Why my on-line friends became my best friends

“So, how did you meet?”

It’s the question we always dread, knowing that our story isn’t conventional, that we don’t have a history of shared childhoods, schools, work mates or mutual friends. And despite the fact that meeting a partner via a dating site or on social media is perfectly acceptable these days, when it comes to meeting friends on-line, it still seems to be something that others find quite strange!

I have mentioned before that during my pregnancy with Lewis, as a first time Mum in my early twenties, with none of my friends pregnant or having children, I joined a baby website for advice and support. I found it invaluable to chat with other pregnant ladies, to sympathise over morning sickness, leg cramps and 2am cheese burger cravings, nervously counting down to our due dates, sharing birth stories, announcements, and developing friendships that have stood the test of time.

During my pregnancy with Joseph, it was a given that I would join an on-line antenatal forum rather than go to my local NCT classes, finding it far easier to chat away on the laptop, in the comfort of my own home, during those rare moments when a one year old Lewis napped. My pregnancy with Joseph was very different to Lewis’s in that I was consultant led, having fortnightly scans, being monitored three times a week, and I spent a lot of time seeking reassurance from ladies in the group who had been through similar.

It may seem strange to others but despite being virtual strangers, all of us due in the Summer of 2006, we talked to each other about absolutely everything. Not just pregnancies and babies, but everything else in between, ranging from the mundane to the completely obscure. Some nights we stayed up until one in the morning, too uncomfortable to sleep, chatting about our day, what we had watched on TV or cooked for dinner that night, our plans for the weekend with our “real life friends” as we used to refer to them, never quite knowing what that made each other. We shared countless photos, stories, secrets of our sex lives and cervical positions, and I have some hilarious memories of those days, getting to know each other through late night chats on MSN, laughing ourselves stupid, with Joseph kicking away in my tummy, making plans to meet up in the summer with the babies in tow.

In that final week of July it was those ladies who I turned to for advice when I felt Joseph’s movements reduce. It was them to whom I voiced my concerns on the day before our lives changed irreversibly, and them who I text from the hospital to say that my baby had died. And although I was very fortunate to have family and friends who were beside me throughout the weeks and months that followed, I was also incredibly lucky to have an amazing group of women, from right across the country, holding my hand at a distance.

And I think that going through something like that changes everything, be that in the way it strengthens friendships, or destroys them. I found that afterwards, for some people, my loss was bigger than our friendships ever were, and for others it was the very thing that brought us together; an experience which we shared, bonding us in a way that others couldn’t possibly imagine. And as the years passed, with every baby I lost and every struggle I faced, it was those ladies who held me up and kept me going. When my marriage fell apart and I couldn’t see a way forward, it was them to whom I cried, albeit at opposite ends of the country, and who reminded me that I had already been through worse and I would survive this in just the same way.

I have been very lucky to meet so many of these lovely ladies in “real life” over the years. We have shared coffee dates, nights out and weekends away with, and without, all of the children. And whilst it was hard in the early days to watch their babies meet their milestones, knowing that my own son did not, it has also been an absolute privilege to see them flourish into the most beautiful bunch of ten year olds, growing up way too fast, and I have so much love and pride for each of them.

And whilst I consider all of those ladies good friends, as with any group, there will always be friendships that develop, groups that form, and bonds that strengthen with time. And for me, that was with two of those ladies, Laura and Beth, the kindest, most hilarious, craziest of ladies I’ve ever met, and they fast went from being strangers on a screen to two of my very best friends.

It was them who I turned to when I hit rock bottom, who checked up on me throughout the years I was single, who whooped for joy when I met Gaz, announced our engagement and began trying for a baby. It was them who I tentatively sent a photo of my positive pregnancy tests to,  year after year after year, who I text throughout my labours, a running commentary of my induction, and shared the very first photos of our little doves, babies who they went on to meet, and love, over the years.

And it was them who I spent the evening with on the night before my wedding, meeting Beth for the very first time in seven years as she, her husband and children travelled to be guests at our wedding, just dreading the moment when someone asked around the table, “So how do you know Laura?”.

