10 ways I am #Rocking Motherhood

I have been nominated by the lovely Sarah at Run, Jump, Scrap! to share ten ways in which I am rocking motherhood. And whilst it may sound easy to some, for someone like me, it’s always going to be a struggle. If you asked me for ten ways in which my friends rock at motherhood, I’d reel them off without a problem. If you asked me for ten ways that I am failing at motherhood, I’d be filling a book and then some, but I have always found it difficult to find something positive to say about myself…..so this was a real challenge!!

I have sat here for the last hour worrying about my answers, something which those who suffer with anxiety will relate to I’m sure. I panicked that my answers were too smug, too boastful, too contrived, that others would be reading and thinking, Hang on a minute, she’s not Mary bloody Poppins!! And so I scrapped my answers, ate a Galaxy Caramel, followed by a packet of crisps, and decided to simply write the first ten things that came into my head.

And so here they are, ten reasons why I’m a good Mummy.

1. I sit through endless hours of Mr Tumble, despite the fact that I seriously loathe that man. And more than that, I hide my hatred of him, and the fact that the mere sight of his goony face makes me want to gouge my own eyes out, and I laugh along with the children as though he is the funniest man on the planet. “Do you really love Mr Tumble?” they always ask me, narrowing their eyes suspiciously, “Absolutely!” I tell them, “He’s my favourite!”.

2. I always try to do the right thing by my children, even if it isn’t always what is right for me. I’ll be honest with you, it can be tough, especially having to share Lewis with his Dad, even more so in the beginning when emotions were so raw and I was still dealing with so much hurt.  But I think that part of being a parent is about putting your children first, encouraging their relationships with all sides of the family, being supportive of step parents, new siblings, extended family and a life that, let’s face it, I’m no longer a part of. Even when it’s hard, and even when it’s a bitter pill to swallow, if I truly believe that something is right for my children, I will support it whole heartedly.

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3. I embrace the fact that my children are exactly who they are meant to be – the good, the bad and the out right impossible! I try my hardest not to compare them, to each other or to other children, and  I encourage their little quirks and traits, the things that make them special. I have spoken a lot about accepting the child you have rather than the child you thought you would have, and reaching that acceptance has made a huge difference to me as a Mother.

4. I share my food. Trust me, this is a big one! That last slice of toast, the one that you’ve been saving right ’til the end because its extra buttery? That final mouthful of cake, the end piece so it’s super chocolatey, with the most amount of buttercream and chocolate sprinkles? Well just like Joey, Laura doesn’t share food!! And yet when they pop up beside me, their little mouths opening and closing like baby birds to their Mama, I just can’t resist! And that is true love!

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5. Although I make mistakes, I always learn from them. Maybe not the first time, or even the tenth, but eventually, I do learn from them. Being a Mummy is such a learning curve, and there are times when I feel as though I’m just blindly groping my way through the dark, but we always get there in the end, albeit with a detour or two.

6. I make our lives as magical as possible. Whether that’s sharing stories of mermaids and unicorns, searching for fairies in the woods, enjoying twenty four lonnnnnng days of Elf on the shelf, trekking across to another county in the search for snow, or simply re-creating scenes with their favourite mythical dragon, I always try to fill our days with magic.

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7. I drink pretend cups of tea and eat pretend pieces of cake, all day long! And I still make slurpy noises and say “Mmmmm yummy!” as though it’s the most delicious meal I’ve ever had. Even on the days when I really don’t feel like it.

8. We laugh together, a lot. Silly, playful moments, dancing around the kitchen, shaking our booty, pirouetting, breakdancing, singing at the top of our voices to Anna and Elsa. We read books and do silly voices, build dens and fight pirates, snowball fights in the winter, digging giant holes in the Summer, playing with the toys in those ordinary moments, acting out scenarios that have the children in hysterics. And I love those moments, the sound of their laughter and the sparkle in their eyes, and I hope that when they are grown and look back on their childhood they will remember that, for the most part, our home was filled with so much laughter.

