Twinning is winning, right?

From the moment I found out that I was to have two girls just fifteen months apart, I surprised myself with my sudden excitement for the endless possibilities of twinning. And although initially the girls didn’t twin very often, I’m very much a Mum who believes that babies should wear babygros for as long as possible, when they hit one and two I was all over it. 

By three and four the girls wore the same dress size, the same shoe size, and even more miraculously, were the exact same weight down to the nearest ounce, and I simply decided to buy two of everything. Their wardrobes became a mirror image of the other – two of every top, every dress, every pair of pyjamas, tights and shoes.

Every morning they would get dressed in their identical clothes without any drama over one wanting to wear the pink top, or the blue shoes, or the pair of jeans with one tiny differing detail that only a three and four year old would ever notice. It made my life easier, and they loved that they looked the same.

“We are twins!” they would say, and still do. Arm in arm, my two little twins-not-twins, beaming with delight when random strangers stopped us on the street, “Oh how lovely! Twins!”, and I would explain, for the fifty millionth time that day, that no they were not twins and yes I was sure of that!

When Eva started school and Megan did not, our mornings became a little harder. “Why does Megan get to wear that dress?” Eva would ask. “Why can’t I wear that cardigan?” Megan would cry. “Roll on the weekend!” I would groan, missing the days when twinning was most certainly winning.

And then Megan started school and the two of them wore their matching uniforms and my heart could have burst. “Now we are twins again!” Megan had said, throwing her arms around Eva, my little twins-not-twins reunited.

So that’s just how it was, matching uniforms in the week and matching outfits at the weekend. Never once did they ask to wear something different until Halloween came around this year and Eva chose to be a mermaid and Megan a zombie bride. When I surprised them with their costumes I instantly knew that Eva wasn’t happy.

“You look beautiful!” I had told her, “You’re the scariest mermaid I’ve ever seen!”. And with her bottom lip wobbling and her eyes brimming with tears I knew exactly what was coming, “But I wanted to be like Megan!” she had said and, as I rushed off to Tesco to exchange her costume, I knew that I should never have deviated from the twinning formula!

And so this morning, as I read through my Instagram messages, I was taken aback to receive one from a lady, who shall remain anonymous, which simply said,

“Wow. You do know you’re girls aren’t twins don’t you? It’s very damaging to always dress them the same!”

Wow indeed.

Wow that somebody felt so strongly about the fact my girls wear matching clothes that they felt the need to message me to tell me as much. Wow to the fact that they felt the need to criticise my parenting choices and accuse me of damaging my children? Because believe me, if the worst thing I am doing to my children is dressing them in matching outfits then I think I’m doing a pretty good job.

My girls know that they aren’t twins. They know that they are four and five. They know, believe me, that Eva is the big sister and Megan is forever the baby. They know, in the same way they play at being princesses or fairies or Anna and Elsa, that playing at being twins is just pretend.

They know that they have a wardrobe just brimming with clothes and they have the freedom to wear whatever they like on any given day, within reason! They know that they are two very different people, with two very different personalities, who just so happen to look incredibly alike.

They know that at thirteen and fourteen they won’t be wanting to wear matching outfits, although they will most certainly want to share those outfits. They know that by their late teens they may have very different tastes, and very different figures, and what may suit one may not suit the other.

They also know that right now, at four and five, twinning is something they enjoy, which brings them comfort and a sense of sisterly solidarity. And if twinning is winning, which I have no doubt that it is, then I guess that makes those who have a problem with it……the losers??

 

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  1. November 14, 2017 / 4:42 pm

    I still can’t believe someone sent that message! Firstly I think you know you don’t have twins, not something you can get wrong when you carry them and give birth!!! Secondly who cares. Your girls have clean beautiful clothes to wear every single day and that is what matters. There are many children in this world that would love to have a the choice to twin with a sibling. People need to look at the world we live in and just scroll on by! Xx

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 6:11 pm

      YES!! You are so right, it’s crazy that anyone would feel the need to be so judgemental! If I see something I don’t like on social media I just carry on scrolling. I actually feel sad for people who take the time to be so critical and potentially, so hurtful. Twinning is winning!!! xx

      • November 19, 2017 / 8:06 am

        I wonder if they saw your post?? I hope they did and felt bad! Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove xx