This weekend, when we travelled to Scotland to share in Laura’s hen party, in the same way that my best friend has adopted Beth and Laura as her own, Laura’s friends couldn’t have been any more welcoming. Despite it being just the third time that the three of us have been in the same place in eleven years, it felt as though no time at all had passed since the last.

And it’s safe to say that we had the most fun, eating all the food, drinking far too many cocktails, dancing until the clubs closed, and laughing until our sides hurt. And although I’m still suffering today, and the thought of vodka is turning my stomach, it was completely worth it to spend time with two of my favourite people in all the world.

I always tell myself that although losing Joseph was the hardest thing I have ever been through, having him was the very best. Although our time together was far too short, he left me with two of the best friends I could ever hope for who will be by my side for a lifetime. And despite the fact that we couldn’t live any further apart, or that with such busy lives we don’t get to see each other as often as we would like, if they needed me I would always be there, and vice versa. And so although our friendship may not have began in the most conventional of ways, my on-line friends turned out to be the very best.

 

 

 

 

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128 Comments

  1. February 6, 2017 / 9:55 pm

    This is just so lovely. I haven’t been moved to tears by a post in a little while. You are so lucky to have such great friends, and to see the good that has come from you tragedy. I need to text a few old friends to tell them how much they mean to me now. #bigpinklink

    • Laura Dove
      February 7, 2017 / 9:35 am

      Ahh thank you so much. I really have been very lucky to have such supportive friends, both on line, in real life and crossing over too! Friendship means everything to me! xx

  2. February 6, 2017 / 11:05 pm

    The whole internet friendship thing seems to be becoming less of a taboo each year.
    Give it 10-20 years and nobody will bat an eyelid if you say you met on a forum or dating site.

    • Laura Dove
      February 7, 2017 / 9:34 am

      Oh I agree, I think people are way more accepting of meeting a partner on line, it’s becoming so common! The internet is amazing really, to be able to meet people you wouldn’t ordinarily have met, amazing! xx

  3. February 7, 2017 / 10:24 am

    What a lovely post! I too was the first of my ‘real life’ friends to have a baby and so it was pretty lonely and very daunting when I found out I was pregnant. Then I came across a Facebook group of ladies who were due around the same time as me and we’ve been supporting each other over since. I hope I develop long standing relationships with them like you have. #bigpinklink

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:49 am

      That’s lovely Amy. I think when you are going through something that nobody else in your life can relate to, the internet can offer so much support and help you feel a little less lonely. I wouldn’t have survived half of what I went through without these ladies, I hope that you and your friends continue to support each other in the same way. xx

  4. Jen
    February 7, 2017 / 12:01 pm

    Lovely to read of the bond you guys made together, though a very difficult time for you, but it has continued and that is wonderful. I’ve made some of my closest friends though similar and I’m never afraid to say we met online, although trying to explain that to my non-techy Mother is the hardest thing ever!

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:48 am

      Haha yes! My Mum was SO worried the first time I met up with these ladies, I think she expected them to be some kind of sexual predator in disguise or an axe murderer luring me to my death!! I had to promise that we met in a public place and phone her as soon as we got there! xx

  5. Scott Taylor
    February 7, 2017 / 12:13 pm

    What an amazing and emotional fuelled story! I think the internet can get a bad rap at times, and online dating can be fraught with peril. But I know I have made some very good friends at least online, people who I trust and love, and are always there for a chat, or spare time to make you smile.

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:47 am

      Thank you. I agree, there are many negatives to the internet and yet so many positives! Without it I would never have met these ladies, from all corners of the country, and I am so grateful for that! xx

  6. February 7, 2017 / 12:15 pm

    What a gorgeous post darling…I have to admit I feel very lucky to have been blessed with some amazing online friends though blogging too. The amazing power of the internet! xoxo

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:46 am

      Thanks Talya. I think it’s inevitable to form friendships, especially through blogging, and I have loved making friends over the last two years with fellow bloggers, yourself included. xx

  7. February 7, 2017 / 12:20 pm

    This is great – too often people dismiss your online friends for not being ‘real’ friends. Well, I communicate with my online friends more than I communicate with my ‘real’ ones. Yes, it’s mostly via What’s App, and I haven’t met them in person yet, but these ladies have been such a source of support during the first year and a half of my daughter’s life. Most of my ‘real’ friends don’t have children, so it’s so important to me to have friends I can share mum stuff with – even if it’s through my phone. #DreamTeam

