BiBs 2017 Finalist – Inspire

There are many things in life that I strive to be – a loving Mother, a good wife and daughter, a true friend. Yet of all the things that we can be, I think one of the greatest things in life is to be an inspiration.

As a Mummy of five, I try very hard, not only to be a good role model to my children but, to inspire them daily. Two years ago when I started writing my blog I did it with the aim that one day, in many, many, years to come, my children may look back on our memories and find inspiration, not only in my successes but also in my failings.

It took me a long time to realise that you can be an inspiration without the need for perfection. Sitting here at 37 with a failed marriage behind me, a lengthy record of mental illness, a thousand different mistakes and many more regrets, I am far from perfect.

I have never denied the fact that during the darkest moments of my life, when we lost fifteen much wanted babies to miscarriage or our precious son Joseph to stillbirth, when I battled it out in an eating disorders unit and struggled to cope with post natal depression, I couldn’t see a way forward. I reached a point where I was completely lost and uninspired.

Even now, having survived the worst of times, I am surprised when others commend me on my positive attitude to life, especially when I am still so often blinded by my own sadness and grief. I am stunned when I am told that my story  has helped others, despite my struggles with anxiety and self doubt. And I am speechless to learn that friends, family, and complete and utter strangers, consider me an inspiration, tell me that my story has inspired them, and that during the darkest moments of their lives, they have been comforted by the story of mine.

Yesterday I received the news that I have been named as a finalist for the BiBs 2017 blogging awards in the category of “Inspire”, and never for one moment did I assume that I would receive a nomination, let alone make it as a finalist! I have been so touched by the reactions from other bloggers, those whom I love and admire, who tell me, “I nominated you!”, “You deserve this!”, and the most wonderful message from a blogging friend of mine who wrote, “You are an ordinary person who has done extraordinary things.”

Although I will always struggle to believe that others see me in this way, what I do believe is that there is so much of the extraordinary in the ordinary moments.

And these days, when I look into the eyes of my children, the four rainbows in my arms and precious little Joseph in my heart, I am filled with inspiration. If I do nothing else in this life, I have already achieved so much. I have my family, I have hope and I have happiness, and that is something that I will continue to share so readily.

I find it extremely difficult to ask for votes in situations like this. I am of the belief that if you win something you should do that through hard work, not popularity; and if somebody votes for you it should be because they believe you deserve it, not because you have asked them to. So in that way I won’t solicit your votes, nor will I fool you into thinking that I deserve to win any more than the wonderful and inspirational bloggers in my category, but I will leave the link here and, should you wish to, I would be very grateful of your support.

VOTE HERE

Regardless of who takes home the prize at the end of the Summer, regardless of whether I am hailed the most inspirational blogger of 2017 or not, it doesn’t matter. The fact that somebody, even if just one of you, finds inspiration in my posts, I’m happy with that. If someone who is struggling with mental illness reaches out and asks for help, that’s the most I could ask for.  If a grieving Mother or Father finds hope in my story, then I’ll take that and I’ll run with it.

Because for me, being inspirational isn’t about winning; it’s about sharing the highs and the lows, sharing a little happiness and hope, sharing the moments that have restored my faith in miracles, the fact that despite so much tragedy and heartache, I am exactly where I am meant to be.

Being a finalist is a huge honour but I can’t take the credit for this personally. This one is for the biggest inspiration in my life – my beautiful children Lewis, Eva, Megan and Harry, and the most perfect little boy who inspires me every single day.

For Joseph, you have made me every piece of who I am.