  2. November 14, 2017 / 4:47 pm

    I’m with you and even if I wasn’t you have complete freedom to dress YOUR children the way YOU (OR THEY) want to dress, so ignore such judgmental comments! I love putting my girls in the same outfit 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 6:10 pm

      Thanks Helen, I hate that others are so quick to judge. I’m all about the twinning and if they don’t like it, don’t look! xx

  3. November 14, 2017 / 6:26 pm

    My Mum did this with me and my sister. Her reasoning was that if she lost one of us, she could point to the other so people knew what to look for. (not that she regularly lost one of us, just that that was her reasoning!)
    There are four years difference between my sister and I, and with myself being the oldest, I soon tired of looking like my “baby” sister.
    I think it’s great that it works for you and your girls, so BTW are beautiful, and to hell with what anyone else thinks.

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 7:07 pm

      Ahh thank you Justine. I think with there being such a small age gap between my girls it works for us right now. The clothes they were are age appropriate for both of them, with a larger age gap I’m not sure I would have liked it either! There are ten years between my boys and I definitely wouldn’t be twinning the two of them that’s for sure!! xx

  4. Julz
    November 14, 2017 / 8:01 pm

    Twinning is great fun. My youngest two girls are 2 and 4, we match them regularly, they love it. Mothercare do a basic range (£2 for £12), they both pick the same. There’s absolutely no harm in it. I’ve 2older children a boy almost 10 and a girl 12 will occasionally ask to have the same patterns if not same outfit like all to wear rainbows. I’ve a photo of three of them wearing big hero 6 tees. It’s fun. People need to not be so miserable.

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 10:00 pm

      Ahh that sounds adorable! I think it’s different if I was asking my 3 and 13 year old to twin, but when their outfits are age appropriate and they are wanting to be the same, I think it’s super cute! Love the rainbows idea, I bet they look amazing! xx

  5. November 14, 2017 / 8:10 pm

    They are twins to me because they look so alike. But that doesn’t make any difference on how they want to dress. That’s just so adorable that they want to be and look the same. Twinning is fab, especially when you’re actually not twins (but really they are right lol). Ignore the haters. I would imagine it’s just jealousy.

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 9:55 pm

      Haha sometimes I do look at them and wonder how they aren’t twins!! It’s crazy that they are the exact same size and weight. I think twinning is definitely a personal preference, I know some people who HATE it, but criticising someone for it really is odd behaviour!! I wonder if they have read this…..!! xx

  6. November 14, 2017 / 8:47 pm

    What a strange and bizarre message! I’m all about twinning and so far Max absolutely loves my attempts – I’m so aware that there will come a day when he won’t want to, and that’s fine, but for now he loves it and I’m making the most of that. Your girls clearly adore it too, what on earth could be damaging about that?!

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 9:52 pm

      I know!! But then you remember the drama of notebook-gate….I seem to attract these people!! I think twinning is sweet and special and while they are young it’s totally harmless! xx

  7. November 14, 2017 / 8:54 pm

    I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and I never realised that your girls weren’t twins! I always just assumed because they look so alike! I have two boys close together in age and I don’t like ‘twinning’ clothes, because their personalities are different and they like different things, but I don’t think there is any problem with twinning if people choose to do it. Some people just have too much time on their hands to find so much offence in everything!

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 9:51 pm

      Hah that’s so funny Emma, I think everyone assumes they are and I can totally see why! My girls are both very different in personality but in their choice of clothes they love the same things. It’s sad really that other parents can be so critical, I would never dream of going to the lengths of messaging someone to tell them they are damaging their children…even if I thought it! xx

  8. Lizzie
    November 14, 2017 / 8:57 pm

    I’ve the same age gap & I sometimes dressed Gem apart when little Zara was obviously smaller but now she’s slightly taller. They’ve recently said at 9 & 10 they’d like some things the same. To the sado who messaged you ✌🏼

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 9:49 pm

      Haha, it really is sad isn’t it? With them being in the same size it’s just so easy for me to buy two of everything! Plus sorting washing is so much easier without having to look at labels! xx

  9. November 14, 2017 / 9:05 pm

    Such gorgeous girls! I don’t see what could be wrong with twinning, especially when you have let the girls know they have the options (if one day they don’t want to dress the same). Seems like a lot of fun, especially whilst they’re young!

