Why the Memory of a Miscarriage Lingers 

It could’ve happened five years or more ago and you may have had several healthy children since then. It’s a topic that women tend to share only with their closest friends, and even then they are still quite tight lipped. Miscarriages happen unexpectedly and without any blame. Health services are made available to Norwich University students who have been affected by or are currently suffering a miscarriage.  

As in the case of college students, there are women who don’t realize that they were pregnant until a miscarriage occurs. Studying toward the completion of an online nursing degree is no more or less strenuous than taking up classes at a local campus college. Memories of your miscarriage might dissuade you from attempting to have children in the future, cause PTSD, or just remind you of a time that you still can’t put into words. 

Why Share Your Experience? 

Like other female reproductive health issues, miscarriage can be one detail of a woman’s life that she shares with no one else. Some women may not tell their parents, spouses, friends, or co-workers about a miscarriage because they don’t want to be reminded of this experience in later years. If you hold onto a traumatic miscarriage experience you won’t move on effectively. At the same time, you can’t hide what you have gone through from others who care for you. Imagine how other women in your shoes would feel if they knew that they would be able to speak intently with other women who have had miscarriages as well.  

Miscarriage Happens More Commonly Than You’d Expect 

According to doctors, an early miscarriage can be mistaken for a normal menstrual cycle. This is known as a missed miscarriage. If you feel more bloated, crampy, or tired than usual, your body could be quietly miscarrying a pregnancy that you did not know about. Statistics showing that approximately one-third of adult women have had at least one miscarriage during their reproductive years are highly accurate. Trust your body to do what is best for your health and realize that miscarriage can occur even when you aren’t aware.  

It Was Not Your Fault 

The female body was made to carry and deliver full-term babies. If something goes wrong during a pregnancy, the body’s instinctual response is to self-abort. Miscarriage can also occur when you believe that your pregnancy was progressing normally. This might cause women who have experienced miscarriage to think that there was something that they could have done to keep their babies. MSN online degree holders will let you know that miscarriage is unavoidable and not caused by a healthy mother’s actions. Unless you disobeyed your doctor’s orders or used street drugs during your pregnancy, there’s no way that your miscarriage could have been circumvented.  

Medical professionals can assure you that miscarriages are normal and happen frequently in some women’s families. You need to heal both internally and emotionally before you can try again. Know that it is vital to come to terms with the past so that your experience with miscarriage does not define you as a woman.

*** This is a guest post ***

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22 Comments

  1. BienAmie Mabanta
    September 5, 2017 / 3:45 pm

    A loss is a burden that’s really difficult to vent out. I admire women who keep themselves together and stay strong even after experiencing something as depressing as losing a child. This is definitely a good read specially to those who are currently being weighed down by sadness. I feel like it’s so reassuring.

    • Laura Dove
      September 5, 2017 / 11:01 pm

      I think being strong is the only way forward sometimes, I’m not sure how I ever survived our losses but you just do. xx

  2. September 7, 2017 / 9:55 am

    This was a fantastic read. I think sometimes ‘being strong’ is far more harder than people really think, especially if the pain is on the inside.

    • Laura Dove
      September 7, 2017 / 2:00 pm

      I totally agree Jon, it’s important that others realise just how tough it is. xx

  3. September 7, 2017 / 3:28 pm

    Such a difficult time… I had no idea how common miscarriage was until I became pregnant and obsessed with the likelihood of it. I found this weird graph somewhere that said the % chance each day of a miscarriage and I checked it every day to see what my chances would be. I suppose it’s easy to know that you couldn’t have done anything to prevent it from happening, but a lot harder to actually not feel the guilt or think of all the ‘what ifs’. Horrible.

    • Laura Dove
      September 7, 2017 / 9:12 pm

      Yes!! After my first miscarriage I found a similar graph and the further along I got the more I relaxed. With Joseph the chance was just 1 in 250 I think at that time, and to me that possibility was akin to impossible. Miscarriage is SO common, it’s heart breaking. xxx

  4. September 7, 2017 / 9:03 pm

    Miscarriage is such a difficult thing to go through. I don’t understand why it is still seen a taboo subject when so many people go through it, but I do think that it is slowly being spoken about more and I think blogs have a lot to do with breaking that stigma.

  5. September 8, 2017 / 9:01 am

    It is a horrible thing to experience and I find that anniversary’s and due dates make me remember

    • Laura Dove
      September 9, 2017 / 12:06 pm

      Anniversaries are always hard, I don’t think you ever forget. Lots of love xxx

  6. September 8, 2017 / 10:26 am

    Its definitely more common than people think and a lot of people don’t talk about it but its important not to bottle it up. So sorry that anyone has to go through this pain 🙁

    • Laura Dove
      September 9, 2017 / 12:02 pm

      I agree, it’s so important that we speak about it. xx

  7. September 8, 2017 / 11:12 am

    We lost a much-longed for fourth baby last year, and it is so hard. Never had any problems before, and it was such a shock. I can’t even imagine what it must be like to lose a first baby.

    • Laura Dove
      September 9, 2017 / 11:59 am

      Ahh Leta, I’m so sorry to hear that. We lost our first, and fifteen babies after to miscarriage, and our son to stillbirth too. Losing a baby is devastating and you never get over that kind of loss do you? xx

  8. September 9, 2017 / 10:51 am

    I know dealing with miscarriage is not easy. The emotional heartache is really there. Acceptance should always be there in order to move on. Having friends and supportive family to be your shoulders to lean on are very important too.

    • Laura Dove
      September 9, 2017 / 11:44 am

      Absolutely, having the right support is so important. xx

  9. September 10, 2017 / 10:49 am

    So sorry you had to got though this. My friend went through several before her little angel was born. It’s a horrible experience for both sets of parents to go through. Until I’d seen what it did to her other half I’d never even considered what it must be like for the man x

    • Laura Dove
      September 10, 2017 / 11:26 am

      It’s just awful isn’t it? I think people often forget about the men too. xx

  10. September 11, 2017 / 8:35 am

    Such a sad experience to have to go through, I wish it didn’t have to happen to anyone

    • Laura Dove
      September 11, 2017 / 11:39 am

      It’s just awful, but so common these days. More needs to be done to help those suffering. xx

  11. September 12, 2017 / 8:12 am

    I honestly can’t imagine how anyone who has had a miscarriage must feel. Such a tragic, horrible time. I’m glad there is so much support for it and posts like this really help. x

  12. September 12, 2017 / 10:05 pm

    A topic that should not be taboo….I’m not aware of having even a missed miscarriage (I guess it wouldn’t be missed if I knew) but my sister has had two and she does talk about it but you can see it pains here even 12 yrs later. My heart goes out to everyone in that position now or years ago xxx

    • Laura Dove
      September 13, 2017 / 8:36 pm

      Absolutely, it needs to be talked about more than it is, too many suffer in silence. xx

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