baby was perfectly still, her eyes rolling, a little smile creeping over her face, and I had left that first session in tears thinking that, finally, we had found a way to help her.

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I read a lot about colic in the weeks that followed and the one thing that I always came back to was the antibiotics, something which the doctors dismissed as absolute nonsense. Although Megan was unfortunate that alongside the colic she developed reflux, by the time she hit her first birthday she was finally over the worst and I feel as though it was only then, a year in, that we were finally able to really enjoy our baby.

So when I was sent a book, written by Christian Bates, an Osteopath and Naturopath who has 20  years of experience in treating babies for colic and birth traumas, although I no longer have young babies, I couldn’t wait to read it.

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The book, Calming Colic, explains that colic is a symptom rather than a condition, and reading through the list I was astounded by all that applied to myself and to Megan, highlighted below in bold.

  1. Birth trauma – long births, instrument delivery, quick births, C-sections, premature births.
  2. Antibiotic use and imbalance in bowel bacteria.
  3. Maternal separation.
  4. Growing pains.
  5. Feeding and sleep environment routine.
  6. Foods eaten by the breasfeeding mother causing colic.
  7. Formula fed babies have issues with the formula causing colic.
  8. The mother has digestive issues of her own.
  9. The mother is deficient of good foods and nutrients resulting in a “hungry baby” that is unsatisfied with breast milk.
  10. Stress in parents, before and after birth.

I found myself reading the entire book from cover to cover over the course of the evening, unable to put it down because everything I was reading just made sense. It came as a relief in some ways to read that 80% of babies seen by Christian have had antibiotic exposure, and confirmed my belief that our experience of colic was worsened, if not caused, by the numerous courses of antibiotics as a baby.

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I love how Christian explores each of the ten causes of colic in detail, giving practical advice and solutions for parents to put into place, and supporting them throughout what can be a really difficult time in a new parents life. I actually felt quite emotional when I had finished the book, that I had struggled on my own for those first few months, that we had been through so much worry, stress and upset, and that my gut feeling, that a combination of a premature birth, speedy labour, antibiotics, a stay in neonatal and stress had absolutely contributed to my daughters issues.

We can never go back and re-live those that first year again, and in that way perhaps I will always feel a little cheated, but if anyone out there has a baby who is suffering with colic I urge you to read this book. Read it cover to cover, follow the advice given, and realise that there is help and support out there for you and your baby. Although colic is no longer an issue for my children, I feel a real sense of closure that, almost four years down the line, I have finally found some answers.

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To find out more about the book or Christian Bates work, please visit www.calmingcolic.com

Alternatively, please take a look at the Calming Colic Facebook page , Instagram and Twitter

Priced at £5.99 for a PDF download or £9.99 for a Paperback copy.

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46 Comments

  1. January 26, 2017 / 12:47 pm

    I so badly needed this book when our girl was a baby – she suffered greatly with colic and I’m sure this book will be a great resource for parents going through this stressful time.

    • Laura Dove
      January 26, 2017 / 10:33 pm

      I’m gutted that I didn’t have this book four years ago. We went through the same with Meg. I thought I was going insane!! xx

  2. January 26, 2017 / 3:39 pm

    Sounds like a really useful book. I’ll recommend it to my friend as her daughter is suffering with colic.

    • Laura Dove
      January 26, 2017 / 10:31 pm

      I would definitely recommend it! xx

  3. January 26, 2017 / 8:56 pm

    Glad to know there is a really useful book that can help parents with colic kids. Glad to know its written by someone who knows how to explain it better.

    • Laura Dove
      January 26, 2017 / 10:30 pm

      Definitely, makes such a change to have somebody actually know what they are talking about after so many unhelpful doctors! xx

  4. January 26, 2017 / 10:47 pm

    Very interesting I’ve heard of colic and as a first time parent didnt know much about it with Blake although I do believe that he did have it.

