Why do I blog?

I have been so busy this last month, fighting germs and infections, dealing with some major home renovations, the mess and the dirt and the constant brewing up for builders, and juggling the four children on top. Subsequently, my blogging has had to take a back seat, unable to dedicate the time to not only writing new posts but reading others too. And actually, it has been a real eye opener, the realisation that blogging is very much a full time job!

I read other blogs, ones that have had such monumental success, and I wonder how do they manage it? Whilst I am still scrolling through the hundreds of tweets they have shared each day, they’ve managed to produce yet another amazing blog post, shared across five different forms of social media, and updated their Instagram page with ten beautifully taken, meticulously edited, photographs. And I am in awe of their ability to do that whilst juggling children, a home, a relationship, a life, and I hail them all as Supermamas for sure. But am I willing to sacrifice my life to join them? Absolutely not.

When I started this blog it was for my own personal reasons, fighting an illness that was affecting me in so many ways, the need to claw something back, force my brain into gear and document our memories as the children grow. When others began to read my blog I was amazed, I still am, and I realised that there is a whole world out there in the “blogosphere” that I knew nothing about. I don’t blog for financial reward, although if that did happen then I would be crazy to turn it down, nor do I promote myself or pitch for free products, services or exotic holidays, but again, what amazing opportunities should they come our way.  I blog, quite simply, because I love to write. Writing is what I do.

And yet somewhere along the last few months I have found myself juggling so much more than just a hobby. Each day there are numerous link ups to share my posts on, there are guest posts and interviews and the relentless juggling act of Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and social media channels that I had never even heard of until now. And although I enjoy it, don’t get me wrong, I am struggling with the authencity of writing a blog about being a Mummy when there are times that, due to my blog, I am missing out on just that. Being a Mummy.

So this week, when the germs were finally starting to shift, I had good intentions of writing a post. I had sat myself down at the computer, shut the office door and tried to drown out the sound of the kids playing in the back room. And as I sat there, mentally drafting my post about the joys of being a Mummy, it hit me that actually, I would so much rather be living it.  And so I switched off the computer, pulled on my coat and off we went to the park, where I listened to the sound of my children’s laughter and felt the first of the Spring sunshine on my face, and I asked myself, what is really important to me?

Perhaps my time management needs adjusting, perhaps I need to organise myself better, work around the children more, plan in advance and get on top of my posts. Perhaps I am doing this all wrong and could find the time to produce more blog posts, to make my presence better known on social media. And yet to whose detriment? Twice last week I missed out on bedtime kisses and cuddles due to finishing off a blog post, and by the time that I had finished the children were fast asleep. More than once I had to ask my parents to watch the children so that I could catch up on some work that needed doing, unable to find enough hours in the day. But when my son asks me to help with his homework, or my daughters ask me to play Hungry Hippos, or my youngest just wants a cuddle, I don’t ever want the time to come where I have to tell them, Sorry baby no, Mummy has work to do. Mummy is busy. Mummy needs to go into the office and write about being a Mummy instead of laying down here on the carpet, building a den from the couch cushions and pretending to be fairies.

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Blogging really can take over your life, to the point that you look at things very differently, you see things from the perspective of a reader or a viewer or the angle which you will write about later that evening. But where does it end? Never being able to leave the house without documenting your plans for the day, the new dress that your daughter wears, your sons meticulously planned outfit? Never being able to eat a meal without sharing it on social media, snap shotting it from every angle and hash tagging it to death? Never fully enjoying a day out with the children because your head is racing with a thousand other thoughts, interrupting the fun as you ask your little ones to pose for yet another photo?

Because it’s a blog eat blog world out there, a relentless battle to make your voice stand out amongst the thousands of others. And what if there are days when you simply have nothing more to say? When there is nothing to share, no photos to take, no adventures to relay. What about when you are just so bone tired that all you want to do is put on your pyjamas, climb into bed and sleep? Because blogging was something that started out as just a bit of fun, not something that I felt obligated to do in order to maintain any level of interest. For me, it is so important that I produce posts that I have taken my time over, carefully edited and ultimately, that I am proud of. Writing is so important to me and I would hate to compromise with something that I didn’t feel was quite right just to meet a daily quota, And I think for me, had I wanted to spend my days holed up in the office tapping away at a computer, I would never have chosen to be a stay at home Mummy. It’s all about balance.

I have a blogger friend, who shall remain anonymous, who recently confessed to me that she has taken to driving to various locations to photograph her child, in a variety of outfits, on the days when she has nothing else to share. And that’s really not what this is supposed to be about, is it? I want to share my children and our lives, the totally mundane as well as those lovely special occasions. I want to look back in years to come and read factual accounts of what life was like, be that the rough or the smooth, not fictional tales of the perfect life, my children rigidly posing and smiling at the camera. And now, as they grow, I want to join in and enjoy our time together, not spend it mentally preparing the plot for my latest blog post or staging a scene for the perfect capture. I want to catch them unaware, with chocolate on their faces and mud on their knees, a quick snap here and there, while I’m out living our lives together.

Because life was not designed to be lived through the lens of a camera, nor overheard from the confines of an office. Life is about enjoying the moments, of which we all like to capture some on film, but it’s not the be all and end all. It’s okay sometimes to just live those moments, without a phone in our hands or a camera up to our faces, and just be.

So maybe I’m not a blogger afterall. Maybe I’m just a Mummy who likes to write, who, whenever I get a spare moment, can just about manage to get my words out in the right order, to make sense of all of the weird and wonderful thoughts in my head and share them with a bunch of people who actually quite like to read it. And I’m not even sure exactly what that makes me, but I think that the most important thing is that, ultimately, it makes me happy.

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152 Comments

    • April 4, 2016 / 7:40 pm

      Thank you! I think that many of us bloggers feel that way don’t we? I am trying no to compare myself with others and realise that actually, those who want to read what I have to say will always find a way. xx

  1. emetomumblog
    April 4, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    i really liked reading this because i just started blogging and i am finding this the case – im saying im too busy because im writing – when instead i should be enjoying my boy! i guess it is all about balance. and i second the “just take snaps” – i dont have time for edited photos and what not lol! x

    • April 4, 2016 / 7:49 pm

      Oh I’m so glad it’s not just me! I mean fair play to those who have made a career out of blogging but for me, I chose to be a SAHM so that I could spend these years with my little ones as they grow. Had I wanted to spend my time tucked away in the office editing photos, I would have gone back to my paid job! There is a fine balance, I think we all know our own limits and what works for one wont necessarily work for another. Good luck with your blog! xx

  2. emetomumblog
    April 4, 2016 / 7:48 pm

    #anythinggoes linky btw !

