Still the one…

I have always said that being a parent is the hardest job in the world and yet in recent years I have discovered that actually, being a wife is even harder.

Being a parent has always come naturally to me. I love my children beyond all measure, would accept them and their choices, their actions and the repercussions, and forgive them indefinitely. I have never questioned my love for my children, nor theirs for me, never doubted my happiness at being their Mummy or imagined a future without them. Being a parent is hard work, but being their Mummy is easy.

But being a wife, or indeed a husband, is a whole different ball game, even more so when babies come along and life is suddenly very much about the children. For Gaz and I, there was Lewis from day one, and yet three years and four children later, our priorities had completely changed.

When you have three children under three, haven’t slept for the best part of three years, are dealing with screaming, crying babies and dirty nappies day in, day out, there is very little time for each other. There would be times when Gaz would call me on his lunch break and I would be knee deep in nappies and would tell him I didn’t have the time to talk. There were times when he came in from work and I didn’t even raise my head to greet him, to ask him how his day had been, so consumed I was in the children or in my own exhaustion from a day with them all. There were times when we would get into bed at night, facing opposite directions, and go to sleep without a single word of Goodnight, without a kiss or a cuddle or the slightest reassurance that we were any more than two strangers merely existing in the same house.

And I think that it is very easy, particularly now with social media, to believe that everyone else is living the perfect marriage.  People are very quick to tell you how wonderful their other halves are, how happy they make each other, how perfect their lives are together. Facebook is littered with photos of happy couples cheek to cheek, beaming at the camera, posing with champagne in expensive restaurants or lying on adjoining sun loungers in an exotic holiday resort. If social media is to be believed, then nobody is fantasising about suffocating their husband in his sleep or plotting to change the locks while he is out at work. Nobody is rolling their eyes at another “hilarious” joke they have heard for the ten billionth time, or dragging their husband home by the scruff of his neck after too many vodka shots at a quiet, social gathering.

Because nobody talks about marriage, not real marriage anyway. Very few people will tell you that they are experiencing difficult times, that they are stuck in a rut, that there are times when you are both simply limping along, riding out the highs and lows. Very few will admit that sometimes, their partner drives them to the verge of insanity or that they find themselves threatening divorce bickering over the best way to cook a chicken, fold the laundry, load the dishwasher.

Nobody gives you a manual as you walk down the aisle, a step by step guide on how to make a marriage last regardless of what life throws at you. And life can throw all kinds of spanners in the work, things that we can never foresee, prepare for or even bear to consider could ever happen to us. My marriage has seen more than its fair share of hurdles, more than some ever experience in a lifetime. From day one we battled with my own issues, so deeply etched from my previous marriage, my fear of falling in love again, of giving my trust to someone, of believing in happiness, in love, in forever. We have ridden the waves of my depression, my eating disorder, the countless times when I have pushed Gaz away, when he has been unable to understand the workings of my brain, the times he has felt helpless as I have plunged deeper into my illness. We have lived through multiple miscarriages, through the heartache and worry of countless tests and hospital appointments. We have coped with three high risk pregnancies, through the fear of history repeating itself, the nine months of agony until they were safe in our arms and the subsequent time that they spent in hospital. We have battled through those early days with three under three, through a blur of sleep deprivation and the never ending cycle of nappies, bottles and tantrums. We have made it through post natal depression, through anxiety, panic and countless therapies.  We have clung on through eighteen months of illness, through my endless hospital visits, scans, test results and the on-going quest for a diagnosis. And we have told ourselves over and over again, if we can survive this, we can survive anything.

And we did. We survived it. Because here I am, still married, sat right here telling you that marriage is hard work. Being married to my husband is hard work. But being married to me is hard work also. It is so easy to become complacent in a marriage, to become so consumed by life, by the children and by the exhaustion that they bring, that you forget who you were before they came along. I think that we are all guilty of that to some extent, of forgetting that we are more than just parents, more than just Mummy and Daddy. We are a couple who, at one time, in what may feel like a lifetime ago from now, stood up in front of all of our family and friends and swore to love each other forever.

And so this weekend we shipped in my parents, and we took off for a weekend in Harrogate, just the two of us for some much needed time together. We relished in leaving the hotel without the nappy bag, without the double buggy or the sound of the children screaming in stereo. We explored cobbled streets arm in arm, ate in beautiful restaurants and drank in nice bars. We talked, we laughed, we held hands and kissed on street corners. We took the time to remind ourselves of the reasons why we fell in love in the first place, the reasons why no matter how hard it has been, our marriage has always been, and always will be, totally worth it.