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 9:47 pm

      Exactly, I’m sure they will decide to wear something different at some point. So far the only time is when one is Anna and the other is Elsa! xx

  10. November 14, 2017 / 9:07 pm

    You are the parent and you know what’s best so carry on and go with your gut. Twinning is cool and your girls are gorgeous x

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 9:46 pm

      Thank you Melanie, they love to twin, I’d join them if I could! xx

  11. November 14, 2017 / 9:13 pm

    I’m not a fan of twinning on the whole (with twins anyway), but I think they look sweet (and the same with mums and kids). If they’re happy doing it then it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks

    • Laura Dove
      November 14, 2017 / 9:45 pm

      I totally agree Emma. I would never force my children to dress the same, although I know many who do, but I would never tell them that they can’t! They love being the same, it’s adorable how close they are, and yet they are both their own person with two VERY different personalities. They’ll grow out of it in their own time. xx

  12. November 14, 2017 / 10:20 pm

    I personally don’t like the twinning idea when a person is not actually a twin. However, I think it’s quite awesome to have a twin and do this with an actual twin. Your girls are adorable as well so you are definitely winning.

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:22 pm

      Thank you. I think everyone has an opinion on twinning, love it or hate it that’s not an issue. It’s just when people are openly judgemental that I find it really quite sad! Thank you for reading! xx

  13. November 14, 2017 / 10:38 pm

    Yes Laura, people who have an issue with it are definitely losers. Loved this post, your girls are beautiful and I think it’s so sweet they like to pretend they’re twins. There’s too much of an age gap between my boys for twinning but if they were closer in age I’d definitely do it xx

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:21 pm

      Ahh thank you Wendy. There’s 10 years between Lew and Harry or I too would be twinning the pair of them! Sometimes I try to colour co-ordinate Harry though…!! xx

  14. November 14, 2017 / 11:14 pm

    Oh I loved this post, your girls are so beautiful, it’s amazing how alike they look! My boys are 19 months apart.. and I have started to buy two of everything. Littlest doesn’t mind what he wears, but biggest loves to match his brother 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:19 pm

      Ahh thank you Rebecca, I bet they look super cute!! I think if children want to twin then it’s so much easier for parents, I find it way more practical! xx

  15. November 14, 2017 / 11:21 pm

    Wow what right does someone have to stay that? If they are happy then let them be, they have a choice and they choose to be the same, its fun at their age I’m sure.

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:18 pm

      I agree, at four and five it’s completely harmless and they love the fact that they are twinning! xx

  16. November 14, 2017 / 11:52 pm

    Wow… damaging? Who do they think they are! Your girls can dress however they want and it’s great that they love twinning even though they’re not actually twins. Ignore the trolls, it tends to be a sign that you’re doing well 😉 hahaha

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:16 pm

      Thank you Laura! Haha I said that to my friend, I’ve finally made it as a blogger because the trolls have come out to play! xx

  17. November 15, 2017 / 1:22 am

    It is so strange that this lady felt the need to send you this bizarre message. How can she judge your parenting on the basis of what your kids are wearing? Your girls are adorable and these pictures are so cute. I am so happy to see the lovely bond they share!

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:15 pm

      Thank you! I receive occasional odd messages from followers who disagree with my parenting choices. I always tell myself if this is the worst thing I do as a parent then I’m doing a great job! xx

  18. November 15, 2017 / 6:13 am

    Oh god there is always one isn’t there that gives their opinion and it’s not needed!! Your children you dress them how you blinking like ! I’d totally be doing the same lol ha x

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:15 pm

      Haha yes, exactly this!!!! xx

  19. November 15, 2017 / 6:35 am

    wow beautiful pic.

  20. November 15, 2017 / 7:11 am

    My boys sometimes wear the same outfits, often by choice. I love to see kids in matching clothes, it is super cute

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:12 pm

      I agree, and as long as they want to do it then I would never say they couldn’t! xx

  21. November 15, 2017 / 8:00 am

    I can’t believe that someone sent you that message, how very rude! I match my three girls (6, 4 and 2) and they love it! They don’t match everyday, but I’ve had endless tears when myself or family have bought them outfits and they are not the same. I’ve seen a few passive aggressive comments aimed at matching mums, saying that matching isn’t allowing their personalities to develop… but they are all so very different and definitley have their own personalities! I think at 6, 4 and 2 they should be playing, exploring and having fun, not deleloping a personal style! I’m sure that they will chose to express themselves through their clothes when they are older, but for now if they are happy, so am I! Your girls are just beautiful, and I’m shocked at how quick people are to judge!