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:45 am

      I completely relate to this, I’ve had my “real” friends find it strange that I am so close to a group of women who I have barely met, or EVER met, but I think when you share a pregnancy with someone, and develop a bond as the babies grow, it binds you together forever in some ways. For me, with losing Joseph, these ladies were there for me every step of the way, you can’t go through someone like that without forging a bond. xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:43 am

      Thank you Kristin. xxx

  8. February 7, 2017 / 1:30 pm

    Such a lovely story:) It’s amazing where we can find friends for life! I met one of my best friends online as well. It’s been about 9 years ago and we talk almost every day. But the funny thing is, we only saw each other ONCE in real life!:D

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:43 am

      I completely relate to that!! I have only met one of these ladies four times ever, and the other just six times, but it honestly feels as though I see them every single day and when we meet up its like no time at all has passed!! xx

  9. February 7, 2017 / 2:13 pm

    Gorgeous photos. Gorgeous friends. So lovely to read about your journey with them. Alison x #DreamTeam

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:42 am

      Thank you Alison. They are the best! xx

  10. February 7, 2017 / 3:26 pm

    Beautifully written, I too have met some of my closest friends online. When I first started blogging, my now best friend reached out to me and a couple of others via a group that she ran and suggested a blogger meet up. We have been best friends ever since and she is one of the only people that I can tell everything and anything to xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:41 am

      Aww that’s so lovely! Since I started blogging I have met some amazing friends on line too, some I have met already and some I perhaps never will. I think when you meet someone who you connect with, it doesn’t matter how you met! xx

  11. February 7, 2017 / 4:59 pm

    This is so lovely. I joined a Facebook group of Mums all expecting at the same time, and they have been a constant source of support and friendship, through tough times and awesome times. I’ve only met one of them in real life, but they’re my first port of call if there’s something I want to rant about, or share with the world. #twinklytuesday

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:40 am

      I think it’s way more common than you think these days to meet people on line. Perhaps 11 years ago when we all met it wasn’t quite as common and I know people did think it was slightly odd to be friends with someone you had never met. I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for those ladies though! xx

  12. February 7, 2017 / 8:13 pm

    There is so much negativity about ‘meeting people online’ and this is testament to all the good there is as well. This is a lovely story and how lucky you are to have them as your best friends. #twinklytuesday

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:38 am

      I agree, my “real life friends” found it quite strange that I suddenly had this new group of friends who I had never even met, but I think I am very lucky to have them all! xx

  13. February 7, 2017 / 8:13 pm

    #candidcuddles #marvmondays the story of how is only yours and there’s – the history is yours also. Honesty is more important than the how – lovely poinient post

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:38 am

      Thank you. We often joke that we should fabricate a back story of how we met (I suggested a mental asylum!), but I think we will go with the truth, that we found each other through the hardest times of our lives. xx

  14. February 7, 2017 / 9:04 pm

    Great friends are those you trust and can turn to, those you feel are there for you and whether you met them face to face first or on line doesn’t affect this. You all sounds like the best of chums. #MarvMondays

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:33 am

      Completely agree Fiona, and these girls have been there for me through thick and thin. That’s the true test of friendship! xx

  15. February 7, 2017 / 11:29 pm

    That’s what I love about the internet. We can find our people no matter the distance.

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:32 am

      You’re so right, the internet is amazing for that! xx

  16. Laura Quinn
    February 8, 2017 / 12:36 am

    Love this post, I met my best friend on the same site as you in the same way, 9 years later we’re still really close despite the fact that I live in Liverpool and she lives in Cardiff we manage to see each other a few times a year in school holidays and talk frequently through the week. I always give a nervous laugh when asked how we know each other as like you say it’s not the ‘done’ thing lol

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:31 am

      Aww babyworld was great for forming friendships wasn’t it? I’m not far from Liverpool and my friend Beth is down in Wales so we are in a similar situation. I so wish we lived closer but we chat all the time and make the effort to meet up. Distance is nothing when you have a true friend! xx