Because in all honesty, I am very much in love with my husband. When I look at him, I genuinely still get butterflies in my tummy. When I spot him in a crowded room, he is still the one whose eyes I seek out, he is still the one whose voice I want to hear when I pick up the phone, he is still the one whose arms I want to hold me after a long and tiring day. He is still the one that I want to grow old with.

He is still, The One.

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  1. January 11, 2016 / 6:43 pm

    You’ve just commented on my post on marriage so I thought I’d return the favour and you made me curious. I love your post. Made me feel less alone. Wow, you’ve been through a lot. Well done. Obviously a very strong and brave lady. #justanotherlinky

    • January 11, 2016 / 6:53 pm

      I just replied the same on twitter! Its lovely not to feel so alone with these thoughts, I’m pretty sure that there are many of us bumbling along in our marriages in the hope that we can come out the other side, when the children are grown, relatively unscathed!! Being married is hard work but it is well and truly worth it. Hang in there!! xxx

  2. January 11, 2016 / 7:37 pm

    Really good post, very well written that reassured me that i’m not the only one. Being married isn’t always easy and it is great that you managed to get that time away just the two of you. I think time alone without the kids is key really! #justanotherlinky

    • January 11, 2016 / 7:50 pm

      Thank you! And yes, US time is so important but also so very rare when children come along. I always think that a snatched weekend here and there is enough to re-boost us for a little longer, just that quick reminder that we used to be a couple way back before we were mummy and daddy. Thanks for reading. Xx

  3. The Anxious Dragon
    January 12, 2016 / 6:18 am

    I feel a bit of a fraud commenting on this post, as I have never reached that stage in my marriage. My first one one was nit hard because life got in the way, it was impossible because he was such a complete arse, he was not the one by a long shot.
    Second time round and ive got it right, but we dont have children. He still does plenty of things that drive me nuts, but we have all the time in the world to remember and remind each other of why we fell in love.
    I ts good to know you have the oppotunity to escape every day life and have some time alone together occasionally. As the kids grow, you will get more of that again xx #marvmondsys

    • January 12, 2016 / 3:37 pm

      I think second marriages you work a little harder at, or I certainly do! My first marriage was hard work and yet my ex husband did not love me enough to try and make it work. That really stung, but in the long term, we are both so much happier now.
      With my current husband, I give it everything I have, through good times and bad, as I know that it is worth it, that our love is worth holding on to, that ultimately our marriage is the most important thing to me. Its just tough when the children are young, but yes, as they grow we will claim some of that time back!! xxx

      • The Anxious Dragon
        January 12, 2016 / 3:39 pm

        My first was an abusive man, so nothing I did would ever be enough. This time round, I actually find it really easy, because I get so much back xx

        • January 12, 2016 / 3:43 pm

          Oh I’m sorry to hear that. Sounds like you have a wonderful man now, I’m so glad. Xxx

          • The Anxious Dragon
            January 12, 2016 / 3:45 pm

            Yup,he is xx

  4. nicolekkennedy
    January 12, 2016 / 3:14 pm

    This is a really beautiful post & very easy to relate to! It can be very hard to remember to be nice to each other when you’re both so tired but this is a good reminder! Xx

    • January 12, 2016 / 3:18 pm

      Thank you. We’ve fought like cat and dog this last three years, has been hard going but we made it through!! The baby years are tough aren’t they? Thanks for reading!! Xxx

  5. nicolekkennedy
    January 12, 2016 / 3:28 pm

    I’m not surprised! 3, 2 & 1! It would be weird if you hadn’t! Now the youngest is 1, it’s plain sailing ahead. Definitely! Oh so tough! And yet I worry they’re going too fast – hormones! Xx

  6. jermbarnes
    January 12, 2016 / 3:30 pm

    I find that a little time alone away from the littles is very helpful. Its so easy to get cought up in being parents, that you forget how to be a couple. Its important to remember what it was that you liked about the person to begin with

    • January 12, 2016 / 3:34 pm

      Absolutely, and I think it is a mistake that so many of us make, especially during the baby days. I love our time together, even if it is far less than I would like!! Thanks for reading!