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:11 pm

      YES!!! Exactly that Hannah, they are children and certainly don’t need to be expressing themselves through their outfits at this age! I see lots of comments about twinning, I think some people have a real problem with it (evidently!) and yet as long as a child is dressed in clean clothes I really don’t see why anybody would feel the need to comment on another child’s choices. It’s sad really, I often wonder who these people are and what has made them so quick to judge. xx

  22. November 15, 2017 / 8:19 am

    If I don’t read this I would not notice your daughters are not twin, but they really look like twin and both are beautiful. Young siblings like twinning especially when the age difference is not far. It’s a sort of bonding.

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:08 pm

      Ahh thank you Rose, I think that’s exactly what it is for my girls. It’s just a reflection of their need to be close and I would never tell them they couldn’t! xx

  23. November 15, 2017 / 9:53 am

    I can’t believe that someone messaged you about your girls. I think it’s nice that they’re both close enough to want to be ‘twins’ and as you said if it makes them happy then let them x

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:04 pm

      Exactly, it really isn’t harming anybody! xx

  24. November 15, 2017 / 10:10 am

    Such a shame that people feel the need to interfere when the girls are obviously so happy x

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:03 pm

      Thank you, I totally agree. xx

  25. November 15, 2017 / 10:19 am

    My little two are 14 months apart and spookily they are also the same height and shoe size, I wish I had of had two girls to dress similar (I have a girl and boy). I love that you match the girls outfits, it is adorable that they like being matching xx

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:03 pm

      Ahh thank you, I’m all about the twinning! It’s funny how they are the same size like my two but then there are just 12 months between Megs and Harry and she is SO much bigger! xx

  26. November 15, 2017 / 11:06 am

    I can’t believe that comment. “Damaging” really? How can it be damaging? They aren’t being forced to wear the same clothes! Like you say, they like wearing the same clothes because it unites them, shows that they are a unit and they can pretend to be a twin. I must be really damaging my two because mine have 4 years between them but they too love wearing the same clothes. I am going to continue to embrace it because for one it makes life easier. Twinning is always winning in my book. That’s why I got us all matching pjs 😉

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 5:02 pm

      I know! I totally understand that some people aren’t fans of twinning but to go as far as saying it is damaging is crazy! Ahh I can’t wait to see your matching PJ photos, I’m trying to convince Lewis to have matching PJ’s….at 13 he isn’t quite convinced! xx

  27. Vicky Robinson
    November 15, 2017 / 11:40 am

    Two of my girls were very alike and exactly the same size too. They were “twins” for a very long time, until the younger one grew way taller than her sister. They are 9 and 11 now and rarely dress alike any more as they naturally grew out of it. I still buy them some matching outfits mainly for fairness and they can choose when and how they wear them. They have a 7 year old sister who is also very tall and she often gets the same clothing too – again for fairness. They wear things as and how they want as I let them choose their own clothes everyday. It’s not damaging…I was one of three girls myself and my mother dressed us all alike most of the time and it’s made no difference to me at all!

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 4:56 pm

      Thanks Vicky, I am exactly the same. I buy two of everything mainly to prevent tantrums when one has something the other wants, and the fact they both want to wear the same is something which I think is really lovely! I think there are worse ways to “damage” your children! I bet your girls look super cute! xx

  28. November 15, 2017 / 3:36 pm

    I can’t believe how people can say things to upset others 🙁 they look great Laura and I bet they love having the same clothes. beautiful pictures and outfits 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 4:54 pm

      Thank you Claire, they really do enjoy having the same clothes. People can be so mean can’t they? xx

  29. November 15, 2017 / 4:19 pm

    My daughters don’t look in the slightest bit a like but they do enjoy wearing the same clothes sometimes. They also enjoy wearing different clothes. I know there is a theory about not dressing the kids the same and encouraging individuality but I think you totally have that base covered as well

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 4:52 pm

      I’m sure my girls will reach a point where they enjoy wearing different clothes, I think at this age they just love to be the same and that’s the innocence of childhood I guess. They are SO close, the very best of friends, and I know I wanted to be just like my best friend at the same age. I can guarantee they wont want to look the same by high school! xx

  30. November 15, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    I wrote a post about mom shaming recently. It’s a pity people think they have a right to judge mom’s. Smh

    • Laura Dove
      November 15, 2017 / 4:49 pm

      I totally agree, it’s really sad that others are so judgemental! xx

  31. November 15, 2017 / 5:40 pm

    Cant believe you got that message, its none of their business. I have 2 girls and they also have a year between them ( 4 and 5) and I dress them in matching outfits a lot.