 

 

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119 Comments

  1. Farmerswifeandmummy
    June 20, 2017 / 7:12 pm

    I am so pleased for you. Very well deserved and yay for north west bloggers 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:35 pm

      Ahh thank you so much! xxx

  2. Lizzie
    June 20, 2017 / 7:29 pm

    You’re real and that’s why I love your posts. Especially your fab Instagram pics and captions. I can tell how pleased from this, it’s so lovely and I wish you all the luck in the world! We can have a nice glass of wine together on the night at the ceremony x

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:35 pm

      Thank you Lizzie, that’s so kind of you to say. I don’t have a ticket yet but I am going to bite the bullet and get one bought. It will be so nice to meet you! xxx

  3. June 20, 2017 / 8:40 pm

    I hope one day you believe you deserve it, because you really do. You are a complete inspiration to many of us ♥

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:34 pm

      Ahh thank you so much lovely, that’s so kind of you to say. xxx

  4. June 21, 2017 / 5:47 am

    You are absolutely right. There is no need for perfection to become an inspiration. Just flow naturally–and the miracles will happen on each step.

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:21 pm

      Very true, and I have four miracles here to prove that! xx

  5. June 21, 2017 / 7:25 am

    You genuinely do deserve it – well done & fingers crossed 🙂 x

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:18 pm

      Thank you, that is so kind of you to say xxx

  6. June 21, 2017 / 7:28 am

    What a beautifully written post – you deserve that nomination so much and I wish you all the luck 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:17 pm

      Thank you so much Helen. xxx

  7. June 21, 2017 / 10:30 am

    Amazing news darling and so very well deserved….off to vote now! xoxo

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:17 pm

      Thank you so much Talya, I was SO shocked! xxx

  8. June 21, 2017 / 11:00 am

    Huge congratulations and so very much deserved. Good luck with the voting x

    • Laura Dove
      June 21, 2017 / 4:17 pm

      Thank you so much Cathy. xxx

  9. Chelsea Elizabeth
    June 21, 2017 / 4:34 pm

    You definitely deserve that nomination! Wishing you the very best of luck! Fingers crossed for you.

  10. June 21, 2017 / 5:17 pm

    Wow. I hardly even know you and am already inspired by reading this post. I can feel your positive energy! Congrats on being selected and hope you win.

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:10 am

      Thank you so much! That’s such a kind thing to say. xxx

  11. June 21, 2017 / 5:42 pm

    I love this so much! Just reading this has inspired me, so I hope you bring home that prize, I’ll be sure to vote for you. Keep doing you and being awesome!

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:09 am

      Ahh thank you, that means a lot to me. xx

  12. June 21, 2017 / 6:09 pm

    You genuinely deserve this nomination. You’re honest and real and that’s what I love about your blog. Good luck lovely x

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:09 am

      Ahh thank you so much, I really do appreciate that. xxx

  13. June 21, 2017 / 8:12 pm

    First, Congratulations! and I am so happy reading this because you are a positive, inspiring and awesome mom. All of your children are so blessed to have you. I have voted for you as well. http://www.clairebearblogs.com

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:06 am

      Ahh thank you so much Claire, that means a lot to me. xxx

  14. June 21, 2017 / 8:51 pm

    Congratulations on being a finalists, what an amazing achievement.
    And what a touching post – so honest and true, you definitely are an inspiration x #Bloggerclubuk

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:06 am

      Thank you so much. xxx

  15. June 21, 2017 / 9:43 pm

    Well I did nominate you but in another category. Who cares, you got shortlisted and it would have been a crime if you hadn’t. How you pulled this amazing post together so fast is beyond me. Best of luck lovely.

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:05 am

      Ahh thank you so much Prabs, I am still so shocked! Haha I know, I realised that the voting window was very small and as cringeworthy as I find it to write anything like this, I just went with it, I suppose you have to! Good luck to you! xxx

  16. June 22, 2017 / 3:18 am

    As I read your blog today, you may feel that you don’t deserve the nomination. But the fact that you’ve touches many hearts and became an inspiration, you truly deserve it. Congratulations.