  7. January 12, 2016 / 4:11 pm

    Life is hard isn’t it!! Great post, very well saidx #thebabyformula

    • January 12, 2016 / 4:12 pm

      Absolutely, but it is, mostly, completely worth it!! Thanks for reading!! Xx

  8. January 12, 2016 / 5:18 pm

    Wow I can only imagine 5 kids and 3 under, well done you! Such an honest post, relationships are so tough when you have one child, let alone 5, I think the key is definitely to make time for each other. #twinklytuesday

    • January 12, 2016 / 7:15 pm

      Thank you. Those few precious hours together when my parents babysit are so lovely, definitely makes us appreciate that time more too!! Thanks for reading. Xxx

    • January 12, 2016 / 7:16 pm

      Oh wow what a statistic!! Off to read your post, thanks for stopping by. Xx

  9. January 12, 2016 / 8:09 pm

    Great post, so honest. Can completly relate having three in three years myself and it pushes the best of relationships to breaking point – we’ve been there. Feels like you’re riding the storm waiting for the sun to come out – but it always does xx we’re on holiday at the mo so think we’ll need a break just the two of us to get over it 😰

    • January 12, 2016 / 9:36 pm

      Aww hope you’re having a wonderful holiday, not quite the relaxing holiday of years gone past but a new kind of holiday! Three under three was the biggest challenge for our marriage, it can only get better right?!! Xx

  10. January 12, 2016 / 9:19 pm

    Reblogged this on justsayingmum and commented:
    such an honest account and so worth a read x

    • January 12, 2016 / 11:01 pm

      Thank you so much for this! Xxx

  11. January 12, 2016 / 9:21 pm

    LOVE your honesty! we don’t talk about it enough for fear of tempting fate i think or worrying what other will think Thank you for sharing so much. happy #twinklytuesdays xx

    • January 12, 2016 / 9:36 pm

      Thank you. I sometimes think I’m far too honest for my own good but I guess it’s good to tell it like it is, life IS hard!! Thank you for reading. Xx

  12. January 13, 2016 / 11:28 am

    I am definitely guilty of not taking time to appreciate my marriage as much as I should, will take what I read in your lovely post as a timely reminder x

    • January 13, 2016 / 12:15 pm

      I think we are all guilty of it Sarah. There are times when my husband I will make plans to finally spend some time together and when it comes to it, we are both too knackered to bother going out! Thanks for stopping by!! xx

  13. January 13, 2016 / 12:14 pm

    Love your honesty and I’m glad you were able to find time for each other. My wife and I became fellow survivors during our baby’s first year rather than lovers. Finally getting back to where we used to be now. Can’t imagine having so many littles. You must be shattered.

    Thanks for linking up to #fartglitter x

    • January 13, 2016 / 12:17 pm

      Thank you! That’s exactly what it is, you do become survivors rather than lovers and yet in the end, its just a short period of time in which we mutually accept that our marriage is going to take a back seat. The older the kids get, the easier it will become. That’s the plan anyway! Thanks for hosting! xx

  14. January 13, 2016 / 10:38 pm

    This is lovely, & I really agree. You’re right – relationships with partners are much harder than parenting. I believe because love between parents and children is the only truly unconditional love. Love for any other person, however strong, is not unconditional. I agree about social media too. I always take it with a pinch of salt – I tend to think those who spend the most time parading their ‘love’ & relationship might be the ones protesting too much. I don’t think it’s always true, but I do think that very often those who are really secure in their relationships don’t actually feel the need to show everyone because they don’t need external reassurance or validation.It sounds like you and your husband have stuck it out through so much and have only come out stronger, though! #MMWBH

  15. January 15, 2016 / 8:11 pm

    Oh goodness where do I start?! Such a beautifully written post and whilst I can’t say I’ve been through the ill health etc you mention, I more than got everything else. I won’t be obnoxious and put a link to my own post here (!) but the bit you say about social media displaying marriages as perfect etc really struck a chord. One of my most successful posts was the one I wrote for my anniversary last year. Out of all the profound reactions, I think the thing that struck me the most was how people I had thought watertight totally happy marriages cried saying they related to the whole thing. Marriage IS hard. We’ve had some really bloody downs but if you can’t honestly write that last paragraph because that’s how you feel, you are doing all the right things. #JustAnotherLinky

    • January 15, 2016 / 9:31 pm

      Thank you! It’s so lovely to know that others relate to all of this and that I’m not the only one finding marriage hard work. My first marriage crumbled after 11 years together and I think that I work much harder at my second marriage because of that. And because it means more to me, my husband means more to me. I’m going to hunt down your post now and have a look, social media displays a very different life to the ones many are living. Thank you for reading. Xxx

  16. January 15, 2016 / 9:04 pm

    Great post! Life is hard and can get in the way but when you have the one anything is possible. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

    • January 15, 2016 / 9:32 pm

      Thank you. Absolutely, we always joke and say Team Dove against the world, but really….that is the truth!!! Thanks for reading. Xx

  17. Kate Tunstall, Refined Prose
    January 15, 2016 / 9:33 pm

    What a wonderful post. You have articulated perfectly those things we all think but don’t want to acknowledge out loud!