    • Laura Dove
      January 27, 2017 / 9:27 am

      Colic can be absolutely awful, I absolutely love this book for the reason that someone is FINALLY offering real help to parents with babies who suffer. My GP was utterly useless, I so wish I’d read this back then! xx

  5. January 27, 2017 / 7:07 am

    I didn’t know about it. It sounds terrible! Poor baby, it was so tiny and cute 🙁 I’m glad there are books and other resources to improve their conditions x

    • Laura Dove
      January 27, 2017 / 9:26 am

      It’s awful, and GP’s tend to be quite blasé about it without really giving any help or advice! xx

  6. January 27, 2017 / 9:05 am

    This really sounds like a useful book, as colic can be so stressful for baby and the parents. Finding some answers like this can be invaluable. My baby had some colic, and this would have been incredibly useful for us

    • Laura Dove
      January 27, 2017 / 9:25 am

      Us too, I so wish we had found it four years ago as we really did struggle with it. xx

  7. January 27, 2017 / 11:23 am

    Oh my gosh, little Megan is a cutie! I don’t have kids yet but I am a worry so I think when I have kids I will be in constant panic mode. This book sounds like a good read that would help!

    • Laura Dove
      January 27, 2017 / 2:23 pm

      Thank you, she really was a dinky little dot. Colic is a nightmare but don’t worry, if you have a baby with colic this book will save your life! xx

  8. January 27, 2017 / 7:17 pm

    OMG this brings back so many memories. Kian was a colicy baby and i was at my wits end until we visited the chiropracter who worked magic with him

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:30 pm

      Colic is EVIL isn’t it?! Thank god they grow out of it! xx

  9. January 28, 2017 / 7:35 am

    This is so interesting! My daughter had colic and after reading the list of possible causes I can really see why she did now. Every new mum who has a baby with colic needs this book. x

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:14 pm

      It was a real lightbulb moment reading the book, I found myself nodding along and realising that all of my concerns were completely justified! xx

  10. January 28, 2017 / 10:10 am

    Aww, she is a beauty! My baby had colic really bad when he was newborn but thankfully he seems to be growing out of it now he is a bit more active.

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:09 pm

      Ahh it’s always lovely when they grow out of it, it’s incredibly hard at the time though! xx

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:07 pm

      It’s awful isn’t it? I was so relieved when they grew out of it! xx

  11. January 28, 2017 / 10:48 pm

    Luckily little man didn’t have colic many times when he was a baby.

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:01 pm

      Ahh that’s good! It can be awful! xx

  12. January 29, 2017 / 9:30 am

    Sounds horrific – so young yet such a big problem. It’s great that you’re raising awareness and offering tips.

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 8:59 pm

      Thank you Alina, colic can be an absolute nightmare! xx

  13. January 29, 2017 / 10:40 pm

    I have always deplored how some doctors act like colic is nothing. It is something! Babies are not designed to cry for no reason, all day every day. Babies cry when something is wrong. Just because you can’t name exactly what is wrong, doesn’t mean the baby is fine and that’s that. I love the idea that this author talks about the reasons behind colic instead of just saying “oh well, it’ll stop one day.” #EatSleepBlogRT

    • Laura Dove
      January 30, 2017 / 1:30 pm

      I’m the same, we were just told “She will grow out of it!” as though it was fine to let our baby suffer for however long it took before she grew out of it. As a parent it isn’t as easy as just sitting around waiting for it to end! The author of this book really knows his stuff, probably the first professional I’ve come across who does! xx

  14. January 29, 2017 / 11:22 pm

    Oh my, reading the first few lines there was only one way my Hypnobirthing Goddess, Gently Hippy, Science Bunny, Ex Copper, brain was going – birth trauma & medicalised birth. Experience has taught me the trauma does not need to be ‘big’ to have this type effect on baby. There’s a book in me somewhere. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Laura Dove
      January 30, 2017 / 1:29 pm

      It sounds like you know your stuff! I had on clue that these things contributed to colic, reading this book just made it all click into place! xx

  15. January 30, 2017 / 10:51 am

    My friend had a baby that suffered from collic and tried everything, it really exhausted her. I think she would have loved to read this. Thank you for linking up to #EatSleepBlogRT 🌟

    • Laura Dove
      January 30, 2017 / 1:17 pm

      Colic is awful, for baby and the parents! I would recommend this book to anyone who is struggling! xx

  16. January 30, 2017 / 11:53 am

    Wow! This is actually really Amazing! I wish I had known about cranial osteopath before. Ethan & Evelyn has a mild colic for a very short period of time. I was blessed with such luck. I really glad you have shared this to help others.