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:45 am

      Thank you Melissa. Before I started blogging I would have been horrified by it but I hear so many stories from bloggers who have received personal messages attacking their choices. It’s a sad world when other parents are so quick to bring another parent down. xx

  32. November 15, 2017 / 6:26 pm

    Haters are always gonna hate, there’s nothing we can do about it. You’ve got two beautiful girls; that’s all that matters.

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:42 am

      Thank you Elizabeth, I certainly think so! xx

  33. November 15, 2017 / 7:57 pm

    This is what happens when people have nothing better to do in there lives, twinning is winning and the girls love it so whats the harm, its not like you’re forcing to be twinning but they choose to twin. Ignore that message

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:42 am

      Thanks Anosa. I know I have friends who say they were forced to twin with siblings and hated it, but my girls genuinely do want to be the same. I think it’s super cute! xx

  34. November 15, 2017 / 8:03 pm

    Totally up to you and your girls how you dress them. If they want to twin then why not? They have some gorgeous outfits here. My eldest occasionally wears the same as my little one and she loves it.

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:41 am

      Thank you Claire. I totally agree, plus it’s super cute! xx

  35. November 15, 2017 / 10:28 pm

    Your girls are absolutely beautiful.😍 And I cannot believe how they look the same when they are not twins.:-) I write a lot about positivity and looking at life in a way it makes us feel good and I find it fascinating (not in a good way:-)) how it always seems like negativity is stronger then positivity. We all recieve so many compliments and nice words from other people (just like you did with your girls) and we(yes, me too) always tend to focus on that one negative thought from some ‘weirdo’😄 who has nothing better to do than to offend people. I think you should’ve replied: Wow, you mean just like it’s damaging to you to take the time to write this comment to me? I can fix my ‘problem’ in a day if I want to, but how will you fix yours?!Lol

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:39 am

      Great response!! You are so right though, I receive so many wonderful compliments on my girls and those are the ones I should focus on absolutely. It’s strange that anyone feels the need to cast judgement on another parent. Live and let live. xx

  36. Sarah Ann
    November 15, 2017 / 11:31 pm

    People ate ridiculous. Your girls are beautiful and look how happy they are!

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:37 am

      Thank you, sometimes I think the world has gone mad!! xx

  37. November 16, 2017 / 12:19 am

    Who is this woman that says that twinning is damaging it is not! She needs to get over herself and get a life because at the end of the day its the kids choice to dress however they choose and if they want to twin it is none of that nosy judgmental woman’s business! Just know that you and your family are fabulous no matter what people say! x

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:29 am

      Thank you Ana. I find it more sad that this lady is a parent herself and must know how tough it is without negativity from other Mums. My girls twin because they love to match, they find comfort in it and actually it is something which makes them feel special. From my point of view I find it so practical to buy two of everything! I’m all about the twinning and if I could, I’d them!! xx

  38. November 16, 2017 / 12:57 am

    That is such a cute story. Even though they are born 15 months apart, they look just like twins. Lovely photographs!

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:27 am

      Thank you Khushboo, they couldn’t be more different in terms of personality! xx

  39. November 16, 2017 / 1:48 am

    Wow! I cannot believe someone would actually send a message like that. I do not have kids at the moment but I am very much certain that I would love to dress them alike whenever I have them. Guess some people just do not have anything better to do in life than to scrutinize other’s life.