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9.  I overcame my demons so that I could be as happy and healthy as possible for my children. And I can’t even begin to tell you how difficult that was, to go through the toughest times of my life, through my battles with mental health and through the pain of baby loss, and still have to find the strength to carry on for my children’s sake. On the days when I wanted to lie down, close my eyes, and simply be with Joseph, or the times when I wanted to lock the door, close the curtains and hide away from the rest of the world, I still got out of bed each morning, put a smile on my face and made sure that I sought the help that I needed to be the parent that they needed.

10. I am grateful, something which has undoubtedly shaped me as a Mother. Having my babies did not come easily to me, nor was it something that I ever took for granted, and for all of our sadness at losing so many babies, and our heartache at losing Joseph, I think it has made me truly appreciate how lucky we are to have four healthy children. I will never forget the struggles we went through, and nor would I want to, and in that way I try to enjoy every moment, even the ones that involve Mr Tumble…..!

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And it turns out that finding ten reasons wasn’t quite so hard after all, that I could easily have shared ten more; the fact that I deserve a medal simply for getting four children up, dressed and out of the door each morning, how I have mastered the perfect poker face when the children have been naughty and yet equally hilarious. How I make sacrifices so that they don’t have to, or how I work on my blog, every spare minute I have, whilst they are in school, nursery, or asleep in bed, just so I can give them experiences and opportunities that I wouldn’t otherwise be able to.

And the truth is, I may not be the best Mummy out there, far from it I’m sure, but if you asked my children they will tell you, in no uncertain terms, that I am the best Mummy in the whole wide world. And that is all that matters.

I nominate these fantastic Mummies –

Alex at Better Together Home

Laura at Dear bear and beany

Yvonne at Double the monkey business

Su at Ethan & Evelyn

Michelle at Mummy Mimi

And to anyone else who wishes to join in, how do you rock at motherhood?

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59 Comments

  1. January 20, 2017 / 7:02 pm

    I love your photos, they are so beautiful and happy.
    You do also, rock Motherhood. Love how natural your list is. Keep on rocking.

    • Laura Dove
      January 20, 2017 / 7:24 pm

      Thank you Jen, I think all of us Mummies rock, we just don’t give ourselves enough credit for it! xx

  2. January 20, 2017 / 8:26 pm

    Great post, and sounds like you do a wonderful job as a Mum. I especially admire that you share your food. I’d seriously struggle with that ha ha!

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:39 pm

      Haha Jo, it’s one of the things I begrudge the most about being a parent, but they really are hard to resist! xx

  3. January 20, 2017 / 9:39 pm

    Your photos are amazing you all always look so happy and dont get me started on Mr Tumble!! grrrrr! lol

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:37 pm

      Ahh thank you. Oh and YES!! I live in hope of him disappearing from my TV screen! xx

  4. January 20, 2017 / 10:30 pm

    What a great idea for a post – and a huge, huge pat on the back for you. By the sounds of it you’re a great mummy! It’s nice to see what other mums put up with (and sacrifice!) as well!

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:37 pm

      Thank you so much. I love this tag, it was really therapeutic and a much needed reminder that we Mums are pretty amazing! xxx

  5. January 21, 2017 / 7:04 am

    This is my favourite tag of all time and your responses are beautiful. Especially that last paragraph. Your house sounds like so much FUN! You also sound very patient and loving and like a wonderful mum. I’m so sorry for your losses. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’ve been through, and the fact that you still get up each day for pretend tea and Mr Tumble shows just how amazing you are. #PoCoLo

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:35 pm

      Thank you so much Lucy. It’s a lovely tag isn’t it? I think us Mums are way too hard on ourselves and it’s important to remember that we are doing an amazing job. Life isn’t always easy but how lucky I am to have four beautiful children in my arms, I know that some people aren’t ever that lucky. Thank you so much for reading. xxx

  6. January 21, 2017 / 8:02 am

    aaaw this post is lovely! I think you are a great mom 🙂 Sometimes I think having children may be really, really hard but these things motivate me x

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:34 pm

      Thank you Natalia. It’s true when they say that it’s the hardest job you’ll ever do but it’s also the most rewarding. xx