    Thank you so much for sharing with us on #FabFridayPost

    • Laura Dove
      January 30, 2017 / 12:03 pm

      It makes so much sense doesn’t it? I so wish I had known all of this back then. The power of hindsight! xx

  17. January 30, 2017 / 11:34 pm

    This sounds like such a great book. Colic is one of those things that I feel like all new parents should be told more about before having their baby. I only realised a few months ago that Ella probably suffered from it for a few months when she was really little. But being a first time parent with no awareness of colic, we had no idea and so suffered without any help either. I wish we’d known then what we know now. A copy of a book like this would have been a godsend, and so I hope many others discover it through your review 🙂 Great post, thanks for sharing it on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • Laura Dove
      February 1, 2017 / 9:39 am

      I agree, I didn’t really know what colic was or how terrible it could be! I’m recommending it to everyone I know! xx

  18. January 31, 2017 / 4:35 pm

    I can only imagine the relief you must have felt to see little Megan calm in the hands of the specialist and to finally feel that you were being given some answers and a solution. It’s terrifying to see your little one in so much pain and not know how to help them. I can understand that reading this book and understanding more about the condition, its treatments and causes must have offered a lot of comfort, even now that it’s all behind you all. Thanks for sharing this with #DreamTeam. I have no doubt that it will be a huge support to other parents that need this help too. xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 1, 2017 / 9:29 am

      Thanks lovely. It was such a relief to finally understand it all, at the time I felt as though I was going crazy!! I would recommend the book to anyone who is struggling! xx

  19. February 1, 2017 / 5:38 pm

    Oh my gosh this must have been a very hard time, I’m so glad this book helped. It sounds like Christian knows what he’s talking about! It makes me angry that it could be caused by over use of antibiotics at the hospital as you’d think doctors would know better. Thanks for sharing with #stayclassymama!

    • Laura Dove
      February 1, 2017 / 9:33 pm

      Doctors outright refuse to accept that the antibiotics can contribute, but everyone you ask will tell you differently! Christian really knows his stuff, I have recommended this book to everyone! xx

  20. February 2, 2017 / 10:48 am

    Such a helpful post. Thanks for linking up to #TheListLinky x

    • Laura Dove
      February 2, 2017 / 11:26 am

      Thank you for hosting! xx

  21. February 2, 2017 / 10:59 am

    Oh what a nightmare hun and that first year must have been so stressful. We thought that our daughter hadcolic and we were forever giving infacol. She used to scream until red in the face and would hunch her legs up. The phase eventually passed. Poor you having to go through that. Thanks for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    • Laura Dove
      February 2, 2017 / 11:25 am

      It’s awful when they are suffering and you’re not sure why. Doctors are notoriously useless when it comes to this kind of thing too! It was such a relief to read this book, albeit four years too late, and realise that we weren’t going crazy! xx

  22. February 2, 2017 / 8:13 pm

    Oh wow this was me and my Little P for the first 10 weeks of her life! She just cried relentlessly and couldn’t fall or stay asleep longer than 2 minutes at a time (certainly in the day). It was awful. She never seemed in tummy pain though the way you described so I wasn’t sure it was colic and just soldiered on. Wish I’d read the book! #DreamTeam

  23. February 2, 2017 / 9:50 pm

    We didn’t experience this with either of our girls. But my niece had it and this book would have been perfect for my SIL. It’s so hard when they are in such pain and so tiny too. x #marvmondays

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