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:27 am

      Thanks Aditi, you are so right. I find it really sad that something which my girls enjoy and which brings them comfort has been seen as a negative. There are worse things we could do than dress our children in beautiful, clean clothes! xx

  40. November 16, 2017 / 7:45 am

    Wooah! How rude. Why on earth would someone think it’s ok to send that message. First off it’s totally up to you and them what they do, secondly they look absolutely beautiful and the fact they love it is all that matters. I think there’s probably a bit of green-eyed monster there with your commentator, twinning is definitely winning and I love your photos. “Haters gonna hate” 😉

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:22 am

      Thank you Nichola. Haha you are so right, it’s crazy that anyone would feel the need to message another parent to criticise them. As long as my girls want to match I would never tell them they can’t! I personally think it’s adorable! xx

  41. November 16, 2017 / 9:55 am

    This is the cutest! Their bond is so close already! Just ignore the haters, people always give out unsolicited parenting advice and they can do one!

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:19 am

      Thanks Charlotte, I totally agree. If only we could all be as perfect! xx

  42. November 16, 2017 / 10:10 am

    How funny your girls look more like twins than my actual twin girls. I’m not a fan of twinning even with twins personally but each to their own. As long as you and your girls are happy just ignore the comments. #stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:18 am

      Haha thanks Amanda, they are very alike but incredibly different in terms of personality! For now they both love to match, who knows when that will stop but it’s so practical for me at the moment! xx

  43. November 16, 2017 / 10:12 am

    Yours girls are beautiful and I actually thought they were twins before I read this post. I can’t see the harm in dressing them the same and I can’t believe someone would send you a message saying as much – please ignore them and carry on being a great mum! #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:18 am

      Thank you Amy, that’s so lovely of you to say. It’s crazy how other people feel the need to comment, it you don’t like something just keep on scrolling!! xx

  44. November 16, 2017 / 10:23 am

    The internet can be a wonderful place but it can also bring out the worst in people. It’s like when people scream at other motorists from the safety of their tin-pot car, these keyboard warriors have no idea of the hurt they cause. Or perhaps they do. Either way, someone usually ends up hurt. Always easier to say, but try to not let these comments sink in – brush them off before they have time to stick at the end of the day it’s usually the one commenting that has the deep-seated issues! Enjoy you children, family and friends and ignore the rest. #SharingtheBlogLove

  45. November 16, 2017 / 11:02 am

    I think your “Not Twins” Twins are simply divine. Its funny how this lady you talk about complained about the “damage” your doing by dressing them in the same outfits. My daughter is 15 and she and her buddies all still more or less dress the same. It they are going to a party and decide its Jeans then all fourteen of them will wear jeans and tops . Children delight in looking the same from early on in their childhood it makes them feel included happy and secure. Maybe you could pass that message on to your friend on Instagram. x

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 11:11 am

      Thank you so much for that Kathryn, that’s so true!! I was exactly the same when I was younger, I wanted to look just like my friends and I remember my best friend and I both bought the same outfit and wore it whenever possible! I think it’s a lovely, innocent, thing to do and to cast negativity on it is so uncalled for. Thank you for reading. xxx

  46. Jess
    November 16, 2017 / 11:32 am

    ‘Damaging to dress them the same’ – Come off it. Who would even bother saying something so daft? I can’t believe people have the audacity to pick up on the most simple things parents do. If you kids are happy, it’s not an issue.

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 2:14 pm

      I know!! Who has the time to write messages to random strangers about things that don’t concern them? So strange! xx

  47. November 16, 2017 / 1:48 pm

    Ugh, what a ridiculous comment! Your girls are gorgeous and even better that they love matching outfits. I twin my boys quite often (and sometimes even join in 😂) and they LOVE it. How can that be damaging? Well done for addressing this. xo

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 2:12 pm

      Thanks lovely. It’s crazy that people have such strong opinions on something so harmless!! If they want to match then who is that hurting? People are strange, but I will always think that twinning is winning! xx

  48. November 16, 2017 / 2:07 pm

    I kind of agree that forcing children to dress the same all the time could be damaging. BUT 1, I would never ever message someone that because, well that’s just mean and none of her business and 2, it is clear that your girls are happy, you are not forcing them into anything nor pretending they are twins, they just happen to look like they are and exactly the same (and super cute at that!) Whilst I don’t usually fully twin with my girls and never thought I would either (I am one of three girls and even in the 80’s it was a thing, hello matching shellsuits haha) I have to agree with you that sometimes it is so much easier to get the same because they actually want it. They love each other so much they just WANT to be the same, anything for a peaceful and happier life I say! x #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 2:12 pm