  3. April 4, 2016 / 8:27 pm

    This is so true – I am definitely sometimes guilty of it. I do genuinely *love* writing and that’s where it starts…but it is so easy to get dragged in to the idea that you need great content all the time. I took a blogging holiday recently and only post a proper piece twice a week to try to combat it but I find I get drawn in again. We’re off to the in-laws for the rest of this week though so I am going to take your adivice and take the rest of the week off (though may schedule some tweets and old links, just to keep it ticking over while I’m gone… – See?!) #KCACOLS

  4. The Pramshed
    April 4, 2016 / 8:43 pm

    This sums up perfectly how I feel about blogging, I only started my blog to document life with my little one. I’ve been totally sucked into it and I love it, but I feel the pressure to get posts out, to do the Linkys, and to comment and share other bloggers post. I had a little think about this today as your blog is what you make it, it can be as busy as you want it to be, but life as a mummy and wife needs to come first. Thanks for sharing a fab post, and making me a have a little think. Claire x #KCACOLS

    PS Your pics are gorgeous by the way.

    • April 5, 2016 / 8:08 am

      Thanks Claire. I think you’re exactly right though, it’s what we make it. Some people make it their full time job, others it’s just a hobby. It’s a constant struggle to find the right balance isn’t it? Good luck! Xx

  5. April 4, 2016 / 8:58 pm

    I can really relate to this post Laura, because I’ve been going through the same thing. I think as you say, when you’re comparing yourselves to some of the bigger boys and girls out there it can feel like you need to compete and it all starts to get a bit silly! Blogging is so time consuming with just the linking up alone taking up a lot of time, I think it’s OK to go at your own pace and not feel like you’ve got to always be doing it. I totally agree with you, that the love of writing needs to come first, but not before the love of the kids. #AnythingGoes xx

    • April 5, 2016 / 8:05 am

      It’s so difficult isn’t it? It does become a little bit addictive seeing your followers increase and your social media following rise. I worry sometimes if I don’t stay on top of my game they will lose interest and if I don’t link up or churn out more posts my stats will drop. I think it gets to a point where you either give it all you’ve got or you accept, you just can’t compete with it!! I’m hoping if I ease up on it I won’t see much of a difference in followers but you just never known. Blogging is a whole new level of madness!! Xx

  6. April 4, 2016 / 11:22 pm

    Like the others commenting, I totally agree with everything you’ve said in this post. Enjoying the life you live should come first, not documenting it. I am still very much a newbie and although I’m determined not to get drawn into the competitiveness, I can see how it happens. I can’t deny that I probably wouldn’t look a gift horse in the mouth though if an opportunity presented itself. But I blog because I love to write, and after years of writing for others I decided I would finally write about the thing I feel most passionate about, my family. But I hope it will never be to the detriment of enjoying them first x #bigpinklink

    • April 5, 2016 / 8:03 am

      I think there are definitely two main types of bloggers – those who love to write and those who want to make it in the blogging world. Obviously they overlap but fundamentally, the things that drive you are very different. I think I’ve just held my hands up and said, I can’t compete. I don’t have the time, the drive or the inclination. I’m happy writing away, perhaps never getting very far, but if one day an opportunity comes my way then great. I’m not willing to sell my soul to the devil for that to happen! Thanks for reading. Xx

  7. April 5, 2016 / 2:14 pm

    I am sat here chuckling at the ice cream photo! Its so gorgeous

    • April 5, 2016 / 5:42 pm

      Hehe thank you, ice cream and kids spell disaster!! xx

  8. April 5, 2016 / 2:22 pm

    I think you’re absolutely right to switch it off and instead live life more with your little ones, than spend time in front of your computer. I think when it becomes too much like a chore, that’s when we all should take a step back and like you, rethink the reasons why we blog. Of course, I guess it’s different for other bloggers who make their living out of blogging, then I guess it’s more like a job for them 😉 I’ve been blogging for a bit now, when T was younger, hardly blogged at all. It’s easier now that she’s in school 😉 Sorry for the long comment. But you are definitely a blogger 😉 A blogger who has her priorities set right 😉

    • April 5, 2016 / 5:41 pm

      I agree, when it’s your job then great, what an amazing job to have too! But for me, I chose to be a SAHM while the children are little and first and foremost, that is my priority. Thanks for reading, it’s great to hear that others have the same thoughts. xx

  9. April 5, 2016 / 5:57 pm

    Great post, this is exactly how I feel too. I cannot be bothered to schedule everything, I want to live life, albeit with a camera in my hand (usually my phone one not the biggy) and have fun with the kids. I will say that blogging does give me a kick up the bum to go outside the though!

    • April 5, 2016 / 6:04 pm

      I’m the same, my phone camera is always on and I have thousands of photos of the kids on there, but I always feel it is less intrusive and far more natural than posed for camera shots. I am far too disorganised to schedule my blog posts and plan in advance, I just sit down at the computer and if I have something to say, I’ll say it!! Thanks for reading!! xx

  10. April 5, 2016 / 6:16 pm

    Brilliant post- I can definitely relate to being torn between being a Mummy and writing about being a Mummy!! As you can see from the response you are definitely not alone in feeling the way you do. What I love about blogging is the freedom to be as full on or sporadic as you like with you posts – the only pressure is the pressure you put on yourself (which I’m definitely guilty of too!) #TwinklyTuesdays

    • April 5, 2016 / 6:30 pm

      I think you’re right about us putting pressure on ourselves but I also think that there is so much added pressure because of how competitive blogging is. If you want to make it as a “professional blogger” then it really is a rat race to the top. I think it is very easy to get sucked in when your stats are booming and you’re suddenly doing really well but then it easily takes over until ultimately, it IS a full time job! I’m laying off the pressure and going back to basics, if I still do well then great, but if people lose interest then I’m okay with that too. Thanks for reading, xx

      • April 5, 2016 / 6:44 pm

        Definitely a danger of getting caught up in the competitiveness of it all, I want to just enjoy blogging but it’s so tempting to try to get more views/likes/follows etc etc. Honestly I’m just not organised enough to do it full time plus the kids are my priority and I don’t ever want my blog to become a job that ‘has’ to be done at any cost. I certainly won’t be driving ANYWHERE to take photos of my kids in their clothes 😄 I’m with you on this one.