    Since I got married, I don’t like to admit to difficulties in our relationship, out of loyalty. But I really relate to this. We are currently planning our first baby free night away, and I’m excited and anxious in equal measure!

    Great post. X

    • January 15, 2016 / 9:39 pm

      Thanks Kate. That’s it isn’t it? When I wrote this I asked Gaz to read it through before I posted it as, through loyalty to our marriage, I didn’t want to hurt him with over-sharing.
      I love that so many people can relate to this, I wish more of us could be more honest about our lives, the good, the bad and the ugly, and maybe then we wouldn’t all feel that everyone else was living the perfect life!! Enjoy your night away!! Xxx

      • Kate Tunstall, Refined Prose
        January 15, 2016 / 9:47 pm

        Absolutely, you made some brilliant points. I wrote about our issues when our baby was born and had my husband approve that before it was published too. (Still got trolled, but that’s another story!)

        I think the difficulty is finding that perfect balance – I don’t mind not appearing to have the perfect life, but I certainly don’t want to portray a terrible one either. Out of respect and loyalty for him – but also out of appreciation and gratitude! Because actually, he’s not half bad, even if he does drive me insane sometimes!

        Thanks, have a lovely weekend xxx

        • January 15, 2016 / 9:54 pm

          Yes! I could have wrote a lot more than I did, told you all about his bad points and the arguments we have, etc but as much as I like to be honest about my marriage, some of those things are private for me and my husband. And like you, portraying a terrible life would be equally misleading because actually, most of the time we have a great life together. And like your husband, mine isn’t anywhere near as bad as I sometimes make out!!
          Thanks again for reading, off to nosy at your blog. Xxx

          • Kate Tunstall, Refined Prose
            January 15, 2016 / 9:56 pm

            Precisely! 😉

            Ah, thank you, I hope you see some things you like! Xxx

  18. January 16, 2016 / 9:26 am

    This is a gorgeously written post. I’ve only been married for 9 months, and our first child is currently brewing away in my tummy so I have no idea what kind of roller coaster we have in store. All I know is I want to try my absolute best to still be best friends with my husband. And for him to remain a huge focus of my life. Thank you for sharing such personal and wonderful insights. Gaz is a lucky man!

    • January 16, 2016 / 10:09 am

      Thank you! And congratulations!! Having baby brings huge changes to a marriage but it doesn’t last forever. Those first few weeks are too when you’re sleep deprived and the baby needs all of your love and attention but if you ride it out, there is always time for each other as they grow. Enjoy your next adventure, thank you for reading! Xx

  19. The Anxious Dragon
    January 16, 2016 / 10:17 am

    Coming back from #abitofeverything, thanks for linking honey xx

    • January 16, 2016 / 10:20 am

      Thanks for hosting! Xxx

  20. January 17, 2016 / 7:48 pm

    Aw, such a lovely honest post. I’m not married myself but am quite a realist about marriage and I believe alot of people go into it thinking it will be a fairytale and life will be so much happier after but of course, you have to both work at it like any relationship. That’s really what makes a marriage, not just ‘hoping’ it will work out. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

    • January 17, 2016 / 9:21 pm

      Completely agree. And I think that’s what half of the problem is today with divorce being such a quick fix to problems in a marriage. I married young the first time round and ultimately we divorced for reasons out of my control, but second time round I work at my marriage far more and have much more realistic views about what makes a marriage. Thanks for reading. Xxx

  21. January 17, 2016 / 9:13 pm

    Firstly thank you so much for linking up to #TheBabyFormula and I’m so sorry I’ve only just commented – I did read when you linked up, but got sidetracked… and the this was just a crazy week. I’m so sorry.
    Secondly, I love your post, your writing is so honest, and I can really feel your love for your husband in your last paragraph. Well done on getting away together and having such a fabulous time. You’ve been through SO much, I can’t imagine, but you sound stronger for it and stronger as a couple.

