The Story Of Us

It always amazes people when I tell them that Gaz and I have only been together for a few years. Four years and seven months to be exact. And it amazes people even more that in that time we have managed to fit in a wedding and three children. When we look back at the last few years, it amazes US!!

Gaz and I grew up in the same village and went to the same high school, although two school years apart, a fact that he likes to remind me of whenever possible. In our late teens and throughout my first marriage we socialized in the same circles and following my divorce we found ourselves back on the “singles circuit” where we would bump into each other, usually absolutely hammered, on a Saturday night in Wetherspoons.

After weeks of flirtation, using all of his best chat up lines and relentlessly pursuing me, and that’s the story that I’m sticking to, I finally gave in and agreed to go on a date with him. It sounds crazy but I knew even then that it would be my last ever first date and for that reason I was nervous as hell!!

We met at the train station one Saturday afternoon in the October, me more than a little bit tipsy from the two glasses of wine I had downed for dutch courage, and got on the train to Manchester. And where as most men would usually take that opportunity to tell their date how beautiful they look, compliment them on their dress or their hair, Gaz decided that now was the time to tell me that I have “the arm span of a condor”.

And we laughed from start to finish. We had a beautiful meal, drank far more than we should have and we talked about every subject imaginable until our jaws ached and our sides hurt from laughing. Gaz escorted me home like the perfect gentleman where he stayed until the early hours playing Mario Kart on the Wii, me wearing my pink, fleece, Primark onesie, and I knew then that he was a keeper.

Within two weeks of our first date I went away to Spain on holiday with Lewis and it was during that time that I realised just how much I had fallen for him. It was strange to suddenly feel this way about someone I had known for almost half my life and yet as lovely as the holiday was, I couldn’t wait to get back home to him. Within hours of landing he was there on my doorstep and that night, just two weeks after our first date, we said I love you for the very first time.

By the December Gaz had become a permanent fixture at our house, staying over most nights, playing Lewis on the Wii or discussing WWE wrestling figures with him. The way that Lewis accepted him, and watching the two of them together, just sealed the deal for me. Finding someone who loved me was one thing, but finding someone who loved my son was another.

In January Gaz moved in. By the May he had proposed and we were expecting Eva by the end of the Summer. If anyone thought that we were moving too fast they didn’t say, but for us it just felt right and as the saying goes, when you know, you just know.

People often ask how did Lewis cope with the whirlwind of events and I can honestly say, hand on heart, that he welcomed every step of it. When he found out that Gaz had an X-box he was practically begging him to move in (“You will be bringing your X-box though, right?”), when we got engaged and Gaz asked him to be his best man, Lewis could not have been prouder. And when we told him that he would be having a baby sister, after his initial disappointment, (“A girl?? Can we not just find someone who is having a boy and ask them to swap?”), he was absolutely over the moon and any worries that I’d had were completely forgotten. We were a family and as much as Gaz and I had fallen in love, Gaz had equally fallen in love with Lewis too.

For the first time in my life I felt truly happy. I felt protected and cared for and after years of feeling that I wasn’t good enough, I felt like the most important woman in the world to this man. It wasn’t all perfect by any means, there were times like any normal couple when we would argue and bicker and yet the difference was that we would always talk things through and nine times out of ten we would end up laughing so much that we couldn’t even remember what we were arguing about in the first place.

It was easy. And that was the best part. I didn’t have to try to be someone I wasn’t or act a certain way when I wasn’t feeling up to it. Gaz accepted me for all of my ups and downs, all of my baggage and insecurities and he did everything in his power to make me happy, gain my trust and make me smile. And he did.

The following May, when the sun was cracking the flags and there wasn’t a single cloud in the sky, with Lewis at my side and Eva in my arms, I stood beside the man of my dreams and said, “I do”. And as we walked back down the aisle as husband and wife, with our two beautiful children, I wanted to freeze that moment forever. I had never felt happier, prouder or more complete and I could not imagine a time when life would be any better than it was right there and then.

And so by the time our first wedding anniversary came around and we were in hospital with a two day old Megan, we couldn’t believe our luck.

And by the time our second anniversary came around and we were back in that same hospital, being induced with Harry, we were both ecstatic and hysterical.

So it feels somewhat strange today to be celebrating our third wedding anniversary without a newborn baby or the imminent arrival of another. Instead we are sat here, still in our pyjamas, watching the children play and discussing what we need on the shopping list from Tesco later. The house is a mess, there’s still a second birthday to clean up from and a first birthday to plan for. We have no grand plans for a weekend away, even a meal out, and infact we will probably mark our anniversary with a chippy tea and watching Big Brother. And yet everything is exactly as it should be. This, right here and now, is everything that I have ever wanted.

And its funny because they say you can spend your whole life looking for the man of your dreams and it turns out that actually, he was right there infront of you the whole time.

And so he was.