      I totally agree, forcing children to wear the same can be damaging, I know friends who were forced to twin and hated it. But it reached a point where the girls were having melt downs over not wearing the same and with them being the same size it was so practical to buy two of everything! I’m sure in a few years time they wouldn’t be seen dead in matching outfits but for now, I’m all over it!! xx

  49. November 16, 2017 / 2:11 pm

    Your girls are gorgeous and so are all of their outfits! So cute. My sister and I are 20 months apart and used to wear some matching things when we were little, we never looked as similar as your girls though! x #SharingtheBlogLove

  50. November 16, 2017 / 2:34 pm

    Ignore the troll. She probably has nothing better to do. Love the twinning! So cute!

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 3:11 pm

      Thank you lovely! xx

  51. November 16, 2017 / 8:30 pm

    Cheeky buggers! My identical twins don’t often wear the same clothes now as they love different items and colours. But on holiday I dressed them the same or same but different and I loved it! They loved it too as it was fun and special I always clothes. Someone will moan at whatever you do, and it really doesn’t matter. Well done on bringing it up, I hope they read all these supportive comments. If their happy then that’s all that matters

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:29 pm

      I totally agree Steph, someone will always criticise no matter what your choices. I think twinning is beautiful, just as it is to wear individual outfits, either way whatever makes them happy! xx

  52. November 16, 2017 / 9:58 pm

    I think they look adorable whether they are dressed the same or not. I’d ignore the comment, they are clearly just trying to provoke a reaction.

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:26 pm

      Thanks Melanie, you are so right! People like that love a reaction! xx

  53. November 16, 2017 / 10:02 pm

    They are so pretty and adorable. For me, you are truly blessed for having them. I always dream to have at least one child and to have twins would be superb!

    • Laura Dove
      November 16, 2017 / 10:26 pm

      Ahh thank you. I am very lucky indeed! xx

  54. November 17, 2017 / 2:37 am

    People can be so damn ridiculous. They have no right to criticise you like that. Your girls look so happy and sure them getting along so closely and playing at twinning is so much better than sibling rivalry and hating each other! xxx

    • Laura Dove
      November 17, 2017 / 9:56 am

      Thank you, that is so true! I am just grateful that my girls are best friends and that twinning makes all our lives a little easier to keep everyone happy! xx

  55. November 17, 2017 / 10:35 am

    Oh my goodness they are simply adorable – and they look so alike! My children have a bigger age gap and look different and when they were younger I dressed them the same too – they loved it! Ignore everyone else!

    • Laura Dove
      November 17, 2017 / 9:46 pm

      Ahh thank you Ali. As long as children enjoy twinning then its completely harmless. There are certainly worse ways to damage your children! xx

  56. November 17, 2017 / 11:36 am

    Oh how adorable!!! These pictures are SO cute. I love their Halloween costumes, they look amazing x

    • Laura Dove
      November 17, 2017 / 9:43 pm

      Ahh thank you, they were so sweet together as zombie brides! xx

  57. November 17, 2017 / 1:53 pm

    Why do people feel the need to post such an inaccurate criticism? Carry on twinning is all I can say. Beautiful girls x
    Thanks for joining #stayclasymama

    • Laura Dove
      November 17, 2017 / 9:39 pm

      Thank you Helen, I will never understand why people are so judgemental! xx

  58. November 18, 2017 / 3:33 pm

    Oh my word! I can’t believe that person. Who do they think they are? If your girls are happy with twinning (and they clearly are) then long may it continue. It is in no way damaging at all. I have identical twin nieces and they havent twinned since they were 2. One is all about Princesses and the other is all about Marvel and superheros. Each to their own. As long as your girls are happy, that’s all that matters!

  59. November 19, 2017 / 1:39 pm

    Hands down twinning is always winning. I twin with my daughter and I love it, plus we look great as well as your darling girls.