  7. January 21, 2017 / 8:32 am

    What gorgeous photo’s, I think it is true of all of us – we all try our best and learn from our mistakes. You have a beautiful family 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:33 pm

      Thank you Kara, being a Mummy is hard work isn’t it? xx

  8. January 21, 2017 / 12:22 pm

    It’s lovely to learn more about you. A raw and honest post. #PoCoLo

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:32 pm

      Thank you Helena. xxx

      • January 25, 2017 / 10:07 pm

        Popping back via #KCACOLS

  9. January 21, 2017 / 4:08 pm

    I love that post, especially point number 6! Childhood should be full of magic, it’s great to have mommy who knows that:) Lovely family and nice pictures:)

    • Laura Dove
      January 21, 2017 / 5:30 pm

      Thank you Kat, it was a really lovely post to write actually, I think we can all do with a reminder that we are doing a good job sometimes! xx

  10. January 21, 2017 / 6:35 pm

    Laura I dont think anyone could ever ask anymore from you, it sounds as though you totally rock motherhood x

    • Laura Dove
      January 22, 2017 / 11:06 am

      Thank you so much Rachel. Hardest job in the world, no doubt about it. xxx

  11. January 21, 2017 / 7:19 pm

    You sound like a great mum, I remember sitting through hours of Mr Tumble and watching the same episode twice in one day lol

    • Laura Dove
      January 22, 2017 / 11:05 am

      Ahh thank you. Yes! I’ve seen every episode a hundred times, I find myself singing the songs sometimes and then hate myself!! xx

  12. January 21, 2017 / 10:09 pm

    I’m loving this tag, it makes such a change to be celebrating our successes as mothers rather than focusing on our ‘failings’. And you really are rocking it x
    #PoCoLo

    • Laura Dove
      January 22, 2017 / 11:01 am

      Thank you, and you are absolutely right. It’s so important to concentrate on our successes! xx

  13. January 22, 2017 / 8:27 am

    You are a fabulous mummy. I loved number 3 (as mum to a special needs child I feel this very strongly) and number 8 (laughter is so important, I love being crazy mummy with my boys)! Beautiful tag! #POCOLO

    • Laura Dove
      January 22, 2017 / 10:59 am

      Thank you so much. I think realising number 3 has changed me as a parent, Megan is so different to my other children but that simply makes her special. And you’re right, laughter is what it’s all about, and some days you have to laugh or you’ll cry! xxx

  14. January 22, 2017 / 5:35 pm

    I am so with you on mr tumble. I also have to share so much of my food x

    • Laura Dove
      January 23, 2017 / 9:31 am

      I can’t stand him!! He literally makes me skin crawl, bleurgh!!!!! xx

  15. January 23, 2017 / 4:23 pm

    I am not a mother yet but I hope one day I will be blessed to be one.
    From the moment I started reading your blog I have always thought you’re an awesome one and have this mummy gig handled. Not because of anything ease but because of the strength you’ve shown in overcoming or even dealing with hardships. I don’t think if I was in your shoes I would have survived it.

    • Laura Dove
      January 23, 2017 / 5:14 pm

      Oh wow, thank you so so much. That really is the most lovely thing to say. I often feel as though I’m struggling with motherhood and I did find this post really difficult originally, but you’re right, being a mother isn’t just about the things you do each day, it’s about the journey that it took to get there. Your comment has really touched my heart, thank you so much. xxx

  16. January 25, 2017 / 11:49 am

    I love this post. You children are lucky to have you as their mum. I hated Mr tumble and made no bones about it, his stupid face annoys me lol. I am so glad mine are way out of that stage lol.
    #KCACOLS

    • Laura Dove
      January 25, 2017 / 4:55 pm

      Ahh thank yo so much. I’ve had 13 years of that weirdo, my patience is definitely wearing thin!! xx

  17. January 25, 2017 / 11:52 am

    You are an amazing mum Laura and even without reading this I know you are rocking motherhood lady xoxo

    • Laura Dove
      January 25, 2017 / 4:55 pm

      Thank you Talya, right back at you. xxx

    • Laura Dove
      January 25, 2017 / 4:52 pm

      Thank you! xx

  18. January 25, 2017 / 3:50 pm

    I totally get you. I’m not a fan of Mister Tumble, no idea why not, I’m more an Octonauts kinda mum!