    Hope you can link up next week too #TheBabyFormula

    • January 17, 2016 / 9:19 pm

      Ahh thank you! You’re right, regardless of all we’ve been through and how irritating he can be at times (honestly, some days the sound of his breathing has my blood boiling), he’s definitely a keeper!
      Thanks for reading! Xxx

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  23. January 17, 2016 / 10:26 pm

    Love this post ! Your honestly about Marriage – good times and bad is so true. It’s so easy to get caught up with being mummy and daddy and forget to recognise and appreciate each other and remember how you used to be. Your weekend away sounded the perfect time to do this and to relax 🙂 thank you for sharing xx

    • January 18, 2016 / 10:31 am

      Thank you! I’ve had such lovely feedback about this, it’s really quite reassuring how many of you can relate and to know that all of us are in the same boat. Thank you for reading. Xxx

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  25. January 18, 2016 / 2:56 pm

    My marriage crumbled because we were never in sync with each other. After my oldest was born, I suffered from post-pardom depression that was later diagnosed as PTSD from childhood trauma. I write about my healing in my blog. Anyway, He didn’t understand and tried to take control of the situation by trying to control me. Funny thing is, he didn’t even know he was doing it. In his mind, he was trying to help me but he was only making things worse. To be fair though, I Iashed out at him often and it was through therapy that I realized I needed to change my ways but he refused to change his. Add Autism into the mix when my oldest was diagnosed at 3 years old, and things got worse. I was forced to deal with it on my own. To this day, I go to the IEP meetings without my ex because that stuff makes him nervous. As I got better, he stayed the same and had no interest in doing anything to change his circumstances. I couldn’t continue to live like that so I left. We have been separated for 3 years now and we have finally become friends (something we never really were before we started dating). The ship has sailed as far as any sort of romantic affection between us. We both realize that we are so much nicer to each other as friends and our goal is to keep it that way for our boys. We were toxic together as a couple and our boys don’t need that. I do know now though that if I ever find someone else, what you describe about your husband, seeking his eyes from across the room, looking forward to hearing his voice on the phone, that’s what I want and I won’t settle for anything less the second time around. I’m so glad that you and your husband made it through all of those tough times and it will get easier as the kids get older. Mine are 14 and 9. I can finally sleep in! Not that my dog lets me but hey, it’s now an option:) #mg

    • January 18, 2016 / 4:25 pm

      Your first marriage sounds very similar to my first. I was with my ex husband for 11 years and we went through so much, too much for a couple our age, but the death of our second son broke our marriage irreversibly. Some couples are tough enough to survive anything and others, sadly, just aren’t. I am so grateful for my first marriage and for the two boys it gave me, and I am a much better wife these days because of it. That said, I am much less tolerant…much to my new husbands detriment! I freak out over any behaviour that is reminiscent of my ex husbands, I am very insecure and I am a pain to live with at times. But he gets that, and he loves me anyway. I hope that you find that, sounds like you really deserve it. Xxx

      • January 18, 2016 / 4:31 pm

        I was with my ex for 10 years and it took that long for us both to realize that we just didn’t work. I do hope to find someone someday but I also know I am not ready yet. I am so sorry for the loss of your child:( no parent should have to bury their child. You are a very strong person for having made it through that! I’m glad you found someone who understands you, even when he doesn’t:)

        • January 18, 2016 / 4:45 pm

          Definitely take your time. I found my husband when I wasn’t even looking and actually, he had been infront of me the whole time. I’ve been very unlucky in so many areas of my life but beyond blessed in others, you take the rough with the smooth don’t you? Just one foot in front of the other and get through each day, it’s just a hell of a lot easier with my hubby at my side. Xxx

          • January 18, 2016 / 4:55 pm

            That’s my plan. To take my time and work on myself in the meantime. I know it will be worth it in the long run:)

          • January 18, 2016 / 4:57 pm

            Good for you. I shall be following your journey. 😘

  26. January 18, 2016 / 9:17 pm

    Such a beautifully written post, I relate to so much. My husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary last summer ( I was obviously a child bride ha!) and, let me tell you we are still a work in progress ha! I’m glad you have found your one and I hope he has read this xxx

    • January 18, 2016 / 9:19 pm

      Oh congratulations!! Yes he read it, and although he pulled his face at the bit where I said I wanted to smother him in his sleep, he did like the fact that I said some nice things in the end! 😂 I hope you have many more happy years together, and the same goes for me! Thanks for reading! Xxx

  27. January 18, 2016 / 9:34 pm

    Ah that’s lovely. 🙂 I still feel the same way about Rev T. It’s good to spend some time with just the pair of you away from the little ones.