        • April 5, 2016 / 6:46 pm

          Haha it did get me thinking how much of what I see in the blogging world is staged? I imagine that behind the scenes some of these people are living very different lives!! I’m exactly the same, I love writing so much that I would hate for it to become a chore, because where’s the fun in that? I guess we just keep on doing what we are doing, if it leads somewhere positive then great, if not then we are doing something that we love. Its a win-win in my eyes!! xx

  11. April 5, 2016 / 7:12 pm

    Finding the right blogging balance for you is so important. Missing out on the important stuff because you’re writing about it is not what it’s all about. I have to admit I have had those moments. I try to pull myself back to reality when it happens. I’d hate to regret lost moments in years to come #kcacols

    • April 5, 2016 / 7:24 pm

      I have three of my children home every day so I have to squeeze my blogging into a tiny window of free time in the evenings when they have gone to bed, which then means I am seeing less and less of my husband! Obviously if this is something I want to make a go of full time then it’s a small sacrifice to make in the short term, pretty soon the children will all be in pre-school/primary and I will have all of the time I need to blog. I need to get more organised, that’s the starting point! Thanks for reading!! xx

  12. April 5, 2016 / 7:40 pm

    Wow, I’m impressed you get to blog at all! It’s so lovely to keep those memories in one place those and an outlet for the pictures of real life. Keep blogging 🙂

    • April 6, 2016 / 1:56 pm

      Thank you, I definitely will but I’m putting less pressure on myself and reminding myself that this is just a hobby! If it leads somewhere then fab!! Xx

  13. anywaytostayathome
    April 5, 2016 / 8:21 pm

    You are so right! I think some people are just naturally more organised than I am, so they get more done, but my blog is my hobby, I love it and I’m proud of it, but it is a hobby. I feel bad enough when I have to work instead of play with my boy, but I work from home so that is always going to happen. I choose not to blog unless he’s not about or asleep, I know that means mine will always be a bit less than others, but that’s OK. I’m in awe of the pro bloggers and other amazing sites out there but that’s not for me. #TheBabyFormula

    • April 6, 2016 / 1:59 pm

      That’s exactly it! This is just a hobby and I need to remind myself of that sometimes. I blog when the children are in nursery (two mornings a week) and an evening but then i don’t want to miss out on time with my husband either! I’m going to organise myself better I think! Xx

      • anywaytostayathome
        April 6, 2016 / 2:00 pm

        Lists, lists and more lists. I couldn’t be without them xx

        • April 6, 2016 / 3:27 pm

          Haha yes! I have lists everywhere, only problem is that I never end up ticking anything off!! xx

  14. April 5, 2016 / 8:39 pm

    I think it’s good to write if you enjoy but definitely don’t stress over your readers, your life is definitely more important than how many likes you get.

    • April 6, 2016 / 2:02 pm

      I never even knew about things like stats, views, etc until recently and I would see people sharing them and think oh wow, I’m nowhere near that level! It can become very competitive! Xx

  15. April 5, 2016 / 9:19 pm

    Excellent points! I let my blog slip because I’m busy having a life, then I let my life slip because I’m busy having a blog!

    I must say that your photography is lovely though.

    I’ve popped over form #abrandnewday linky 🙂

    • April 6, 2016 / 2:04 pm

      Thank you! It’s swings and roundabouts isn’t it? I guess we just have to fit it in where we can! Thanks for reading. Xx

  16. April 5, 2016 / 9:43 pm

    Love this post and I can certainly relate to everything you’ve said. I think a lot of parenting bloggers reach this stage at some point, where blogging starts to feel like it is taking over. I tend to sacrifice sleep too often for the blog but when it starts to feel overwhelming and like it is taking me too much away from enjoying family life, then I know I need to take a step back and refocus. I love your reflection about life not being designed to be lived through the lens of a camera – sometimes we just need to be completely present in the moment and enjoy it. I have to say, the blogs I most enjoy are those that tend to be written from the heart and where you can tell that the person who is writing really enjoys doing so. If blogging makes you happy, that’s a good reason to continue to do so – but unless you’re determined to make money from your blog then there’s no real reason to put yourself under pressure with the blog either. I do post frequently but that’s mostly because I tend to write my posts in short bursts here and there, scribble down ideas for posts when I can and schedule ahead which takes the pressure off.

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:40 pm

      I completely agree, my favourite blogs are definitely the ones which I feel are open and honest and don’t sugar coat life as we know it. I see so many blogs which I find myself thinking, are those children always THAT immaculate? Are they really THAT well behaved? Can anyones life really be THAT perfect? I much prefer the ones that make me feel normal, that share their highs as well as their lows, and that write in a way that draws me in. I think that there is a huge difference between being a blogger and a writer, to me it stands out a mile. Thanks for reading. xx

  17. April 5, 2016 / 9:50 pm

    The time is something I think most bloggers misjudge. You are so right about being busy writing & not being a mum sometimes. I actually find the social media side sucks up my time!!! I’m not sure how some people do it. I find it incredible people go to such lengths for great photos or stories on none busy/pretty/perfect days. I think I lack the competitiveness to be a big blogger & find it a little intimidating but love writing. Loved the photos you used. You have a beautiful family. #kcacols lifeinthemumslane

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:38 pm

      I totally agree! I am nowhere near competitive enough to make it as a successful blogger and yet you have to ask yourself, what makes a blog a success? Is it stats? Or is it that you have produced something which you are proud of and that has perhaps helped or entertained others along the way? Thank you for reading! xx

  18. April 5, 2016 / 9:56 pm

    That’s such a beautiful post. I don’t do half the social media stuff that seems to go with a blog so I’m sure it will never be that successful but I’m like you, I don’t want to prioritise spending time on that over spending quality time with my son. It’s a hard balance as we all need our own space too. Sounds like you’ve got it sussed though 🙂

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:37 pm

      Thank you. In the future I would love for my blog to take off and become something which I can build on and spend more time on when the children are in school. For now, I am quite happy just to keep it as a hobby, if people want to read it then great, but if not it is a lovely way of recording my thoughts and memories of the children as they grow. xx

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:36 pm

      There really is a lot of pressure isn’t there?! Thanks for reading! xx

  19. April 5, 2016 / 11:43 pm

    I feel like that recently I have not been able to post everyday like I normally do and I really need to update my FB blog but I am drowning under all the work.