  17. February 8, 2017 / 9:19 am

    I don’t have any close friends in ‘real life’, but do have friends online, some I have met up with a few times, and it feels like because the friendship starts online, it makes us closer as I feel I can talk about more private things than I could to someone face to face #bestandworst

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 9:29 am

      I completely agree, I think it is always easier to talk to someone online than face to face, especially about things that are more personal. I have friends who I have never even met and yet they know more about me than some of my best friends! xx

  18. February 8, 2017 / 9:42 am

    Aww such a moving post. You are so lucky to have best friends and they are lucky to have you 🙂

  19. Laura's Lovely Blog
    February 8, 2017 / 9:58 am

    This is a wonderful blog post and so heartwarming what lovely friendships you have made to be grateful of, it doesn’t matter how you met friendship is friendship.

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:22 pm

      Thank you. I am so lucky to have some amazing ladies in my life! xxx

  20. February 8, 2017 / 10:12 am

    This is so beautiful. How lovely to have made friends online like this – friends that have really been there for you throughout the most difficult times of your life and celebrating the happy times. It’s one of the most wonderful things about the online world – being able to connect with people in this way; people who may never have come into our lives otherwise. I love that final quote about friendship – so very true. #bloggerclubuk

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:22 pm

      Thank you Louise. I love the internet in as many ways as I loathe it, but I think finding friends has been such a huge positive! I doubt I would ever have found them without the internet, although I do like to think that I might! xx

  21. February 8, 2017 / 10:16 am

    This is so lovely, they sound like such wonderful friends to have. Before blogging I had never thought about making friends online now I talk to so many wonderful people who I now class as friends too x

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:21 pm

      I think blogging definitely brings about friendships, it’s so common now to meet a partner on line, why shouldn’t we also find friendships? xx

  22. February 8, 2017 / 10:51 am

    this is a lovely story! I’m glad technology has changed your life for the better! I think that’s how we should use it, rather than to replace existing relations, to find new ones 🙂 x

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:20 pm

      I totally agree. The internet can widen your horizons if you let it! xx

  23. February 8, 2017 / 12:06 pm

    What a beautiful post! It’s not quite the same but I feel this way about my best friend in Australia – although I did meet her in real life first, a few years later she immigrated to Australia and she’s still my best friend! I need to start saving up my pennies for the day when she gets married so I can go out and celebrate with her, as she did for mine. I am so glad you had such amazing support from ten years ago to today.

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:19 pm

      Ahh thank you Holly. I think when someone is a true friend, it doesn’t matter where they are in the world or even how long you go without seeing eachother, I know that these ladies would drop everything if I really needed them to and they have held my hand every single day over the last decade, from hundreds of miles away. I hope that you save up enough pennies for the plane fare! xx

  24. February 8, 2017 / 1:14 pm

    This is so lovely Laura, you are lucky to have two people in your life who clearly love you. It doesn’t matter how you came into each others lives, what is important is that you are in their life. xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:18 pm

      Thanks Laura, I am so lucky to have them, they’ve had to put up with so much over the years but they are stuck with me! xx

  25. February 8, 2017 / 1:18 pm

    What a beautiful story! I met a few wonderful people online as well, you never know when and where you can meet your friends.

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:17 pm

      I agree, and I think true friends will find you, in the same way that you do your soul mate. xx

  26. February 8, 2017 / 2:23 pm

    Aaah, what a beautiful tribute to your friendship! I love the quote in your last picture-I remember sending that to a friend that I hadn’t known for very long, but who went out of her way to help me when I was really struggling. I didn’t join any online forums when I was pregnant, but the friends I met through antenatal class have become my best friends too. I don’t have many friends left in my life, who knew me from childhood. But I know my antenatal friends will be with me for life-I’m sure one of the closest bonds you can have, is with people who had children at the sane time as you. These ladies sound amazing, and the unconventional way of meeting, is a fab story that comes with your friendship!
    #bigpinklink

