Independent Womens Day 2016, those whom I love and admire.

Almost ten years ago, I inadvertently found myself becoming a member of a club that no Mother ever wants to be a part of. I found myself in the company of women just like me, dealing with the loss of a baby. And what started off as a group of complete strangers, over the course of the last decade we have had the opportunity to get to know each other, to support and advise each other, to listen and encourage and forge friendships which I know will last the distance.

We are all so very different, there are no two of us the same. Different ages, different circumstances, geographically poles apart and yet all with one thing in common. We are Mothers, missing our children, simply looking for a way to survive.

There are times over the years when I have credited these women with saving my life. In those early days when I could not imagine living with this pain for even a moment longer, these girls held out their hands and walked beside me. During those long, dark nights when my arms physically ached for a baby to hold, they were there, with open arms, guiding me through it. When I felt like giving up, when I couldn’t find a way to move forward, they offered me words of encouragement, of love and support, and reminded me how far I had come.

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And the thing that always resonated so loudly with me was that not only were these women dealing with their own losses and their own pain, but they added my burden to their load and carried it with strength and determination. When one of us faltered we would help eachother back up and slowly but surely we made baby steps in the right direction.

Over the years life has dealt even more devastating blows to these women, myself included. Between us we have dealt with the loss of more children, the breakdown of relationships and divorce, the loss of parents, gruelling battles against cancer and other life threatening illness. At the same time we have seen eachother through proposals and marriage, through pregnancies and babies and we have watched eachother grow from strength to strength with nothing but love and admiration.

Together we have shared something that no Mother should ever have to experience, bound together by the invisible strings of sorrow. We have shared every thought in our heads, said out loud the unspoken, we have never judged, never questioned, never forgotten what led us to each other. When we remember our babies we no longer think of just the child that we lost, but of all of the babies that we lost together. It has been a small comfort over the years, in such an expanse of pain, to think that our children have each other in just the same way that we do.

And together we have done something which at one time we deemed the impossible.

We have survived.

Because although we may never be the women that we once were, or live the life that we had so hoped to live, together we can survive just about anything. And today, on Independent Womens Day 2016, these women are my superheros, no doubt about it.

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  1. March 8, 2016 / 9:05 pm

    What a beautiful post, which made me shed a tear or two. Beautifully written, I’m so sorry you all had to go through that but so glad you all found each other. #bigpinklink

    • March 8, 2016 / 9:16 pm

      Thank you. Honestly, these women are stronger than anyone I have ever known. I’m honoured to have them. Xxx

  2. March 8, 2016 / 10:19 pm

    Beautifully written post. I’m very glad you found these lovely women to help you through a very tough time xx #bigpinklink

    • March 9, 2016 / 10:23 am

      Thank you, I really have been very lucky to have such strong, supportive ladies in my life. Xx

  3. March 8, 2016 / 10:27 pm

    What an amazing quote that last one is, It’s so true that the power of women and the power of friendship is a wonderful one. A really good group of friends can get you through anything. Thanks so much for linking up two great posts with us. #bigpinklink

    • March 9, 2016 / 10:22 am

      Thank you, it’s one of my favourite quotes of all time. It just says it all doesn’t it? Thanks for hosting. Xx

  4. min1980
    March 8, 2016 / 10:36 pm

    An amazing and powerful post. I was trying to think of something to write for International Women’s Day, but I just couldn’t get the post right in my head to say what I wanted to say. This completely nails it, I think. #twinklytuesday

    • March 9, 2016 / 10:22 am

      Thank you so much, that’s really lovely of you to say. Xx

  5. March 8, 2016 / 10:53 pm

    How beautiful. Women are amazing, particularly those who have faced loss and come back stronger. It’s wonderful that you have each other. #TheBabyFormula

    • March 9, 2016 / 10:22 am

      Thank you. Women ARE amazing, high five!! βœ‹

  6. March 9, 2016 / 2:30 am

    Love this! Happy women’s day:) We ladies are something else πŸ™‚

  7. Jo Boden
    March 9, 2016 / 10:17 am

    Thank youfor sharing this. There are very few people who have not felt this over welming feeling of loss , who have wondered how they are going to get through the next hour , day , year. And as women we are normally the ones that have TO BE BRAVE and carry on , and support every one else. I am so happy that you all had each other to cling to and get the support you all needed.

    • March 9, 2016 / 10:20 am

      Absolutely. And as mums especially it’s just what we do isn’t it? Put on a brave face and try to carry on as normal. Thank you for reading. Xx

    • March 9, 2016 / 12:50 pm

      Thank you for reading! xx

  8. randommusings29
    March 9, 2016 / 1:07 pm

    It’s an awful thing you all had to go through but I am glad you all found each other and helped each other through the bad times. I love your quote about strong women being the ones where things didn’t work out and they coped, I think it is spot on. #bestandworst
    Debbie

    • March 10, 2016 / 8:42 am

      Thanks Debbie. It says it all doesn’t it? Such a good quote and I really have been lucky to have some amazing women to carry me through. Xx

  9. mumzilla
    March 9, 2016 / 1:26 pm

    Such a true quote xx #bestandworst

    • March 10, 2016 / 8:41 am

      Thank you, it’s my favourite. Xx

  10. March 9, 2016 / 9:31 pm

    There is no blogger who can break my heart the way you do. And that’s a compliment. If I ever meet you, I’m giving the hugest hug and not letting go for a while. Lovely Laura. How you ‘bashed this out’ as you said on my FB page despite being ill, I do not know. Every word of pain is a gem. #TwinklyTuesday & #BestAndWorst

    • March 10, 2016 / 8:40 am

      Aww thank you so much but I am so sorry that I made you cry. You are so lovely. πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—

  11. March 11, 2016 / 10:55 am

    Gorgeous post and well said! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x

  12. March 11, 2016 / 2:30 pm

    Fran Dresher said, “Nobody gets through life unscathed.” Beautiful post, best wishes.