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:34 pm

      I am amazed that anyone finds the time to post every day, I struggle with twice a week! My To Do Lists are out of control, I definitely think that to be a successful blogger you need to be way more organised than I ever will be! xx

  20. mackenzieglanville
    April 6, 2016 / 3:44 am

    This is such a great post, as yours always are. I am feeling the same lately and have been shutting my laptop more and have decided to hand over my linky Friday Reflections to some other bloggers who are keen to have it. Somedays it is just too much! #abrandnewday

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:33 pm

      I imagine the linkies take up SO much time, well done you for juggling them as long as you have. With Summer approaching we will be out much more, enjoying the weather and the holidays, and my blog will well and truly take a back seat. I think I need to let go of the guilt whether I blog or I don’t blog and just do what is right for my family! xx

  21. April 6, 2016 / 10:45 am

    I think this is such a fab post and time is such a huge factor when it comes to blogging, I don’t think some people realise what it can do to a normal day, you plan to sit down for an hour and 4 hours later you are still there x

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:32 pm

      Yes!! It’s so easy to get drawn into it isn’t it? I “nip on” the computer and four hours later I have read countless posts, engaged on social media, drafted post ideas of my own and the evening is gone! xx

  22. April 6, 2016 / 11:27 am

    Very poignant post! Really enjoyed reading this and even though I only have one child, I have to juggle my work and the house along side my blogging, so I can relate to finding the time. As you say it should be about actual life not a staged one. #KCACOLS

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:31 pm

      I agree! I don’t want to feel that I am staging a life for the sake of my blog, if there are days when we don’t get dressed or even leave the house, I don’t want to feel guilty about that or worry that I have nothing new to share. I only ever blog around twice a week anyway and I would much rather those were two posts that I am really proud of rather than just churning something out for the sake of it. Thanks for reading. xx

  23. April 6, 2016 / 1:17 pm

    This really has summed up how I’ve been feeling and I’ve only been blogging since February! It is a full time job that you don’t get paid for and that can distract you from parenting. I have now cut down to 1 post a week on the whole and even that takes up time. However, I love to write and as a SAHM I think it is important to have a little me time too and this is my me time. I’d love to do more blogging, but I love being a mummy and a wife more and therefore, I will never be a true blogger. Thanks for sharing your feelings with so much honesty.

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:29 pm

      Wow I completely feel the same! I love those moments when I can just write it all down and have a little time for ME. I have no other hobbies and with four children I have very little time to myself, but writing is a great escape and very therapeutic for me. Thanks for reading. xx

  24. April 6, 2016 / 2:01 pm

    Love this post. So true. I’ve been blogging a while now and I go through stages. Sometimes the camera never leaves my hands, but other times I barely take a single photo in a week. I blog far less than I used to. Only when I have something to say, that I haven’t said before. Recording our days, but not all of them. The upside of blogging is that it has encouraged me to go out more and do more activities with my children. No bad thing! #MadMidWeek

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:27 pm

      I take lots of photos, always have, but I snap them with my phone here and there and it feels far less intrusive than when we get out the “big camera!”. I have never blogged every day but do try to blog twice a week, sometimes I struggle to manage that!! It’s great that blogging has got you out more! Thanks for reading. xx

  25. April 6, 2016 / 3:02 pm

    this is all so very true! what a great post! really enjoyed reading it, I’m glad you are all feeling better must admit jan-march was hideous in terms of germs in our house. #bloggerclubuk

    • April 6, 2016 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you! Feeling much better and ready to organise my time better!!! xx

  26. April 6, 2016 / 4:01 pm

    You’ve definitely got the right approach and you do have to draw the line somewhere – otherwise we’d all be permanently glued to our screens! #bestandworst

    • April 6, 2016 / 5:13 pm

      You’re right, I think that’s why its so important to be organised and have dedicated blogging times so that it doesn’t impact on every day life. Thanks for reading. xx

  27. April 6, 2016 / 4:33 pm

    Yes, yes, and yes to this!!!!! It sums up perfectly how I feel at the moment about blogging!! Like you, I started blogging because I love to write, and not even as a traditional ‘documenting my life day to day’ blog, but a space for my personal thoughts and experiences that I was often too afraid to share with others. Then, like you, once I had an interest from others, I became obsessed with it!! And also looked at the big big bloggers wondering how on earth they do it, it (ahem,) does make me wonder if it’s at the massive detriment to their family life… The only time I do blog stuff during the day is when my youngest is napping, and my eldest has ‘quiet time,’ (yes, watching tv.) but they’re so full on either side of the nap, that it’s impossible for me to do anything other than snatched minutes while they’re eating (which they’re doing right now!!) and if my mum takes them for an hour. I have tried to do bits and bobs while they’re playing in the park, but they hate me having my phone out, and I was missing out on precious moments! So that leaves the evenings, and I want to spend most of those with my husband! So I’ve come to the conclusion I’m a just for fun blogger too-I can’t handle all the self promotion, and battling with all the other fish in this very large pond! Great post!! Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink!

    • April 6, 2016 / 5:17 pm

      I completely agree. I have been asking myself for a long time how these successful bloggers find the time to blog and then realised that actually, their children spend a LOT of time in child care or with relatives, and I guess that is the difference between some of us. I made the decision to be a SAHM because I had waited such a long time for my family and I want to be here, enjoying every moment before they grow and start school. I do find the time to blog here and there in the day but like you it is when they are napping or my parents have taken them to the park or they are absorbed in Frozen for the five millionth time. And like you, I want to spend time with my husband on an evening as our time together is so precious, so that leaves me with very few occasions where I can write and catch up on my blog. I love being a just for fun blogger, if opportunities come our way then amazing, but for now I am more than happy living our lives and writing whenever I get a moment. Thanks for reading! xx

  28. April 6, 2016 / 4:43 pm

    couldn’t agree with everything you’ve said here more. It really does start to become another full time job. I try and post twice a week and make it to one linky a day. Anything more than that and I’m spending too much time at the computer, not enough with my daughter

    • April 6, 2016 / 5:18 pm

      Yes, I’m the same, twice a week is just about manageable, its the linkies that I find are the most time consuming, I think I will take a leaf out of your book and choose just one each day! These babies of ours grow up way too fast, I would hate to miss out on a single moment of it because I was too busy writing about our memories rather than making them. xx

  29. Double the Monkey Business
    April 6, 2016 / 5:12 pm

    Being happy is definitely the most important thing. I can relate to all the points in this post, it is so hard isn’t it to juggle everything. X #bloggerclubuk

    • April 6, 2016 / 5:19 pm

      It really is! Writing makes me so happy but writing under pressure takes all of the fun out of it! I’m just going to keep plodding along as I am, juggling as many balls as I can in the air, and just doing what feels right for me and my family. Thanks for reading. xx

  30. April 6, 2016 / 5:19 pm

    I know what you mean about trying to balance it all. I am constantly on the look out for photo opportunities and the like. Difficult to keep all the balls in the air.

    • April 6, 2016 / 7:11 pm

      I think once you find that perfect balance you’ve got it made, but it is SO hard finding the balance and getting it right! Thanks for reading! xx

  31. Jenny @ Let's Talk Mommy
    April 6, 2016 / 5:42 pm

    I am with you I don’t know how any of the big blogs do it. I want their magic secret potions. I can barely get my head around one or two socials in a week and then I feel like my twitter is always ignored hence why I have no new followers in a year eek and then I am constantly thinking I need to work on my photography or writing better content etc. but the days are flying by with only two small ones I barely keep up how do so many others super mamas do it? I would love to know unless they have a team of elves we all don’t know about? Thanks for linking up and glad I am not the only one feeling this way about it I don’t want to miss being a parent because i was clawing my way to the top of an imaginary hill. 😉 #sharewithme

    • April 6, 2016 / 7:10 pm

      It’s so great to know that others have these struggles, sometimes it feels that everyone else knows the secret apart from me! For the record, I love your blog and I think you are most definitely on top of your game!! xx

  32. April 6, 2016 / 6:20 pm

    I am so on the same page as you. I’m a Mummy who writes, I would love to be a blogger who has a big successful blog with lots of followers etc but I simply don’t have the time to invest in it.
    My only child free time is when they are in bed and while I do blog some evenings I also want and need to spend time with my husband.