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:04 am

      Ahh thank you so much, I really appreciate that. xx

  17. June 22, 2017 / 6:48 am

    Congratulations, a very well deserved finalist. Good luck and see you there 🙂

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:03 am

      Thank you Kara, I still haven’t got my ticket but I am hoping to be there! xx

  18. June 22, 2017 / 8:06 am

    This nomination is so well deserved. As someone who has also suffered from PND, Anxiety and experienced miscarriage you are incredibly inspiring. Your strength after so many difficult times is wonderful. Best of luck with the awards xxx

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 8:11 am

      Thank you so much Laura. I’m so sorry to hear that you can relate, it’s impossibly hard at times isn’t it? Love to you. xx

  19. June 22, 2017 / 8:39 am

    Very well deserved! Well done x #Stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 9:13 am

      Thank you so much Helen! xx

  20. June 22, 2017 / 9:21 am

    You deserve it, Laura. I enjoy reading every post of yours and yes my vote is definitely for you

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 9:47 am

      Ah Rishi, thank you so much – you’re so lovely. xxx

  21. June 22, 2017 / 3:11 pm

    Well done on being a finalist! What great news and such a well earned title. Good luck and you are winner anyway in my eyes. Elinor x

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 6:19 pm

      Ahh thank you so much, that’s so lovely of you to say. xxx

  22. June 22, 2017 / 5:16 pm

    I was so pleased when I saw your name on the list! You are a brilliant blogger and truly inspirational! You have such a wonderful gift for crafting words to capture the moments and feelings so perfectly. Congratulations on being a finalist! #stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      June 22, 2017 / 6:18 pm

      Ahh thank you so much, I really do appreciate that! It’s a huge honour to be amongst so many amazing names!! Tough competition! xxx

  23. June 22, 2017 / 6:33 pm

    I voted for you already. I absolutely adore your blog and you really are an inspiration. You are such a lovely mum and you have such a beautiful family. I also find you so honest and your awareness posts have really helped me in the past. xx

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 8:47 am

      Ahhh thank you so much Chloe. That’s so lovely of you to say!! I always struggle with something like this as I’m not sure I will ever feel “worthy”, but when it comes to Joseph I will give it my best shot…although the competition is SO tough! xxx

  24. Ali Rost
    June 23, 2017 / 5:16 am

    Laura, this is simply the best. So many congratulations! Yes, you’ve had struggles, and that has to be why so many people nominated you .. because you’re an inspiration. It’s ok to simply let it wash over you and to be happy. Nicely done .. so nicely done!

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 8:42 am

      Thank you so much Ali, I really appreciate that. It’s a huge compliment that others feel that way and has really given me a much needed boost! xx

  25. June 23, 2017 / 5:20 am

    A huge congratulations even if you don’t think you inspire many you do and solely deserve this nomination if not a win. Well done you

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 8:41 am

      Ahh thank you so much Anosa. xxx

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 8:39 am

      Thank you so much! xx

  26. June 23, 2017 / 10:27 am

    I have loved finding your blog and you inspire so many including me I will be voting now and well done it is really deserved #thatfridaylinky

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 1:43 pm

      Thank you so much Sarah. xxx

  27. June 23, 2017 / 11:00 am

    I love your blog and it’s heartbreaking to know what you’ve lost but inspiring to read your words and find positivity, truth and love in what you do. #StayClassyMama

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 1:42 pm

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate that. xxx

  28. June 23, 2017 / 11:44 am

    Such a much deserved nomination. 🙂 All the best for the awards. Hope you win

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 1:42 pm

      Thank you so much !xx

  29. June 23, 2017 / 4:59 pm

    Congratulations, Laura! Very well deserved! #thatfridaylinky

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 6:47 pm

      Thank you Nicole! xx

  30. June 23, 2017 / 5:04 pm

    Congratulations on being a finalist. That is quite an honor. You do an amazing job and you definitely inspire others to keep going. Keep up the great work!!

    • Laura Dove
      June 23, 2017 / 6:46 pm

      Thank you David, much appreciated! xx

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:43 pm

      Ahh thank you so much, that’s so lovely of you to say. xx

  31. June 23, 2017 / 9:00 pm

    Very well worthy of being nominated lovely. I will head over and vote!! Thanks for linking up lovely #bestandworst

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:41 pm

      Thank you so much Helen! xxx

  32. June 24, 2017 / 12:52 am

    many congrats to you on being there, not many will get the opportunity so for you its a blessing and a plus. here is big hugs to more success stories and achievements for you.