    • Laura Dove
      January 25, 2017 / 4:52 pm

      Haha I’m more of a “anything but Cbeebies” kinda mum! xx

  19. January 25, 2017 / 3:51 pm

    Sharing food is another big one. It’s something I think mother’s do as second nature. You just try to pass the best food onto your kids if they want it. Good list.

    • Laura Dove
      January 25, 2017 / 4:52 pm

      I would never share with anyone but my kids, my husband wouldn’t get a look in! xx

  20. January 25, 2017 / 5:03 pm

    Great post I can relate to most of these especially the one about Mr tumble.

    • Laura Dove
      January 26, 2017 / 11:10 am

      Haha I think many of us can! xx

  21. January 25, 2017 / 9:02 pm

    I’ve seen this tag everywhere at the moment but never actually read one if that makes sense. I’m so glad I read yours though. You sound like the very best of mums and I was especially nodding along to sharing food (it shouldn’t be allowed but ok you can have my last piece of toast) and sharing your son with his dad. Getting behind him on that and supporting him when it isn’t easy or even pleasant, is the best thing you can do for him. Fab post thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofBLOG x

    • Laura Dove
      January 26, 2017 / 11:07 am

      Thank you Fi, that’s lovely of you to say. I love this tag, I think it’s so important that us Mums actually realise how amazing we are, whether that’s sharing our toast (as much as it pains us!) or sharing our children. Being a Mum is the hardest job in the world isn’t it? Thank you for hosting. xxx

  22. January 26, 2017 / 10:40 am

    This is lovely, you are completely rocking motherhood at the moment. I can relate to all of these things, learning from mistakes and feeling grateful for all I have.

    • Laura Dove
      January 26, 2017 / 11:03 am

      Thank you Lisa. It’s hard work but so rewarding, some days more than others! xx

  23. January 26, 2017 / 10:58 am

    So beautiful Laura and you really are rocking motherhood in all these ways and so much more. Thank you for the tag I will get writing x

  24. January 26, 2017 / 9:34 pm

    What a great list. And helping them with their sweets too 🙂 Thanks for sharing with #PoCoLo xx

    • Laura Dove
      January 26, 2017 / 10:28 pm

      HAHAH I’m so kind right? xx

  25. January 27, 2017 / 11:21 pm

    Isn’t it hard to pay yourself a compliment! We spend far to much time picking at our parenting imperfections and not even times celebrating our successes!
    You certainly seem like your doing an amazing job, if your kids think your the best mum then that’s all that really matters!
    #KCACOLS

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:22 pm

      So hard!! I am very good at being critical of myself, I need to work more on complimenting myself! And yes, that’s the main thing isn’t it? If our parents think we are being a good Mum, that’s all that matters! xx

  26. January 28, 2017 / 7:37 am

    This is lovely and you certainly do rock! I’ve been tagged but I am struggling to write mine up too, I think we are too self critical some times. But yes we dance and sing in the kitchen too, so maybe that’s one I can steal from you! #SharingtheBlogLove xx

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:13 pm

      I think it’s incredibly hard sometimes to champion ourselves, I am naturally very self critical and yet once I started writing it I realised that there are so many reasons as to why I am rocking motherhood. Start with the singing and dancing and take it from there, I bet you’ll surprise yourself! xxx

  27. January 28, 2017 / 4:26 pm

    Laura, if ever a mummy were rocking motherhood it is you. you are truly and inspiration with the things life has thrown at you. you have a beautiful family and you should be super proud 🙂 Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday!

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:05 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Emma, that’s really lovely of you to say so. xxx

  28. January 28, 2017 / 10:33 pm

    You deserve to be boastful! Mums do not get enough chances to be boastful or even be complimented. #’kcacols

    • Laura Dove
      January 29, 2017 / 9:02 pm

      Thank you, you’re right, we should cheer ourselves on a little more! xx

  29. February 2, 2017 / 9:56 pm

    You are definitely rocking motherhood! I’m inspired! #KCACOLS

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