    Great post lovely – I really enjoy your posts xx

    • April 6, 2016 / 7:08 pm

      There’s a big difference isn’t there? Between a Mummy who writes and a Mummy Blogger. I think it just took me a while to realise that and where my place was in this crazy world of blogging. Right now I am more than happy to be where I am, doing what I love and spending my spare time with my babies while they are still young. Thank you. xxx

  33. April 6, 2016 / 7:06 pm

    My kids would soon get rattled if I drove them around all day just to photograph them for my blog. I think at that point it really has taken over your life a bit too much. I think you do have to check yourself regularly to make sure you are living your life and not just observing it, sounds like you have a good handle on it to me

    • April 6, 2016 / 7:08 pm

      It’s crazy isn’t it? Because that isn’t for their benefit, it’s for the benefit of others! I hate the whole idea of staging the perfect life, I would much rather read about REAL life or not at all. Thanks for reading. xx

  34. April 6, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    You’re not alone in feeling like this – I definitely have days when I’d rather live life than be writing about it. I think it’s about balance. I no longer join dozens of linkies because it became too time consuming, and I don’t stress if I don’t get a post published for a week. I’m a mother who loves to write rather than a mummy blogger too I think.
    Alana x

    • April 7, 2016 / 3:48 pm

      Yes I need to cut down on the linkies, I think they are very addictive and you feel quite obligated to join in week after week! I think being a mummy who loves to write is a great place to be. Thanks for reading. xx

  35. April 6, 2016 / 8:25 pm

    Wow this is just so powerful! As are the number of comments in support of your sentiments. I’m just starting out as a blogger, and as well as asking myself the ‘have I missed the blogging boat?’ question, I’m also asking the same as you, the ‘where do all these people find the time?’ type questions. Work-life balance is always a struggle, and I don’t suppose that’s any different when an element of your work is blogging. So thank you for this eloquent and heartfelt post. I’m glad I found you at #bestandworst. xx

    • April 7, 2016 / 3:48 pm

      Thank you! It has been a real eye opener to see that so many feel the same way. I guess there are the “professional” bloggers who do this full time as a career, and then there are those of us who simply do it for fun. Good Luck with your blog! xx

  36. April 6, 2016 / 8:41 pm

    I echo everything you say and so would my husband. I am too busy blogging about it that sometimes I am not in the moment actually living it and enjoying it. I am also guilty of ignoring my husband because we don’t share the love of blogging, in all honesty it is quite a selfish hobby. I need to get that balance right. I have had to take a step back due to work commitments recently and I have come to realise it is very time consuming – but only if I let it be. I have to keep reminding myself that ultimately this is for me and not to get too carried away with visitor numbers and views etc. Thanks for your honesty and for expressing my feelngs as well. #bestandworst.

    • April 7, 2016 / 3:47 pm

      I agree it is quite a selfish hobby and I also need to spend more time with my husband of an evening. I think it’s just about reassessing your priorities isn’t it. I LOVE blogging and I love that I am doing something I am so passionate about, but I also love being a Mummy and a wife first and foremost. xx

  37. April 7, 2016 / 3:32 am

    Thanks for sharing on #overthemoon, I did enjoy our post and love the icecream face

  38. April 7, 2016 / 5:29 am

    You make some really good points here. Blogging should be about reflecting what happens in your life. When it starts to dictate what you’re actually doing, then the balance has shifted. The life depicted in the blog isn’t real anymore.

    • April 7, 2016 / 3:44 pm

      Absolutely, and I think the main thing for me is making sure that my blogging stays authentic. I would hate to feel that I had to claw together a blog post just to meet my quota for that week. Thanks for reading. xx

  39. entertainingelliot
    April 7, 2016 / 2:40 pm

    I loved reading this! I am constantly trying to keep up with the blogging world and although I try not to, I do compare myself with other bloggers. But sometimes its good to take a step back and actually enjoy life and not have to worry about writing a review or taking millions of photos! #madmidweek

    • April 7, 2016 / 3:42 pm

      A blogging break really is quite a relief isn’t it? Just to be able to breathe and not worry about the list of things you have to do. I am planning on taking a break over the school holidays next week and I’m really looking forward to just breathing again and hopefully return feeling much better about it all! Thanks for reading.

  40. April 7, 2016 / 8:01 pm

    I adore this post! I wrote something similar (but not as good!) a few weeks ago basically saying the same thing. Most of us start our blogs as a record of our lives and when they stop being a real reflection of that it feels like something is missing. There may be some hugely successful bloggers out there and many are brilliant, but I also know many who are struggling with not writing what they actually want to and that’s sad isn’t it? Your writing is fab and I think you’ve got a good attitude!xx

    • April 8, 2016 / 5:25 pm

      Ahh I’m sure it was (will check it out in a moment). I think that’s the real problem isn’t it, so many people are scared to say what they really want to say or admit that life isn’t as rosy as Instagram would have us believe. I sometimes worry that I am an over-sharer but I would rather that than feel I hadn’t been honest. Thank you for reading! xx

  41. April 7, 2016 / 8:14 pm

    I have similar thoughts on how some bloggers manage it all. Worse thing you.can do is compare, I just evaluate what time I want to put in. I don’t expect my blog to successful k just enjoy it takes the pain from some aspects of motherhood (cheap therapy). I limit the linkies etc I love the shitty side to parenting and tend to be drawn to the authentic author. I love mundane it makes me feel connected and OK as a parent. My home is mainly a mess I just don’t have the time. Sometimes we walk to the shop to get a chocolate bar to get out, that is how rock and roll I am. #mmdbh

    • April 8, 2016 / 5:18 pm

      That is exactly what I love about it! For me my blog is my therapy, and it actually really does work! You are so right, some days we don’t even get dressed and the most we will do is a trip to Tesco, where I sit in the car park and eat crisps while they nap in the back. I won’t ever feel pressured to be something I’m not or to pretend that life, or myself, is perfect. Thanks for reading! xx

  42. twotinyhands
    April 7, 2016 / 9:04 pm

    This is exactly where i am at at the moment! Thank you for writing this and sharing with #Abrandnewday. I love this little world of blogging that I’ve only been in six weeks. There are so many amazing stories and people sharing wonderful things that I feel selfish or guilty for not having the time to read and comment on everyone I’ve met blogs. But I have my Son, he takes priority and I think all our families take priority. I started out wanting to share my life and get better at writing, I have found much more, but I think I am starting to find a balance, I am sure it will change, I don’t want to give up! #abrandnewday!