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:17 pm

      I completely agree, having babies together bonds you in a way that you cant possible imagine until it happens. Sharing a pregnancy, going through births and watching those babies grow is hugely personal and when you allow someone in to share that with you, it creates the most amazing bond. For me, with what we went through with Joseph, these ladies shared in something that very few people did, and when my marriage ended and I lost the only other person who had cared for Joseph as I had, it was amazing to have that group of women who loved and thought of him often. I’ve been incredibly lucky to have them and I love that we crossed over to “real life friends”, although we do often joke that we need to fabricate a back story of how we met! Maybe I’ll think of something in time for the wedding, just throw it out there and watch their faces when they have to play along with it! xx

  27. February 8, 2017 / 2:32 pm

    Loved reading this – what an amazing support network! #bestandworst

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:14 pm

      Thank you, I’m so grateful for them all! xx

  28. February 8, 2017 / 4:27 pm

    this is such a beautifully written post and I love that last quote it is very true! #mg

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:13 pm

      Thanks Catie. Good friends are worth holding on to! xx

  29. February 8, 2017 / 4:45 pm

    This was written so beautifully and it is amazing that we can find people all over the world that we have so much in common with thanks to the power of the internet x

    • Laura Dove
      February 8, 2017 / 5:13 pm

      Absolutely. I made friends in Canada, America and Australia as a result! xx

  30. February 8, 2017 / 8:12 pm

    Beautiful post. What a lovely story of friendship. Amazing how we can connect with so many people.

  31. February 8, 2017 / 8:54 pm

    One day Laura, I will learn to take my mascara off before I start reading your blog! 😉
    This is just lovely. I have a similar group of mummy friends myself, although not brought together in the same way – we were just a forum for mums due around the same time who have continued to chat every day since, and around 4 of us still do now – four years on. They are people I consider to be my friends and the first ones I go to when times are tough, its funny how much of a friendship you can build through a screen (although I have met some in person now too). Real friends find ways to come together and make their friendships last, no matter what <3 xx

  32. February 8, 2017 / 9:13 pm

    awww this is the cutest thing ever! I know people who met online and are now married with kids. It doesnt matter how your story starts it how the middle and the ending goes. You are all very much in the middle of your story and I am so happy that they were there in your darkest hours.
    #marvmondays

  33. February 8, 2017 / 9:27 pm

    Aww this is the nicest and I totally get this. When you need someone to talk to at 2am or are worried about something I found the women who I meet via netmuns and other sites totally got me

  34. February 8, 2017 / 10:29 pm

    I totally and utterly agree, I have made some fab online friends and more so since blogging, I think it the way of the world now and I think we should embrace it. Hope you have recovered now lovely! #bestandworst

  35. February 9, 2017 / 7:42 am

    Ahh this is gorgeous 🙂 Ironically since becoming mothers my ‘real-life’ friendships have become more and more online (bia FB) since we never seem to be able to arrange a get-togetjer that everyone can do, and certainly not without someone being pregnant 🙂 Of course when me eventually manage to get together it’s like we’ve never been apart.
    Looks like you had a fab time in Edinburgh, hope you’re feeling a bit more human by now 🙂
    #DreamTeam

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:59 pm

      I can relate to that! It takes us months to pencil in a date that we can all do! We seem to chat more via WhatsApp than in person! I think that’s the thing with true friends, months, even years, may pass but when you’re together, it’s like no time at all has passed. And yes, finally over the hangover – wow that was ugly! xx

  36. February 9, 2017 / 8:54 am

    I love love love this! So glad you found your tribe, those who actually matter to you! xx
    #sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:58 pm

      Thank you, once you find your tribe you really cant go wrong! xx

  37. February 9, 2017 / 12:45 pm

    Popping back over from #coolmumclub lovely love this post and thanks for linking gorge xoxo

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:54 pm

      Thanks Talya. xxx

  38. February 9, 2017 / 3:13 pm

    Oh this is one of those most wonderful feel good posts that just hits you in that spot of total gorgeousness of friendship and what friendship means – I’m so happy for you to have such wonderful friends – totally gorgeous photos my lovely #BloggerClubUK

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:52 pm

      Thanks lovely, they are the best!! xxx

  39. February 9, 2017 / 6:26 pm

    Ok so I genuinely welled up serious amounts at this post you beauty. I am so happy that you’ve found such ultimate joy from such sadness and it just goes to show that true friends are the ones who are there for you… no matter what. #brilliantblogposts