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:38 pm

      Thank you, I am very proud of my little blog right now! xx

  33. June 24, 2017 / 3:39 am

    What a beautiful family

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:38 pm

      Thank you! xx

  34. June 24, 2017 / 7:59 am

    So pleased for you. You are a huge inspiration to both your children and to other women out there. You Rock!
    #stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:35 pm

      Thank you so much Liz, I really appreciate that! xx

  35. Sarah Ann
    June 24, 2017 / 12:23 pm

    Congratulations – I so pleased for you. I think it is wonderful when people use their experiences and mistakes along the way to help and inspire others because none of us are perfect. You should be so proud!

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:33 pm

      Thank you so much, I feel very proud! xx

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:31 pm

      Ahh thank you Jayne. xxx

  36. June 24, 2017 / 6:39 pm

    A massive congratulations, and so totally deserved! I’ve always found your posts inspirational, you totally deserve this. xxx #stayclassymama

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:29 pm

      Thank you so much! xx

  37. June 24, 2017 / 6:57 pm

    Well done! It’s so deserved! Good luck! Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:28 pm

      Good luck! xx

  38. June 25, 2017 / 8:19 am

    Well laura all I can say it’s about time and you have my vote 110% really hope you win good luck Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

    • Laura Dove
      June 25, 2017 / 3:23 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Nige, I really appreciate that! The competition is strong but just getting to the finals is such an honour! xx

  39. June 25, 2017 / 4:21 pm

    I’m so proud of you my wonderful friend. You know I nominated you and you 100% get my vote! You inspire me every single day and my life would be greyer without you in it. We will share a glass of something sparkly tomorrow to celebrate xx

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 7:19 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Laura, right back at you. What would I do without you, hey? xxx

  40. Tim
    June 25, 2017 / 5:13 pm

    Really pleased to see your name on the list, Laura. Best of luck!

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 7:18 pm

      Thank you Tim, and yours too! Good luck! xx

  41. June 26, 2017 / 4:02 am

    A massive congratulations, we will be keeping our fingers and toes crossed for you.

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 7:07 pm

      Thank you so much! xx

  42. June 26, 2017 / 8:02 am

    Just beautifully, beautifully said. You are such an inspiration and Joseph would have been so so proud of you, Laura xx congratulations my lovely and I can’t wait to meet you in September xx #postsfromtheheart

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 7:06 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Helen, I so hope that he is proud of me, wherever he may be. Congratulations to you, I am so looking forward to meeting you and seeing you take that prize!! xxx

  43. June 26, 2017 / 9:02 am

    My wife has struggled with various mental illnesses for the last 7 years; from depression to anxiety, and agorophobia to anorexia. She had to be submitted as an inpatient for 5 months, away from her children and all the people she loved. The reason why you and she inspire me every day, is that at no point, no matter how overwhelmingly enticing it may have been, you and she didn’t succomb. Unlike the 3 people who killed themselves or died while she was on the ward, you and she managed to hold on to hope and belief that there was a way out, and kept moving forward. You don’t have to rule the world, or win sporting accolades to inspire someone, it’s those little acts of courage, in the face of absolute adversity, that inspire others. #GlobalBlogging

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 7:05 pm

      Oh this made me so emotional, I am so sorry to hear about your wife but what a strong, courageous woman she sounds. I spent time as an in patient also and witnessed several of my friends in the hospital take their own life or die as a result of their mental illness, and it was horrific. I think you are totally right, inspiration is so much more than we believe it to be. The people who inspire me are the ones who keep going, even when it’s really tough, and who show kindness and compassion even when they are struggling so much with their own issues. Thank you so much for a lovely comment and sending love and strength to you and your wonderful wife. xxx