    • April 8, 2016 / 5:14 pm

      I think you will naturally come to a point where you find your own balance. For me I started out with the blogging and it didn’t really impact on my time as I wasn’t engaging in social media and promoting myself on linkies, etc. Slowly that side of things does creep in and before you know it, it’s a full time job! Good luck finding your balance! xx

  43. April 7, 2016 / 9:28 pm

    This is a great post which a lot of mummys can relate to. I’m still new to the blogging world but can definitely see how it can take up a lot of time. I enjoy reading other peoples blogs to get an insight in to their world and to share their experiences, to me these are the best posts to read, so I don’t want to fall in to the trap of writing something for the sake of it. This definitely puts it all in to perspective x #bestandworst

    • April 8, 2016 / 4:24 pm

      That’s exactly how I feel, I would hate to have to write something just for the sake of it. If ever I find myself sat here thinking, what should I write, I know that it’s not the right time for me to be writing. When I have something to say it comes so easily, those are the posts that I enjoy writing, and reading. xx

  44. April 7, 2016 / 9:39 pm

    This is perfectly written and is so, so true!!! I don’t add to my diary, sorry ‘blog’ (I’m still a BW girl at heart 🙂 ) as much as I’d like to but I find myself taking loads of photos to remember a fun time, rather than just enjoying the fun. Would I forget it happening if I didn’t have the photos to remind me?? I think I probably would, far too much stuff going around in my head, life is just too much at times.

    • April 8, 2016 / 4:23 pm

      Haha I say that too! When I try and explain to my husband about the babyworld diaries he finds it hard to get his head around. I still have all of mine copied to a private wordpress account! Makes for interesting reading, ha! And I agree, I look back at photos and think I have no idea when that was taken but then it triggers a memory that was long forgotten. Life is most definitely too much at times!!! xx

  45. April 8, 2016 / 12:47 am

    You are probably more of a real blogger than you give yourself credit for! And kudos to you for choosing to enjoy those precious children while they are little!

    BTW, I found you over at the Mad Mid Week Blog Hop!!

    • April 8, 2016 / 4:20 pm

      Thank you, I have loved every minute of blogging this last 11 months but never realised just how time consuming it would become. In September my youngest will start nursery and I will have five whole hours a week to myself! If I can drag myself off the couch I’m sure I will get some real blogging done!! xx

  46. April 8, 2016 / 6:32 am

    I love this. This week I’ve been really busy with work (my paid job), and getting stressed that I haven’t written any posts! But I have to remind myself that I started my blog as a hobby and to help with stress, not add to it!

    • April 8, 2016 / 4:18 pm

      Definitely, I think if a hobby becomes stressful then it has crossed the line into something more. I LOVE writing, I don’t ever want to feel that I am losing that!! xx

  47. April 8, 2016 / 9:42 am

    Hi Laura, I think your post is spot on. There is no way I could have blogged when my two were small, but now they are older (my son is nineteen and my daughter sixteen) and don’t really need me unless they want something, so I do have more time. Although my family do come first, my blog never gets in the way of us sitting down as a family and eating and it never stops me spending time with my family in the evening when their homework and chores are done.

    I also wouldn’t let blogging interfere with my morning workout or walking group walks. Blogging can take over if we let it, it’s just a case of balance and priority. Our blogs will always be there, but our family will up and leave one day, so making memories should be priority whilst we can.

    xx

    • April 8, 2016 / 4:10 pm

      Yes! You’re so right! When blogging starts to impact on family life then you know that it’s taking over a little too much. I do try only to blog in the evening or when the children are asleep/out but I also like to be in bed early so try and fit it in the early evening where I can! I’m going to organise my time better for sure! xx

  48. April 8, 2016 / 2:48 pm

    I get very well what you say. I understand how you feel. I think it is very important to try to get a balance. I don’t publish a post every day because I can’t. I find the promoting part of blogging very hard to do. For me this is what all my time goes. Lately, there is always someone from my family that is ill each week (the girls, the hubby or me) which makes things even worst. Blogging is not easy at all. What I like the most of being a parent blogger is the possibility to combine both of the worlds that I like the most: blogging and being a parent. This is my ideal world and I’m working on it!! I think you are doing great job. Your writing is beautiful so keep doing it, 😉 Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I would love to see you again on Sunday! 🙂 x

    • April 8, 2016 / 4:08 pm

      Thank you so much, it often feels like I am two steps forward, three steps back. Ultimately, when the kids are in school, I would love for this to become something that I do more of but I agree, the self promotion is hard work and time consuming. I think it is most definitely about finding the right balance which differs from one blogger to the next. Thanks for reading. xxx

  49. April 8, 2016 / 5:09 pm

    Brilliant post! I thought I was just very badly organized that it can take almost a whole day to get a blog post done in little snippets! I can easily see how it’s a full time job for some people. I think it’s more important to enjoy what you’re writing and recording and like you say enjoy the actual moments as they happen. Your photos are great, very natural. I love the ice cream one, we all have a photo of ourselves looking like that at some point in our lives! #bestandworst

    • April 8, 2016 / 5:15 pm

      Thank you! I have plenty of those photos of my children, ice cream tends to get everywhere! I also think it’s so important to enjoy what you are writing, if you don’t enjoy it then there really is no point in pursuing it! Thanks for reading. xx

  50. April 8, 2016 / 7:46 pm

    I don’t have anything intelligent to say, but I love your blog. It is so readable, and genuine. And writing for the sake of writing, however, always sounds like what it is 🙂 That is not what you do!
    x Alice
    #kcacols

    • April 8, 2016 / 8:03 pm

      Thank you so much! That’s really lovely of you to say so. I am always aware that I post far less than some bloggers but then like you say, if I was to write for the sake of it I think it would be glaringly obvious! xx

  51. April 8, 2016 / 9:56 pm

    I can so resonate with this, when I was on mat leave my blog dominated but now not as much I’ve learnt to keep it more as a hobby.Thanks got sharing a great post #bestandworst

    • April 9, 2016 / 3:51 pm

      Yes I have no idea how anyone juggles an actual job and a blog!! I don’t work, although I do have three children at home each day, but I don’t even find the time to get dressed some days let alone get a post out!! Thanks for reading! xx

  52. Katie
    April 9, 2016 / 2:03 am

    So true so true – it would be fun to blog full time, but I don’t see I do what I can and this is my hobby when I have time. What you said was real and honest, and many women will appreciate that. Thanks for your post, found this at #OvertheMoon!