    • January 18, 2016 / 9:51 pm

      Ah bless you. It really is good to spend that quality time together, even if it’s not as often as it used to be!! Thanks for reading! Xx

  28. mackenzieglanville
    January 19, 2016 / 7:23 am

    Gorgeous photo! I honestly think sometimes I find it almost the opposite, I sit with many friends and other mums from the school over coffee and listen to them complain endlessly about their partners, and I honestly feel like I’m odd. My husband is amazing and I am so in love with him, I have honestly found being married to him easy (see weird right?) We have been through tough times no doubt, like miscarriages and high risk pregnancies, job worries, financial worries and my anxiety and depression. But being with him has never been hard, I feel so blessed, sometimes too blessed that I get scared that the bubble will burst. After an abusive relationship where I was beaten and raped, followed by another long term relationship with a nice guy but who I did everything for and was so devoted to keeping him happy that I lost who I was, I feel amazed everyday that I have Steve. Thank you so much though for writing such an honest post and for sharing it with #mg. I am glad you guys had such a great romantic time away xx

    • January 19, 2016 / 3:27 pm

      Aww that is so lovely! Don’t ever worry about the bubble bursting, just enjoy it for what it is because it seems to me that you have the perfect marriage! And as much as Gaz and I have our ups and downs, we might not be perfect but we are definitely perfect for eachother! Thanks for reading. xxx

  29. January 19, 2016 / 9:57 am

    What a wonderful, honest post. It’s so great that you were able to find that time to get away to just focus on the two of you and your relationship. You both look so happy and in love in that photo – it’s just beautiful. #mg

    • January 19, 2016 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you! We had a great time away, and every much needed too! You’re right though, we are happy and very much in love, I think we all need a little reminder of that every once in a while! xx

  30. Jenny @ Let's Talk Mommy
    January 19, 2016 / 8:26 pm

    OH I can relate to this so much and such a beautiful tribute to your amazing life together and it really is the hardest job in the world. I try my best to be understanding on his part as much as I ask for him to be understanding on my part of our different style of work days. I.e. him running a company and me running the house, kids and my work from home business. It’s very much who had the busier tougher days sometimes but we power through it together. I think communication and giving each other even a few minutes each day to reassure the other helps so much. Great post. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

    • January 19, 2016 / 8:38 pm

      Isn’t it just! Oh we argue over who’s had the busiest day, who’s the most tired, who feels the crappiest…and I never let him win! Being married to someone who accepts me for all of my flaws, and I for all of his, makes life much easier though. He’s definitely a keeper!! ❤️ Thanks for reading. Xxx

  31. January 19, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    What a gorgeous post! Something I can also relate too as well. I am not my partners wife…yet {come September though and this will change!} but I do get it. Having the energy to be ‘the couple’ instead of ‘the parents’ is tough and if I’m honest something that I find harder to accomplish than my partner. But 5yrs on we make it work and we’re still going and like you, he’s the one I want to grow old with too. Thanks for linking up to the Mad Mid Week Blog Hop! #MMWBH

    • January 19, 2016 / 10:13 pm

      Thank you! Oh congratulations on the wedding, exciting year for you! Thank you for reading. Xxx

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  33. February 11, 2016 / 11:28 pm

    Beautiful post, no relationship is ever perfect and you have both had to cope with so much more than most people can ever imagine having to – still being together and still being so in love just shows how strong you both are and its obviously meant to be.

    Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    Stevie x

    • February 12, 2016 / 10:01 pm

      Thanks Stevie. We have absolutely had our ups and downs but you’re right, it has only made us stronger. Thankfully!! Thanks so much for reading. Xx

  34. April 13, 2016 / 9:59 am

    Aww… such a sweet post to your husband. He must be flying high right now. 😉 It is so sweet that you work together as a team – I think that’s what marriage is all about. Though – I don’t know much about marriage. I am not married myself yet. I don’t know – I think it is just timing – we just don’t have the money to get married yet. Sound like he is sure The One for you – perfect in every way. I am so happy for you. Thank you for sharing your beautiful post with us on #FabFridayPost xx

    • April 14, 2016 / 12:08 pm

      Thank you!! I think having been married and divorced previously, I learned the hard way that marriage isn’t all plain sailing. For that reason we really work at our marriage, through the ups and the downs, and we know that however hard it gets, we will get through it. I am sure when the time is right and you marry you will realise that it doesn’t actually change a thing, it just feels a little more official maybe! xx

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