  44. June 26, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    That’s amazing. Many congratulations and you sure have my vote. Hope to see you there. Thank you for sharing with #StayClassyMama

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 7:00 pm

      Awww thank you so much! I am so looking forward to meeting you! xx

  45. Fancy
    June 26, 2017 / 6:39 pm

    Congratulations and I voted for you! #bigpinklink

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 6:59 pm

      Oh bless you, thank you so much! xx

  46. June 27, 2017 / 1:07 pm

    You, Mrs Dove, are an inspiration. There’s not a lot else to say really. I’ve voted. I am privileged to call you a friend.xx Thanks for joining #bigpinklink x

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 6:53 pm

      Ahhh Gem, I love you so much!! Thank you. xx

  47. June 27, 2017 / 1:14 pm

    Oh yay! What a fitting category for you. I’m so delighted & wish you the best of luck in the finals. Being there as a finalist will be so fun 🙂 Thank you for sharing with us at #BloggerClubUK xx

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 6:52 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Becky, I’m very excited about it! xx

  48. June 27, 2017 / 6:58 pm

    And this post sums up exactly why you deserve to be there, and why, my darling lady, you are a clear winner for me! #FabFridayPost xxx

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 6:51 pm

      Ahhh thank you so, so much. That’s so kind of you. xxx

  49. June 28, 2017 / 7:05 am

    I have voted for you! Your blog has been an inspiration for me and I have enjoyed reading it over the last year, I admire your writing and your strength! Thanks for sharing with #StayClassyMama!

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 6:46 pm

      Ahh thank you so so much! xxx

  50. June 28, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    So very well deserved – your blog is truly inspirational and I wish you all the luck in the world. I’m up for Fresh Voice so I really hope I will meet you at the awards ceremony. I’m just flabberghasted that I made it this far but over the moon. We can have a few glasses of fizz whatever happens! #postsfromtheheart

    • Laura Dove
      June 28, 2017 / 6:44 pm

      Ah thank you so much Susie. Congratulations to you too! It will be so lovely to meet you, and yes – a few glasses of fizz sounds perfect! xx

  51. June 29, 2017 / 6:04 am

    Congratulations and good luck in the competition! It’s genuinely deserved, so don’t feel guilty for asking for votes – I hope you win x #DreamTeam x

    • Laura Dove
      June 29, 2017 / 9:07 am

      Ahh thank you so much. xxx

  52. June 29, 2017 / 8:20 am

    So well deserved Laura, you are inspiring – good luck lovely. Sarah #FabFridayPost

    • Laura Dove
      June 29, 2017 / 9:05 am

      Thank you so much. xx

  53. June 29, 2017 / 9:42 am

    Congratulations Laura! You have my vote for sure! Good luck my dear! xx #FabFridayPost

    • Laura Dove
      June 29, 2017 / 5:09 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Su! xx

  54. June 29, 2017 / 2:25 pm

    You absolutely deserve to win this. You’re a huge inspiration. I often read your posts and wonder how you do it, you’ve dealt with so much

    • Laura Dove
      June 29, 2017 / 5:08 pm

      Thank you so much Jenny, that is so kind of you. xxx

  55. July 1, 2017 / 3:18 pm

    Congrats to beautiful you and your beautiful blog!
    #globalblogging

    • Laura Dove
      July 2, 2017 / 6:48 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Kristin. xx

  56. July 2, 2017 / 9:03 am

    I love your blog Laura, it’s always so inspiring and real. I can see exactly why you are a finalist for this category and you absolutely have our vote. Crossing everything for you #DreamTeam xx

    • Laura Dove
      July 2, 2017 / 6:44 pm

      Ahh thank you so much Annette, I really appreciate that. xxx

  57. July 2, 2017 / 7:19 pm

    I nominated you too! Really hope you win – you deserve it! #postsfromtheheart

    • Laura Dove
      July 3, 2017 / 5:12 pm

      Ahh thank you so much. xxx

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