    • April 9, 2016 / 3:50 pm

      Thank you! I still don’t understand how people have enough hours in the day although I’m sure once my kids are in school I will find myself with much more free time on my hands!! Thanks for reading. xx

  53. RetroChicMama
    April 9, 2016 / 5:02 pm

    Sounds to me like you’ve got it all sorted, your blog is brilliant, your kids are gorgeous & you’re a terrific Mother!
    I know what you mean about time management though, it’s crazy how many hours go into one post. Which is exactly why I dropped back to only posting once a week since we started our loft conversion.
    With 3 children still very much dependent on me I found it impossible to publish my usual twice weekly & manage the build.
    As you say somethings gotta give & that shouldn’t be the kids.
    Love how you tell a story xxx

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:51 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m really flattered by your lovely comments. Once a week is achievable isn’t it? Even with children and renovations and life in the way. I try to stick to my once a week post, in a good week I post twice, but at the same time if a week goes by without me finding the time then I’m not going to beat myself up about it! Thanks again for reading. xx

  54. Nige
    April 9, 2016 / 8:55 pm

    Well done Laura another spot on post I often wonder where people get the time I have always felt it’s important to stay true why you started blogging and for me it’s similar to you the events of my family though the years.
    It’s a hobby first and foremost and kids come first with both my wife and me always will.
    I love reading your posts but I think you know, so happy I found your blog that totally awesome post again thanks for linking to the #binkylinky

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:50 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Nige, you are so incredibly supportive! That’s the best advice you could give any blogger isn’t it? Stay true to the reasons why you started. For me it wasn’t for financial profit or material gain, it was because I love to write and record our memories as the children grow. I can see how others deviate from those reasons but it is so important to me to stay true to mine. Thanks again. xx

  55. April 9, 2016 / 9:04 pm

    What a wonderful post – I am totally new to this but in the month I have been a ‘blogger’ I have been amazed at how much it seems to take over my life. I find myself chasing those page views and retweets, almost like I would chase a chocolate bar. But like you I am quickly realising that I can let being a mummy blogger get in the way of being a mummy.

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:48 pm

      It’s hard work isn’t it!! If you allow yourself to get consumed in Twitter and Instagram and the countless linkies, it DOES take over!! I think it is still possible to be successful without all of that, if you are good at what you do then I believe that you will always succeed in one way or another. xx

  56. April 9, 2016 / 10:05 pm

    Laura, you’ve summed up perfectly in a post, the thoughts and realisation that have been swirling around in my mind for the last few weeks. I feel like at times I’ve been fighting a battle with myself, getting so consumed with blogging that I’ve compensated and sacrificed time with my family which just doesnt feel right. So right now, im trying to find the balance between work, blogging and family and not be so consumed when I dont need to be. Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:47 pm

      It has been so refreshing to read all of these comments and see that at some point in their blogging career, everyone has felt the same way. I think once a hobby stops being fun then it has crossed the line into something more, I want to make sure that I stay in love with my blog and my writing whilst giving my children all of the attention they need while they are young. Thanks for hosting. xx

  57. April 10, 2016 / 8:43 am

    Brilliant post! I can really relate to you, and I just remind myself that despite the many roles I play in the drama that is my life, mummy is the most fulfilling and important one. But at the same time hobbies, interests and my work have their importance too…. it’s just as you say, the key is in the balance. Xxx #binkylinky

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:45 pm

      Absolutely, and I think for our own sanity it is so important to have hobbies and interests aswell as being a Mummy, but yes, it’s about getting the balance right. My blog is so therapeutic to me, I need that time and that opportunity to write everything down, even if just once a week. xx

  58. randommusings29
    April 10, 2016 / 2:47 pm

    I don’t even have children and I sometimes struggle to fit everything in and start to feel like blogging has taken over my life, so I salute all the mums out there who do this and be a mother! I agree it’s about finding a balance you are comfortable with and that fits in with your life
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes
    Debbie

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:43 pm

      You’re right, and that balance is very different from one blogger to the next. For me I accept that my writing will have to take a back seat to the kids while they are younger but in years to come, when they are in full time education, I will have precious time to write and possibly further my career. I’m more than happy to wait it out though! xx

  59. April 10, 2016 / 3:55 pm

    Great post! It can be so hard to get that life/blog balance right. I love writing about my life with my daughter, but sometimes I find the endless posting/social media-ing/commenting exhausting. There are nights when I sit at my laptop when my baby goes to bed instead of hanging out with my husband. I’ve never wanted to be a professional blogger – I just want to write and enjoy it. #justanotherlinky

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:42 pm

      Yes!! Like now, here I am catching up on the computer when I could be hanging with my husband! It’s very easy to “nip on” to the computer and be here hours later, I really have given myself ten minutes to read my latest comments and a quick browse of twitter!! xx

  60. April 10, 2016 / 4:12 pm

    I love this. I love your writing and I think your blog is fab; you are totally right that there is no point being a mummy blogger and missing out on being a mummy. I started my blog purely because I was writing things down anyway so it made sense to share it and if anyone else enjoyed it that was a bonus. I don’t blog that often or promote myself much, and I know I could put just a bit more time in and reap the rewards but I don’t want it to become a chore. My boy is only going to be a baby for such a short time I want all the cuddles, giggles and storytime I can get! #JustAnotherLinky

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:41 pm

      Ahh thank you!! Sounds like you’ve definitely found the right balance, I think that’s the main thing isn’t it? Finding something that works for you at whatever stage of life you are at! Thanks for reading. xx

  61. April 10, 2016 / 7:01 pm

    I blog in the evenings and whilst my girls are in nursery. I tend to write a number of posts in one go so that I can schedule them. I post everyday, but I’m always a month in advance because I write a few posts at a time. Great post. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:40 pm

      I think that is where I’m going wrong, I never schedule posts because I never get the time to write more than one! In September when my daughters are in school and pre-school and my youngest is in nursery I will definitely have the time to do this, thanks for reading! xx

  62. April 10, 2016 / 7:30 pm

    After 118 comments it feels a little redundant to add mine but still I do as part of the commitment to the linkies I have inflicted my posts on and as a dutiful member of the blogging community!

    I understand what you say about feeling the pressure from other blogs, the need to feel as though you are doing half as much as the big names and blogging heroes. That’s why I really liked the post by Mum in Brum on not being a blogger that posts everyday. If you’re doing it for you then the only person applying pressure to perform miracles is you!

    As for the juggling multiple social accounts…there are tricks and automated ways to make it easier. I’d been drafting a post about that for work but I may adapt it for more general blogging.

    You don’t need me to tell to you you’re doing great but I will anyway! You’re doing great as you are that’s why you get nominated for a blogging award!