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:07 pm

      Aww thank you Rebecca. I honestly wouldn’t have got through it without these ladies, they mean the world to me and will connect me to Joseph in a way that nobody else possibly could. I’m incredibly lucky! xx

  40. February 9, 2017 / 7:07 pm

    Such a lovely post Laura.
    It is so true that some of the best friendships can flourish from online, especially blogging as I found.
    I am very lucky to have met you, a friendship to treasure forever 🙂 Sending lots of love and a massive hug to my buddy! xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:04 pm

      Thank you Jayne, right back at you. I am so looking forward to seeing you in May. xxx

  41. Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons
    February 9, 2017 / 7:30 pm

    This is such a gorgeous post Laura, I love that you had such amazing friends to support you through the tough times. I think there’s something about chatting online, especially during a time in your life like pregnancy, when everything is uncertain and stressful, that allows you to open up to people far more quickly than you would in real life. I think online is the way the world works these days, and online friendships will become less and less taboo – I don’t think anyone will bat an eyelid in a few years’ time! Thanks so much for sharing this with us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:04 pm

      Thanks Katy. I agree, it is SO much easier to open up when you don’t have to look someone in the eye! The things that we shared would have made me blush, but behind our laptops we shared our deepest secrets without batting an eyelid. I think that’s the same with blogging, we all read so much about each other that it feels as though we have all met up countless times, friendships develop far quicker on line I find! xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:03 pm

      Thanks Laura, you’re so right. xx

  42. February 9, 2017 / 7:38 pm

    Laura this is a fantastic and heart warming post. I clicked on it expecting you to talk about the online friends you had made through blogging and it was so lovely to read how you found support online through one of the toughest periods of your life. It is funny to connect with people online and I have been surprised by how I have. I so love your final quote on the picture too. I am about to celebrate my 50th birthday and the guest list is made up of a mixture of old and new friends as you would expect but I have also missed out some of my oldest mates too as actually when the chips were down in my life some just didn’t pull through and my birthday is about going forward with new friends as well as taking the old stalwarts with me. Great post. #coolmumclub

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:03 pm

      Thank you Jo. I love the saying “Hard times reveal true friends.”, and it sounds as though you can relate to that too. Through the hardest times of my life those girls have stood by me, even at a distance, and yet I have been let down repeatedly by those close to me. That’s not to say that I don’t have some amazing friends close by, some who I have known for almost 30 years, but I think the older I get the more I realise who is worth hanging on to? Happy 50th birthday to you when it comes! xxx

  43. February 9, 2017 / 7:51 pm

    I don’t think anyone would think it odd that you became friends on line – a lot of bloggers become best friends irl too – it’s just the way of the world these days…lovely though that you make the effort to travel to see each other for the important events #Stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:01 pm

      I agree, I think 11 years ago when we met it was considered slightly more strange as the internet wasn’t as established as it is now in terms of meeting people on line! xx

  44. February 9, 2017 / 7:55 pm

    Good friends are hard to find and I have a very close knit circle. One is my best friend from childhood, another I met as a teen and a couple online too 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      February 9, 2017 / 8:00 pm

      I agree, my best friend from child hood died when we were 30 and so my oldest friends now are from high school. True friendship is worth hanging on to. xx

  45. February 9, 2017 / 8:44 pm

    This is such a beautiful story. I had to turn the volume down on my TV so I could appreciate what you wrote. As you were saying, through the most incredibly difficult times in your life that’s when you find out who your true friends are. It’s easy enough to have a laugh, a drink or dinner but life is hard and very challenging and that’s when you know who’ll always be there for you and in your case, you found some incredible new people in your life to help you along the way. The thought of never having my best friends scares me so appreciating those true friendships we all have is important #dreamteam

    • Laura Dove
      February 15, 2017 / 5:08 pm

      Ah thank you so much, that’s such a kind thing to say. I agree, although I am lucky to be surrounded by friends, those true friends I could count on one hand. I would never have survived this last eleven years without these ladies, I owe them so much and yet as far as they are concerned, I owe them nothing at all. xxx

  46. February 9, 2017 / 10:36 pm

    So sorry for your loss darling and so touched to read about amazing friends who were there for you through it. I felt alone when I was pregnant with my first son as I was the first of my friends to have babies. Twitter and blogging were a lifeline to me x