    • Laura Dove
      November 19, 2017 / 4:52 pm

      Thank you. I totally agree, I think twinning is such a lovely thing to do and its sad that others are so negative about it! xx

  60. November 20, 2017 / 10:40 pm

    I think twinning is so cute, if I had another daughter they’d definitely dress the same! #StayClassyMama

    • Laura Dove
      November 21, 2017 / 2:36 pm

      Me too! I don’t get how anyone could take offence at it! xx

  61. November 21, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    I totally thought your girls were twins! Shows how much attention I pay doesn’t it!! I cannot believe someone would say that to you… why do some people have to voice their opinions on everything that doesn’t concern them!! Oh it makes me cross! Your photos always make me smile! Such beautiful girls x

    • Laura Dove
      November 21, 2017 / 10:19 pm

      Ahh thank you Sonia, everyone assumes they are, and they love to pretend they are too! I will never understand why people feel the need to interfere! xx

  62. November 21, 2017 / 9:19 pm

    There are 15 months between me and my baby sister and my mum did exactly the same thing when we were little so I can categorically tell you that it is not in the slightest bit ‘damaging’ – why people feel the need to send such ridiculous messages voicing their opinions…honestly!! I think your girls always look so sweet when they twin and you are absolutely right…it probably won’t last but whilst they are loving it there is no harm at all!

    • Laura Dove
      November 21, 2017 / 10:18 pm

      Thank you so much Jess. I think when the age gaps are so small it’s lovely! I can understand if they were 3 and 13 like my boys! xx

  63. November 22, 2017 / 11:22 pm

    I think your girls are adorable and if you want to dress them the same, and more importantly they want to dress the same then that is no-ones business but yours! Is not as if you’re forcing them to do it! I regularly match my boys (not usually in identical clothes, but sometimes) and there’s two years between them. If they ever tell me they don’t want to do it then that’s absolutely fine – more often than not though they ask if they want to be matching 🙂 #SharingTheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      November 23, 2017 / 10:21 am

      Thank you Sarah. They are so close and I think it’s so lovely that they want to be the same. That wont always be the case but for now I am happy that they have such a great relationship. xx

  64. November 23, 2017 / 6:52 am

    Wow. Sometimes people suck! I think your girls are adorable, twinning or not. They clearly enjoy dressing the same so why wouldn’t you let them? Like you said if dressing them the same is the worst thing you’re doing, you’re clearly doing an awesome job. Keep up the good work. And if anyone else says something similar send back a photo of you wearing the outfit too. Because you’re clearly actually triplets. #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      November 23, 2017 / 10:16 am

      Hahaha thank you. I totally get it’s not for everyone but I would never dream of telling someone something so innocent was damaging their child! Some people are strange aren’t they? xx

  65. November 23, 2017 / 9:39 am

    Just popping back from #SharingtheBlogLove It’s so wonderful to see you receiving more positive messages, proof that you should ignore those who decide to hate on people.

    • Laura Dove
      November 23, 2017 / 10:15 am

      Thank you Kirsty. xxx

  66. November 23, 2017 / 9:43 am

    Ignore that crazy lady and her comment!! You know as mum what you are doing. I do have twins, and I swore I wouldn’t dress them identically, yet often they are, just because (with boys clothes) there weren’t 2 different t shirts with the same character on, or they want to both wear the same, or when we are out it is so much easier to keep an eye on them!! Enjoy it while you can, it is very cute #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      November 23, 2017 / 10:14 am

      I totally agree, it’s just practical and prevents melt downs! I think it’s really sweet while they’re young and if people don’t like it that’s fine but keep their opinions to themselves! xx

  67. November 23, 2017 / 10:23 am

    I’m a twin and we had different colours of the same out fit, some matching and some not. I think my mum was encouraging independence. But who cares and who knows. They look happy and I doubt it makes any difference. I love that you’ve got 2 positive people born so close together. #SharingtheBloggingLove

  68. November 24, 2017 / 2:40 pm

    Wow indeed! Just a ‘nice pic don’t they look cute’ comment would have been enough! Like you say, its their choice and they want to wear the same. I am a twin and when we hit secondary school our own styles developed but before then we did dress the same, same haircuts, everything, Now we look back and love playing a game of who’s who. Also, it certainly didn’t damage us, we are defiantly our own people now. #sharingthebloglove

  69. November 24, 2017 / 10:27 pm

    Your girls are gorgeous, beautiful and happy and have lovely clothes, at 4 and 5 if they didn’t want to wear something they would certainly let you know about it. My girls have totally different clothes likes at the moment, one lives in leggings and t-shirts and the other dresses and tights, I would love them to wear the same outfit!

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