    #BloggerClubUK
    #BestandWorst
    #PoCoLo

    • April 10, 2016 / 7:39 pm

      Haha I always value your opinion, thank you for taking the time to comment. I would be really interested in your tricks to juggle social accounts, that is something that I really am quite clueless about! And as always, thank you!! xx

      • April 10, 2016 / 7:52 pm

        The short version is making use of IFTTT to connect different accounts and get them to talk to each other e.g. every time you post a WP blog it gets posted up on Pinterest or each time you pin something it gets shared on Twitter at the same time.

  63. April 11, 2016 / 8:02 am

    Love this post! Spot on all of it! It is so hard not to get swallowed up by it all. Sometimes we are so busy with our blogging life that if we aren’t careful it can take over our real life. At the moment I am writing a post everyday but I fit that in with the children, when they are having a nap or when I should be doing the housework. However, there will come a day when I can’t write everyday or don’t have anything to write and then I will just roll with it. Life if is to short to be stressing about your instagram feed or what you are putting on your blog 🙂

    • April 11, 2016 / 8:12 pm

      Haha yes, my house work really does get neglected in favour of my blog!! When the kids nap and I should be cleaning I find myself at the computer tapping away and by the time they wake up there’s no time for cleaning!! Xx

  64. April 11, 2016 / 8:07 pm

    I think you’ve hit the nail on the head in many ways here… the pictures that really make smile are the ones captured naturally, the ones with the chocolate on their faces, the piles of clutter in the background! Our little girl is 6 and at weekends, after school or in the holidays, if she wants to play with me, I down tools and off I go into her magical childhood world… and then I might blog about it 😉 #anythinggoes

    • April 11, 2016 / 8:09 pm

      Yes! So many bloggers seem to like in pristine houses don’t they? Where are the toys all over the floor, the piles of washing on the kitchen table, the handprints on every surface? I much prefer the real photos, the real accounts of life as a parent where everything isn’t rosy and life is bloody hard work at times!! Thanks for reading. Xx

  65. Becky, Cuddle Fairy
    April 12, 2016 / 11:43 am

    Blogging definitely is time-consuming. I don’t know how the top bloggers do it all. I never have enough time for everything. I tend to be up late to get things done because like you I don’t want to sacrifice time with my kids to blog. I wouldn’t like to get to the point of driving around & putting different outfits on to create blog posts, luckily I have the opposite problem – I have a list of things to write but no time to do it. Thanks so much for joining us for #bloggerclubuk, hope you will be back again tomorrow! x

    • April 14, 2016 / 12:13 pm

      Me too! I find myself still getting through my list at 10pm and realising I haven’t made the packed lunches for the next day or ironed the uniforms!! And I totally agree, to create a life that you haven’t even lived just to share on a blog is madness, but also sad that others may feel they have to constantly churn out these posts to keep any interest. For me, I think I’ve struck the right balance now, writing when the feeling takes me or when I have the time! Thanks for reading, will be back next week! xx

  66. Morgan Prince
    April 13, 2016 / 8:36 pm

    Oh my goodness Laura, this post is totally right. Blogging is great, it’s a chance for us to share our lives and document our daily antics. But… it shouldn’t be taking OVER our lives. I’ve struggled with this on occasion. I decided a long time ago that there was a line I wouldn’t cross and I haven’t. My family comes first, every single day.
    Good for you. xxx
    Thanks for linking to #PoCoLo

    • April 14, 2016 / 12:04 pm

      It’s so important to get that balance right isn’t it? We have just had a lovely trip away with my eldest and other than a couple of photos shared on FB and Instagram, I didnt even check in with my blog. I always want to give my children my full attention when they need it, not to be juggling so many things all the time. Being a mummy is hard enough without pressures from everything else, I think I have found a healthy balance that keeps us all happy! Thanks for reading. xxx

  67. April 15, 2016 / 1:31 pm

    I can relate to this so much – it’s so difficult to find the right balance for you. Whenever I find I’m getting too caught up in blog stuff, or feeling the pressure too much, I try to remind myself why I started, which was both to capture our family life, and as a means of expressing my thoughts on things. Once I’m missing out on too much family stuff, then I find I need to rein it back a bit. We had a trip to the zoo for my little boy’s 2nd birthday last weekend, and I didn’t even take the camera – it was kind of liberating!

    • April 15, 2016 / 7:35 pm

      Haha I totally get that!!! To just enjoy the moment and not take photos really is liberating, and so much more enjoyable isn’t it? I’m always there on Christmas morning and birthdays with the camera and you miss out on the moment somehow. Thanks for reading!! Xx

  68. April 16, 2016 / 12:04 am

    I think it can be easy to get caught up in the whirlwind that is the ultra-competitive blogging world. But, like so many things in life, you have to decide what the right balance is for you.

    At the risk of sounding pretentious (yeah, I know, too late), I don’t really consider myself to be a ‘blogger’ in the same sense of the word as many others. I don’t blog for income or for rankings or anything like that. I have a creative need that just happens to manifest itself most comfortably in the form of a blog. But I’m a writer first and a blogger second. Scribo ergo sum – I write therefore I am. In fact, more recently, I’ve discovered that I’m not even just a writer. I’ve grown to love doing my podcast and writing (and performing, badly) parody songs. I’m not especially good at either, but they’re things I love to do that have arisen out of the blog. That makes me happy.

    • April 16, 2016 / 7:40 pm

      I completely agree, I’m a writer first, a blogger second. I think for some people that is reversed but for me, I’ve always been a writer. I love that you do the parody songs, such good fun and so creative!!

  69. newmummyblogcom
    April 16, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    I completely agree, its so hard to get it right, and not put the pressure on yourself. I do find it hard sometimes and, get stressed, and get a bit overwhelmed and in those cases I’ve not pushed to choose a favourite on #thebabyformula because I want to give every post the value it deserves and read them all slowly and carefully, taking in every word, writing a comment I really mean. I could never blog every day either, and don’t think many of us really could without sacrificing that all important mummy time. This is the whole reason I started craft night, as I didn’t want every night to just be blogging/commenting/reading…. it doesn’t get the cleaning or hoovering done, but I find I get that done well if I have a good (tight!) deadline lol!

    Now I apologise for such a long comment, but I completely understand your points and am so glad you’re finding a better balance… and yes, you’re right, don’t go missing little one’s bedtimes – that’s far more important x

    #thebabyformula

    • April 17, 2016 / 2:12 pm

      I always think it must be so difficult hosting a linky, I admire you all greatly!! It’s so hard as a parent when you’re juggling so many balls in the air and eventually something has to give. Once my children start school I’m going to have so much more time to work on my blog and take it further, I like to think of this time as simply laying the foundations. Thanks for hosting. Xx

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