    • Laura Dove
      February 10, 2017 / 10:32 am

      Thank you so much. I think pregnancy is such a scary time, even more so when you’re the first of your friends, and I think a lot of women look to the internet for support and reassurance. xx

  47. Sarah (Mum x3x)
    February 10, 2017 / 8:08 am

    My best friend is also an online friend, we’ve known each other online for years and years! We are planning on meeting this year. Good friends are hard to find! – That Friday Linky

    • Laura Dove
      February 10, 2017 / 10:30 am

      Oh that will be so lovely!! It’s so weird when you first meet as you know everything about that person but you’ve never actually met! Expect lots of tears! xx

  48. February 10, 2017 / 10:15 am

    Ah this is such a beautiful post with beautiful photos – you look gorgeous in your wedding dress.
    I love that sentiment about friends not being who you’ve known the longest. It’s so right.
    I’ve made some friends online since I began writing and I speak to some of them every day! I don’t think it matters how you’ve met or made these friends to be honest! #thatfridaylinky

    • Laura Dove
      February 10, 2017 / 10:29 am

      Thanks Rach. Eleven years ago when we all met it was still quite strange to meet on line, I think nowadays it has become much more accepted as a means of meeting people! I’m so grateful for these ladies, I genuinely wouldn’t be here without them. xx

  49. February 10, 2017 / 10:43 am

    Lovely post and so heartwarming to hear you talk about all your friends is such a positive way:)

    Mainy

    #FabFridayPost

    • Laura Dove
      February 10, 2017 / 11:59 am

      Thank you Mainy, they are very special that’s for sure! xx

  50. February 10, 2017 / 12:49 pm

    That’s such a special friendship you all have – I think it’s perfectly normal now to be best friends with friends you have made online. Sarah #FabFridayPost

    • Laura Dove
      February 12, 2017 / 4:22 pm

      I definitely think it has become more common over the years! xx

  51. February 10, 2017 / 2:38 pm

    What a lovely post – I think it’s great that you met these two women at a time when you needed them the most and it’s lovely that the three of you are still so close. Before starting blogging I could never understand how people met friends online but since blogging I totally get it!
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂
    Debbie

    • Laura Dove
      February 12, 2017 / 4:20 pm

      I think blogging is one of those things that really connects you to other people on line. We share so much of ourselves that it’s inevitable we will form friendships, I love that about blogging! xx

  52. February 10, 2017 / 5:22 pm

    Such a beautiful post – life is so busy when you are a Mummy and I often find friendships come and go so it is really lovely that you have all kept in touch and supported each other for so long. #mg#sharingthebloglove

    • Laura Dove
      February 12, 2017 / 4:18 pm

      Thanks Natalie. I agree, true friendships are the ones that stay the same regardless of how busy life gets or how far apart you are. xx

  53. February 11, 2017 / 7:59 am

    Great post. Having friends like this is a special thing. Invaluable. Especially in a time of need. Stay strong.

    • Laura Dove
      February 12, 2017 / 4:11 pm

      Thanks David. Good friends are invaluable absolutely! xx

  54. February 11, 2017 / 5:24 pm

    What a lovely group of friends Laura! It really does show the strength of your friendship that you’ve shared so much despite meeting a handful of times in person. Friends really do pull you through and provide sanity. Glad you had s fab weekend X #coolmumclub

    • Laura Dove
      February 12, 2017 / 4:08 pm

      Absolutely! I literally would not be here without these ladies, I have been so lucky to have their support over the years. xx

  55. February 11, 2017 / 9:34 pm

    Such a lovely post. I’ve just written a post about my weekend with my uni mates who’ve now got kids. We don’t live close enough or see each other enough but when we see each other it’s like no time has passed. That’s how you know a really good friendship. I’m so glad you’ve got these lovely people in your life and glad you have a fun weekend xx #mg

    • Laura Dove
      February 12, 2017 / 4:07 pm

      Ahh that sounds lovely. I agree, distance and time is nothing when you have a true friendship. I love those friendships that are just easy, you know exactly where you stand and you love and care about each other regardless of how many years pass or where life takes you. xx