    • March 11, 2016 / 3:56 pm

      That is so true, thank you for sharing that! xx

  13. March 11, 2016 / 4:34 pm

    So inspiring, bless you for sharing your story. #FabFridayPost

  14. March 11, 2016 / 5:00 pm

    A superb post and tribute to the strength and power of members of the club no one wants to join.

    #FabFridayPost

  15. March 11, 2016 / 11:03 pm

    Great post. Loved it. You survived and are amazing.

  16. March 12, 2016 / 2:53 am

    It is so nice to hear of a support network for moms who have experienced loss. It seems so taboo to discuss, and I have heard so many times that you can never truly understand the pain and sorrow involved until you (unfortunately) experience it yourself. A support network is the perfect way for all moms involved begin the healing process, and its nice you all stayed in touch throughout life’s dealings. You and your group are such strong mama’s. The quote at the end is one of my favourites!
    #PoCoLo
    Tori
    http://www.themamanurse.com

    • March 12, 2016 / 11:04 am

      Thank you, I honestly don’t think I would have survived it without them. It’s one of my favourite quotes too, just says it all! Thanks for reading! xx

  17. March 12, 2016 / 6:41 pm

    What an amazing post and so beautifully written. Thanks for much for linking up with #MadMidWeek blog hop! x

  18. mackenzieglanville
    March 13, 2016 / 4:04 am

    What can I say? But wow! You are amazing and I am in awe of this beautifully written post and your amazing spirit, I am so glad our paths have crossed xx #mg

    • March 13, 2016 / 2:43 pm

      Thank you so much. I am so glad that they did, you have massively inspired me with your wise words each week. Thank you for hosting. xx

  19. March 13, 2016 / 10:40 am

    Wow, you are a warrior. I can’t even imagine. What a great way to support Women’s Day, your story is inspirational. Thank you so much for linking up with #stayclassy.

  20. March 13, 2016 / 11:50 am

    The most important thing of all is the friends that we surround ourself with, the ones that will stand by us and support us through anything. Lovely post and thanks for sharing with the #bestandworst

    • March 13, 2016 / 2:42 pm

      That is so true! Thanks for reading. xx

  21. Nige
    March 13, 2016 / 7:52 pm

    Beautifully written and totally inspiring post Thanks for linking to the #binkylinky

  22. Emily
    March 13, 2016 / 8:31 pm

    Wonderful post thank you for sharing friends are so important Thanks for linking to the #binkylinky

  23. Babies and Balderdash
    March 13, 2016 / 10:07 pm

    What a lovely and inspiring post. #fabfridaypost

  24. newmummyblogcom
    March 14, 2016 / 8:53 pm

    What a beautifully written post, with fabulous quotes – so true. Friend’s make all the difference and the best friend’s really pull us through everything, every sleepless night and every down day. Thanks for sharing on #TheBabyFormula

    • March 15, 2016 / 10:41 am

      Thank you, I often say I couldn’t survive without my friends but really, I genuinely could not have. They are amazing, I have been very lucky to find them amongst so much sadness. xx

  25. March 15, 2016 / 3:27 am

    So powerful and full of truth. I love the quotes you chose. Beautiful. And thank goodness for support groups of all kinds for those of us who need them when our strength resides just a bit. I love being a woman and I hope that if anything I teach my daughters to love being them too. Thanks so much for your wonderful support and linking up with #momsterslink. :))

    • March 15, 2016 / 10:37 am

      That’s the main thing isn’t it? Women sticking together and supporting eachother in life. I love being a woman too, I love my girlfriends and the way in which we are always there for eachother no matter what. Makes me very proud and I hope that my daughters grow the same way. Thanks for hosting. xxx

  26. March 15, 2016 / 10:35 am

    Such a lovely tribute to all the women who have shared the difficult times with you. Thank for this powerful and inspiring post. And I love the quote as it is so so true. Happy Women’s Day. Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost

    • March 15, 2016 / 10:38 am

      Happy Womens Day to you too, and as always, for hosting. xxx

  27. Jenny @ Let's Talk Mommy
    March 15, 2016 / 1:52 pm

    Ahhh this is such a lovely tribute to women around you so beautifully written. I love reading your post they are full of inspiration and strength. Thanks for linking up to #ShareWithMe.

    • March 15, 2016 / 3:07 pm

      Thank you so much. They are amazing women, I have really been blessed with such an amazing support network, even if it was in such sad circumstances. Thanks for hosting, will see you again this week! 😘

  28. Morgan Prince
    March 17, 2016 / 2:55 pm

    A beautiful post and what lovely things you have said about other women too. I’m so glad you had the support you needed and it’s great that you’re there for those women too.
    Thanks for linking to #PoCoLo

    • March 17, 2016 / 3:08 pm

      Thank you. They are amazing women, as a team we can survive anything. Thanks for hosting, see you again this week. Xx

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