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22 Comments

  1. January 16, 2017 / 8:54 am

    I love your stories! And you looked gorgeous on your wedding day BTW #postsfromtheheart

    • Laura Dove
      January 16, 2017 / 9:46 am

      Thanks lovely, it was an amazing day! Feels like a long time ago these days! xx

  2. January 16, 2017 / 9:24 am

    Totally just cried! With happiness I must add! Such a beautiful share and beautiful wedding day #PostsFromTheHeart xx

    • Laura Dove
      January 16, 2017 / 9:45 am

      Aww thank you Alex. I’ve been so lucky to find my happy ending! xxx

  3. January 16, 2017 / 9:55 am

    I love this story so much. We too are a blended family with Number One being from my first marriage. She has relished living in a family (rather than just as a two) and dotes on her baby brother. You are right, when it’s right you just know. I’m so glad you found your happy ending, I think it means all the more when you haven’t experienced it the first time. Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful journey with us at #PostsFromTheHeart and giving me the pleasure of reading it.

    • Laura Dove
      January 16, 2017 / 10:10 am

      Ahh thank you. I agree, you really appreciate family life second time round. I was very lucky that Lewis and Gaz bonded so easily, and your daughter and husband too, but I know friends really struggled with their children not accepting their new partner. That must be so hard! I am really enjoying your linky, thank you so much for hosting! xx

  4. January 16, 2017 / 11:28 am

    Your story just swept me away, and I think I fell in love all over again with my own husband. Our own marriage was also quite quick, and I absolutely agree with what you said. “If anyone thought that we were moving too fast they didn’t say, but for us it just felt right and as the saying goes, when you know, you just know.” True with us—only my mom said something, but really no one else. And now, seven years after, we are still a very happy family. I have to admit I never knew this would be everything that I’d want, but I can’t imagine any higher happiness than what I have now. Thank you so much for sharing! I really really love it!
    #Postsfromtheheart

    • Laura Dove
      January 17, 2017 / 7:42 pm

      Aww thank you Jackie. I think people will always be sceptical when things move fast, especially when like me you have a failed marriage behind you, but I had been single for two years by the point that Gaz and I began to date and I knew exactly what I wanted in life. Our marriage isn’t perfect by any means, there have been times over the last three years when we had a newborn, one and two years old, that we wanted to kill eachother, but I think love is about working at it every single day and never giving up without a fight. You’re right, it’s only when you find real happiness that you realise it was everything you’ve ever wanted. I’m so glad that you can relate to this. xxx

    • Laura Dove
      January 17, 2017 / 7:38 pm

      Thank you Hayley. xxx

  5. January 16, 2017 / 2:04 pm

    Your wedding pictures are stunning. We don’t do much on our anniversary either, were 4 years married but 14 altogether ( yes I deserve a medal).

    • Laura Dove
      January 17, 2017 / 7:36 pm

      Haha you really do!! My ex husband and I were together for 11 years but only married for five so I’m excited that this May Gaz and I will have beaten my record. I better be on my best behaviour until then! xx

  6. January 16, 2017 / 6:49 pm

    What a beautiful beautiful love story 🙂 I can’t get over how beautiful your wedding dress train is. Your story would make an excellent movie! I mean it! 😉 #PostsFromTheHeart

    • Laura Dove
      January 17, 2017 / 7:35 pm

      Ahh thank you Sara. I definitely got my happy ending, he’s a keeper no doubt about it. xxx

  7. January 17, 2017 / 11:04 am

    What a lovely post Laura. It’s so amaing when you meet the love of your life. I hope you continue to have many more happy years together xx

    • Laura Dove
      January 17, 2017 / 7:33 pm

      Thank you Nicola. I can’t believe that he was right there all of the time! xx

  8. January 20, 2017 / 6:51 pm

    awww this is just the cutest thing ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am a massive lover of men (or women) who take on another persons child as their own. As a child who was pretty much raised my whole life by a step-parent (who i asked to adopt me) I know how lovely being raised in a home where you know you’re loved can be!
    I am so glad you found your prince charming – i too found mine 7 years after we first met in college. once a friend who i always crushed over – turns out he was the one I was looking for and like you say – it is so easy.
    I am so pleased you finally got the family life everyone wants and deserves.
    we are very lucky ladies to have found our soul mates xx #PostsFromTheHeart

    • Laura Dove
      January 20, 2017 / 8:18 pm

      Thank you. I think it takes someone very special to take on another mans child, Im so glad that you had such a wonderful Stepdad and can relate to this. It’s funny how a friend can suddenly become so much more, things moved so fast with Gaz and I but because we were friends, we skipped the whole getting to know you stage and just jumped in to let’s get married and have babies!! Thank you for reading. xxx

  9. January 21, 2017 / 9:57 pm

    It’s lovely to read about you and I know what you mean about everything falling into place. #PostsFromTheHeart

    • Laura Dove
      January 22, 2017 / 11:01 am

      Thank you Helena. xxx

  10. January 24, 2017 / 5:45 pm

    Oh Laura, this is the most beautiful love story. It really made me smile and put a lump in my throat. And I loved Lewis’ reaction to finding out he was having a baby sister. Priceless. You have such a beautiful family. And I am so glad that you found the man of your dreams. Hugs Lucy xxxx Popping over, very belatedly due to a sick family, from #PostsfromtheHeart xxxx

    • Laura Dove
      January 24, 2017 / 9:04 pm

      Aww thanks lovely. I’ve been very lucky, had you told me I’d be where I am now, seven years ago, I’d never have believed it! xx

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