  56. Nige
    February 12, 2017 / 7:40 am

    A beautifully written post and so very touching Laura nowadays it really doesn’t matter how you meet your friends I have met two online that I consider two of best people I have ever known without blogging I would never of known them friends are the ones that are there for you always Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

    • Laura Dove
      February 12, 2017 / 4:06 pm

      Thanks Nige. I agree that these days it’s very common, I think eleven years ago it wasn’t quite as common and I know that my friends and family all thought it was a bit strange. My mum was convinced that they would all turn out to pervy old men posting as young pregnant women, she was so worried the first time I went to meet them!! xx

  57. February 12, 2017 / 6:53 pm

    Oh, this is so lovely to read. The world has changed so much since I was a kid. Pen pals are rare nowadays, but making friends online is a pretty similar concept. Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

    • Laura Dove
      February 13, 2017 / 11:33 am

      I had a pen pal at high school from France, we wrote every week without fail, met up several times and now, 26 years later we still speak all the time and I hope that we always will! xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 13, 2017 / 11:31 am

      Thanks Laura xxx

  58. Mackenzie Glanville
    February 13, 2017 / 7:52 am

    Just gorgeous! I am so glad you have such amazing friends. So true the ones that stick by us matter the most! #mg

    • Laura Dove
      February 13, 2017 / 11:31 am

      Thanks lovely. And now I have a whole host of lovely friends I have met through blogging! xx

  59. February 13, 2017 / 10:14 am

    It goes to show that it doesn’t matter how you meet, what matters is being there for each other over the years. Love this post hun 🙂 xxx #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Laura Dove
      February 13, 2017 / 11:31 am

      Thanks lovely. I think that’s definitely the most important thing, hard times reveal true friends that’s for sure! xx

  60. February 13, 2017 / 2:27 pm

    This is lovely. A friend is a friend however you meet them 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      February 13, 2017 / 7:54 pm

      I agree, and good friends are priceless! xx

  61. February 14, 2017 / 10:22 pm

    This is such an incredible story! I totally agree with you Laura. It doesn’t matter is how it started it’s about being there for each other thick and thin. Beautiful post Laura. I am so glad you had a fantastic time in Scotland – where I am yet to visit!!

    Thank you so much for linking up with us #FabFridayPost xx

    • Laura Dove
      February 15, 2017 / 4:49 pm

      Thank you Su. Oh Scotland is amazing, Edinburgh especially! Such an amazing place and the Scottish know how to party!! We are back up there in 4 weeks for the wedding and I cant wait! xx

  62. February 15, 2017 / 4:16 pm

    Before starting Cuddle Fairy I wouldn’t have understood this post. It’s really amazing how close of friends you can make online! It does make sense though because you can find like minded people like fellow bloggers or parents. It’s really wonderful you have made such special & supportive friends. Thank you for sharing with us at #BloggerClubUK

    • Laura Dove
      February 15, 2017 / 4:32 pm

      Thanks Becky. I think that’s how a lot of my “real life friends” felt, they just couldn’t relate to it on any level. Ironically a lot of them have gone on to meet their partners on line and I find it funny how quickly they have changed their opinion of meeting people on the internet! xx

  63. February 19, 2017 / 12:52 pm

    What a very beautifully written post-Laura. It is truly amazing the people we meet and click with through this blogging adventure and life. Your last picture says it all as it defines friendship the best, for me at least: It’s about who came, and never left your side. Happy weekend Laura. xoxo

    • Laura Dove
      February 19, 2017 / 3:49 pm

      Thank you Lisa. I think that’s exactly what friendship is about, hard times reveals true friends and that couldn’t be more true in my experience. xx

  64. February 23, 2017 / 11:22 pm

    That’s amazing you had this group of friends, this is exactly why I turned to blogging. I thought I would meet new friends and most importantly learn a little something about becoming a mum! I was completely lost, and depressed. The internet is truly an amazing place. Thanks so much for sharing with #stayclassymama!

    • Laura Dove
      February 24, 2017 / 10:43 am

      It really is, I have met some lovely friends since I started blogging too. I think it’s inevitable that we will form bonds when we are sharing so much of ourselves on line! xx

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